Live stress free with these 10 great tips

Do you want to live stress free? Then you are in the right place because I’m about to share with you easy tips you can start using right now to live stress free.

 

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I too used to want to live stress free. But at the time, I was riddled with so much stress that the notion to live stress free seemed far fetched.

There was so much going on in my life. I wanted so many things that I didn’t have. And the things that I did have didn’t seem to be helping much to achieve the ones I wanted.

I had too much going on in my head. I stressed about my present and my future too much I couldn’t concentrate on anything long enough to finish it.

This struggle remained even long after I made the decision to start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

But right now as I write this, I’m confident that I have let go of stress and now live stress free.

It was hard at first letting go of stress because I’d gotten so accustomed to it that it was a legitimate part of my life.

But I can tell you right now that my life is much better without stress and I look forward to every coming day and whatever it brings; pleasures and discomforts.

You can live stress free too, and here’s how:

 

  • Tip #1: Read the word of God

This is the best tip to live stress free. The word of God is soothing in a truthful way.

It lets you know that you are loved beyond explanation by our father, and also offers counsel. You can’t go wrong if you stick to it.

2 Timothy 3 v 16: Everything in the Scriptures is God’s word. All of it is useful for teaching and helping people and for correcting them and showing them how to live. (CEV)

You can trust the word of God to always tell you the truth. It doesn’t manipulate you by telling you only what you want to hear. So you can trust it to always be honest with you.

Now you can tailor your life to go in step with God’s counsel. If you do that, you are more than guaranteed to live stress free.

Read 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 7 easy steps to help you find rest in God.

 

  • Tip #2: Re-examine you values

Or examine them for the first time. It’s easy to assume that every one is aware of their values. But some people just live unaware of their values.

Consciously re-examine your values. Your values will always make it clear to you what you want in life.

Now that you are clear on your values, you can begin to pinpoint the things you should do away with.

Those things will highly likely be your stressors, so this tips is extremely important if you want to live stress free.

 

  • Tip # 3: Forgive yourself

You can’t begin to live stress free if you can’t forgive yourself. You are swimming in guilt or regrets and therefore you have too much stress on your hands.

Remember life is for everyone to enjoy. And it’s a journey, not a destination. Just because you took a detour to the wrong side doesn’t mean you can’t find your way back to the right path.

Work toward becoming a better person. Let your mistakes be life lessons. Everyone makes mistakes, remember that.

Let the mistakes of your past be your past, and those include the mistakes you made yesterday because now they are in the past.

 

  • Tip #4: Forgive others

Just as it’s important to forgive yourself, it’s equally important that you forgive others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Others are just as worthy of forgiveness as you are. Forgiving others frees you more than it frees them.

I’m sure you know what I mean. Have you ever been in the same room as a friend who wronged you a few months ago?

You are still pouting and sulking in the corner and they are laughing with everybody else and having a good time?

I know the feeling. And it just makes you look and feel stupid. Forgive others and free yourself to also enjoy yourself at all times.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

  • Tip #5: Accept your life just the way it is

Yes. This is also very important if you want to live stress free.

So what if your life is pretty bad right now? I know you are wondering about that.

Then accept it just the way it is. Accepting it doesn’t mean settling in it. It means consciously acknowledging it instead of running away from it in denial.

Whatever your life circumstances, accept them. If you’ve been in jail, or you are in jail, accept that.

If you’ve been an abusive spouse, then accept that.

Only when you accept your life circumstances can you begin to take steps to improve them. This will definitely help you to live stress free.

 

  • Tip #6: Think the best of every situation

I don’t care what it is. Divorce, disease, failing at school, getting fired from work, you name it.

These are bad situations, I know. But it’s the bad situations that always teach us the best lessons in life as long as we don’t play the victim but accept them.

So always see the best of whatever situation you find yourself in. I guarantee that this will help you live stress free.

 

  • Tip #7: Be present in everything you do

It’s easy to be preoccupied with other things while we are doing one thing, and this elevates stress.

If you are washing dishes, but now you are worried about paying the bills and the kids’ tuition, and the mortgage, then stress is bound to overwhelm you.

Instead, learn to be present in what you are doing. You can teach yourself to think of only washing the dishes.

You can compartmentalize everything so that you don’t let your stressors dominate all your time. This way you don’t let stress prevent you from being productive.

Read 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.

 

  • Tip #8: Leave the future where it’s supposed to be, in the future

Don’t stress about the unreal. Everything in the future is unreal; have you ever thought about that? That wedding you are planning for Christmas, it’s unreal. That house you are going to buy next summer, that’s unreal.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan for them. But you should remember that tomorrow is unknown and things might turn out differently than you thought, or they might not even happen at all.

So, in this midst of the unknown, why stress? No, focus on what you can do now and leave the future to God to handle.

 

  • Tip #9: Declutter your life

And do this in every way imaginable if you want to live stress free. People have a lot of stress because they have a lot of material, mental, emotional, financial, intellectual and social clutter. If only they could declutter their lives.

You don’t need all those other things outside of your basic needs. Stop hoarding stuff because managing it means stress. Simplify your life in the best possible way.

Soon I’ll dedicate an entire to post to decluttering your life, so please keep following my posts.

 

  • Tip #10: Be grateful

I’m surprised by people who roll their eyes at this tip. Don’t underestimate the significance of gratitude if you want to live stress free.

Most people can’t get out of stress because instead of being grateful for the good things in their lives, they are busy whining about the bad things in their lives.

Sometimes they whine even about the good things because they’ve become blind to how lucky they are.

If you are like that, it’s time to change. Gratitude is the best antidote for stress, so take a spoonful and live stress free.

 

The final word

The decision to live stress free is well within your reach; you just have to make it. If you are used to living with stress, then the thought that you can live stress free can seem inconceivable and unreal at first.

But it is your right as a child of God to live stress free and enjoy the life God has blessed you with.

Many people have died and many are dying right now, so you are blessed to still be alive. Don’t let one more moment of your life go wasted as you wallow in stress.

You can make a choice to be happy from this moment forth. All it takes is a decision to be happy. I recommend 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

Also check out how to be free from anger.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? Are you trying to live stress free? Then please share with us how you are going about doing that.

 

 

 

 

How to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships

You can make a decision to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships right now.

Remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

But if you realize that a relationship is anything but healthy, and you feel like you are being violated, then it’s time to take a step.

So how exactly do you do that?

 

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  • Have the right intentions for getting involved with other people

Your own selfish intentions about starting relationships can be the ones making it difficult for you to avoid being taken advantage of.

If you are in a relationship for money, for example, then it’s easy to succumb to abuse, as long as you get the money you are looking for.

To avoid being taken advantage of, go into your relationships based only on love  and all the other right intentions of trust, genuine companionship, honesty, etc.

 

  • Know yourself

Sometimes you can’t avoid being taken advantage of because you don’t know yourself.

You are swayed by whatever happens in the relationship, whatever the other person asks of you, however unfair.

So, know yourself and be acquainted with your own values. Only when you are clear about your values will you not allow them to be compromised.

I recommend 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

The best way to know yourself is to read the word of God. It’s the perfect mirror of who God created you to be.

2 Timothy 1 v 7: God’s spirit doesn’t make cowards out of us. The spirit gives us power, love and self-control. (CEV)

Romans 8 v 37: … in all things we have complete victory through him who loved us! (GNB)

Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power…(CEV)

There are many more verses that talk of who you are in God’s eyes. So pick up the word of God and immerse yourself in it.

Meditate on it until it is completely carved into your heart. Live by it. If you have trouble understanding the bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Be clear about what you want

If you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then be firm about what you want. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no.

What does that mean? It simply means, don’t be ambiguous about anything. If the other person asks something of you and you don’t want to do it, then be firm in saying no.

And make sure to be vocal about what you want so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Don’t assume that will be clear to the other person. No. Clearly communicate it.

 

  • Get out of unhealthy relationships

You already know that a healthy relationship is based on love, trust, honesty, mutual respect, etc.

Any relationship that falls short of these qualities is not worth being in. So, if you are sure that there’s no hope of the relationship being redeemed, then it’s time to let go of it so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

It’s in unhealthy relationships that people are mostly taken advantage of. So, make sure all your relationships are healthy.

 

  • Be assertive in accepting correction and advice

Just because now you are clear about what you want doesn’t mean you should be stubborn.

Remember that a healthy relationship is not all about taking; you should be prepared to give as well.

So, don’t be stubborn. Sometimes your obstinacy is the only thing you need to get rid of so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

Be wise and accept correction. Don’t assume you are right every time.

But being timid and gullible is not going to help you either. Be careful about the kind of advice you get because some of it may work against you and not for you.

Learn to be assertive instead. This way, you’ll be wise enough to accept correction without being manipulated. This will definitely help you to avoid being taken advantage of.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

 

  • Don’t draw rash conclusions about the other person

Being judgmental is definitely a stumbling block when you are trying to avoid being taken advantage of.

Don’t assume the worst of the other person, or you’ll just perpetuate that assumption and actually draw out the worst in that person.

Always give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Actually, do better by thinking the best of them.

Did you know that thinking the best of a bad person can actually draw out the good in them? People act decent when we make it clear it to them that we think they are decent.

 

  • Ask questions

Sometimes all you need to do to avoid being taken advantage of is ask questions.

When the other person does something that you feel puts you at a disadvantage, then simply ask them questions without being accusatory.

You might discover the root cause of why they do the things they do. Then you can both work toward improving things so you can avoid being taken advantage of again.

If you are wondering how to go about asking questions then I suggest you read my post on 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.

 

  • Forgive

Yes, if you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then playing tit for tat isn’t going to help you.

If you feel that you’ve been wronged, then doing the same thing to the other person is not going to avenge you. It’s only going to make things worse by perpetuating the cycle of abuse.

So, refuse to take revenge against the other person. Instead, forgive them and move on. Don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes. Forgive them and learn to trust them again. Forgiveness heals many ills.

 

  • Accept each other just as you are

Don’t try to change the other person. This will just backfire on you. People are to be loved, not fixed.

Likewise, refuse to let the other person change you if you want to avoid being taken advantage of.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with you. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve on your behavior. But the choice to do so should be yours and not imposed on you by the other person.

 

The final word

If you want to enjoy healthy relationships as a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you have to take the necessary measures to avoid being taken advantage of.

Follow the tips above and many other tips so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Please note that you should also use the tips above to avoid taking advantage of others.

Remember that relationships are partnerships. They are about mutual love, trust, honesty and respect, so play your role in making yours healthy.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it. What do you think of it? What are your own tips on how to avoid being taken advantage of? Please share with us by commenting.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Break your google habit with these 8 easy tips

If you are looking to break your google habit then you are in good company. Google has run my life for the past few years.

But now I can boldly say that I’ve found the tips that are really working to break this habit. I’ll get onto them immediately.

 

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  • Tip #1: Trust your own instinct

You might be struggling to break your google habit because you’ve completely abandoned your own instinct.

Now with the internet, people have taken it to do everything for them and they’ve completely forgotten how to listen to their gut. Trust the natural mechanisms God has endowed you with so you can break your Google habit.

You no longer have to struggle with healthy eating if you learn to listen to your body. Check out my post on how to listen to your body.

Don’t google, ‘when should I eat?’ Instead, eat when you are hungry and stop when you feel full. You don’t need google for that.

 

  • Tip #2: Step away from your screen

Sometimes that’s all it takes to break your google habit. I realize I tend to google things a lot when I’m in front of my computer.

You can’t google if you are not in front of your computer, or your phone. So step away from the screen to  break your google habit and give your eyes a rest.

 

  • Tip #3: Talk to people

I mean real people, not google. Face to face conversations are the best. Even making a phone call to ask a friend or a relative something is far better than googling.

If you feel like you can’t face people or start a conversation with them, then I suggest you read my post on 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.

Also read 12 easy tips to make friends easily.

It might be that you are scared of talking to people because you’ve chosen to keep away and be on your computer or phone instead.

Talking to people will give you more satisfaction than spending all your time in front of the screen. It will give you a wide range of people to choose from for your conversations and for sharing your life with.

Remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • Tip #4: Read print books

Print books are a great tool to use of you want to break your google habit. There isn’t any answer you can’t find in a book.

So, get into the habit of reading actual books. Go to your local library and read a print book. I find print books to engage you better than audio or ebooks.

But even with books, you have to be careful what you read because you don’t want to end up subjecting yourself to the same thing you subject yourself to when you google.

My post on are you aware of what you read? will be very helpful to you.

 

  • Tip #5: Be productive with your time

You might struggle to break your google habit if you have ample free time on your hands. It makes sense, because with nothing to do, you can’t help but google everything.

Now, make it a point to be engaged throughout your day. That doesn’t have to mean working from morning to evening. You can be productive in your leisure time too by making the most of your leisure time and being present.

If you are strict about being productive, you’ll definitely break your google habit.

I recommend my post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

 

  • Tip #6: Cultivate self-reliance

I realize that it can be difficult to break your google habit if you are too dependent on other people for your everyday answers.

You feel like you must ask questions before you do anything. You are not self-reliant enough to actually make decisions on your own.

I suggest you step away from that dependence by cultivating self-knowledge. Spend time alone and learn about yourself.

This way you’ll learn to enjoy hearing other people’s opinions without being entirely reliant on them and knowing the final decision lies solely with you.

Read my post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

Read my other post on do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

 

  • Tip #7: Be the one to offer some advice

This might just help you break your google habit because now instead of rushing to get the advice of google, you are offering advice instead.

Be that go-to person for others when they need advice. Give it from the heart. Be genuine and humble in your approach to others’ questions. God will bless you with more wisdom to impart to others.

 

  • Tip #8: Cultivate spontaneity

Are you the kind of person who googles the weather for the following five days even though you have nowhere to go and you work indoors?

Then you need to start cultivating some spontaneity so you can break from your google habit.

Even if you have to go somewhere, you don’t have to worry about the weather. People have been traveling long before they could check the weather on google. Let nature take its own course in such matters.

 

The final word

It’s really not that hard to break your google habit. With determination and patience, you can and you will succeed in doing so. Don’t let the internet take over your own God-given ability to think. Use what God has given you and don’t let it go to waste.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Do you also need to break your google habit? Have you succeeded? Please let us know how.

Even if you are still trying to break your google habit, let us know what has been working for you so far, and what hasn’t.

Every exercise beginner needs these 10 must-know tips

Everyone has to start somewhere, so if you are an exercise beginner lost as to how you should begin your workouts, then you are in the right place.

 

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Let me remind you that a simple healthy lifestyle requires exercise. Yet four years ago as an exercise beginner, when I first embarked on my journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, I had no idea where to start.

To jog or to walk? Were those even enough? Squats? I didn’t even like them and didn’t understand how they worked.

I knew very little about exercising. Though I was determined to exercise, the unknown about exercising was a little off-putting.

But I did it. Four years later, I’m still going strong in my workouts.

 

So, read these 10 tips every exercise beginner must know. I guarantee they’ll work for you.

 

  • Tip #1: Determine why you want to exercise

This tip is very important if you are an exercise beginner. It might seem like an obvious tip. You might be thinking, ‘duh, everyone wants to exercise for better health.’

But don’t take things lightly. Even if that’s a simple question to answer, you have to consciously and intentionally think about it.

You’ll realize that the ‘why’ will surpass the ‘how.’ Though you are lost as to how to start, the ‘why’ of doing it will be strong enough to compel you to start.

 

  • Tip #2: Clearly define your fitness goals

So you are an exercise beginner and you’ve just determined why you want to exercise. Already that’s tremendous progress.

Now, clearly define your goals. Where do you see yourself in fitness in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years and more?

By clearly defining your fitness goals as an exercise beginner, you are propelled even further on your exercise.

 

  • Tip #3: Find exercises that you love

No one told me this as an exercise beginner. I watched YouTube and blindly copied celebrities’ exercise styles.

It took me a long time to learn that I’d never stick to exercise if I kept doing the exercises I hated.

So I soon discovered exercises that worked for me, and I haven’t looked back since.

 

  • Tip #4: Find a time that works for you

If it’s morning, that’s great. Read my post on here are 5 reasons why morning exercise is better for you.

But don’t think for a second that you are doomed if you feel morning exercise is not for you.

Find a time that works for you. If it’s afternoon, go for it; the same thing with evening.

 

  • Tip #5: Take rest days

As an exercise beginner, you want to appropriate rest days into your routine. Just because you are a beginner doesn’t mean you have to kill yourself for two months, exercising everyday.

No, that will just exhaust you so much you might just quit exercising altogether.

Learn to listen to your body so you know when to take rest days. I recommend my post on how to listen to your body.

I also recommend how to know when to take a break from exercise.

Also check out 5 reasons why rest days are good for you.

 

Rest days will give your body the chance to repair and restore itself so you can return to your workouts with vigor.

Exercising for too long can be off-putting, especially for an exercise beginner. It can also lead to boredom. Taking rest days just might be the cure for that boredom.

Read my post on 7 simple tips to cure boredom during exercise.

 

  • Tip #6: Learn from others

It’s OK to learn from others if you are an exercise beginner.

Just remember that at the end of the day, you have to tailor  other people’s advice to better suit you instead of copying the advice just as it is when it clearly doesn’t work for you.

As you do your walk in the park, or around the neighborhood, you’ll definitely meet people who are trying to achieve similar goals. Don’t be scared to spark up a conversation about exercise, or to ask for their advice.

You can’t bring yourself to start a conversation? Then read my post on 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.

 

  • Tip #7: Stay away from the mirror

During my time as an exercise beginner, I’d step in front of the mirror everyday to judge my progress, even a mere few days after starting my workouts.

If my thighs burned, then I figured they looked toned. And I was always disappointed to realize that wasn’t the case every time I stepped in front of the mirror.

Stay away from the mirror. The mirror is not the perfect gauge for your progress.

You might not see the benefits of exercise manifested on the outside, but they are already taking place on the inside, even for an exercise beginner. Take pride in that.

 

  • Tip #8: Judge your progress over the long term rather than the short term

This follows perfectly from Tip #7. Exercise as a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle should be a lifelong journey. You should be firm about that as an exercise beginner.

So instead of judging your progress every month, do it every year. You are in it for the long run, remember? Be patient with yourself.

 

  • Tip #9: Don’t compare yourself to anyone

This is a tip that almost every exercise beginner misses. They want to compare themselves to those people who’ve been exercising for years.

Doing that will just demoralize you. You have to work hard and be patient so you can reach your fitness goals the same way those people did to achieve their own fitness goals.

You’ll want to read my post on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

 

  • Tip #10: Be grateful

Yes. There are many out there who can’t even start exercising. But you’ve made a decision to start. That’s highly commendable.

There’s always plenty to be grateful for even as an exercise beginner. Be grateful that you are alive and that you are taking correct steps to better your life.

Also be grateful for your progress. Gratitude will work wonders in propelling you toward success in your journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

The final word

I commend you as an exercise beginner for making the decision to make exercise a part of your life. You have to remember to work diligently and patiently to make exercise a habit, just like with everything else in life.

Just take things step by step. Don’t rush into doing anything you are not ready for. Do what works for you and take pride in it. Again, congratulations. You are well on your way to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Are you an exercise beginner? What are your own tips? Please share with us by commenting.

Or maybe you’ve been exercising for a while now. Please do share your tips of how you managed as an exercise beginner.

7 easy steps to help you find rest in God

In your everyday life, you must strive to find rest in God.

Otherwise you take the weight of the world on your shoulders and let me tell you, that’s a battle you are certainly going to lose.

 

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What does it mean to find rest in God?

It means resting in God while you do your daily work.

A lot of people misunderstand the phrase ‘to find rest in God’ to mean that they fold their hands, sit back and retire from work.

No, it doesn’t mean that. In fact, the scenario above defines laziness. And the bible sternly warns us against becoming lazy.

Instead, to find rest in God means not worrying about anything while you do what you have to do. You are relaxed as you go about your daily hassle, trusting God to take care of you.

It’s important to find rest in God because only then can he make a move in your life. God won’t compete with you. So while you are struggling to make everything happen on your own, he’ll sit back and watch you.

But as soon as you cast your care on him, let him know and show him that you trust him for your provision, then he’ll take care of you.

 

So how do you find rest in God?

  • Step #1: Read his word

By now you should know that God’s word is the ultimate truth. You can’t successfully maneuver through life outside of his word and his counsel.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

Immerse yourself in the word and let it carve itself into your heart. Live by it. Things might seem impossible but that’s according to your understanding, which is far from sufficient.

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust in the Lord with all you heart. Never rely on what you think you know. (GNB)

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. (MSG)

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. (KJV)

Those are just three translations of the same verse. There are many more translations for your convenience so you can find rest in God.

If you have trouble understanding the bible, read my post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

  • Step #2: Pray

All along I’ve been making the mistake of lumping prayer and word study into one step.

But there are a lot of people who diligently and faithfully read the word, but then fail to pray, hence I’m putting prayer on its own category.

Prayer is effective because it’s your communication with God. Find rest in God by asking for his help.

Remember that prayer is a two way street. So remember to listen to what God is saying instead of you talking the entire time.

Read my post on 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

Also read this post on 5 ways to position yourself to hear from God.

 

  • Step #3: Be productive

This is a very important step.

Like I said earlier, to find rest in God doesn’t mean to be inactive or to cease working. It means to trust God while you are working.

Now, we must remember to be productive at all times. Productivity is not only important when you are doing your office job, or your studying. It’s also important and applicable in your leisure time.

So, do the best you can in the job that pays your bills, and do the best you can in your leisure time.  Do your day job, and in your leisure time, entertain yourself in the word, meditating on it until God’s promise of rest echoes in every fiber of your being.

Read my post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

Also read my post on this is what you didn’t know about meditation.

 

  • Step #4: Remove money as an issue

I know money is at the center of everything, and is the cause of stress for most people. But it’s very possible to live a simple healthy lifestyle with less than what you are spending right now.

Don’t be one of those people who work themselves to the bone just so they can afford unnecessary expenses.

Lead a minimalistic life that removes money as an issue and you’ll definitely find rest in God. Don’t be obsessed with money because that’s a burden that will separate you from God.

Hebrews 13 v 5: Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never leave you; I will never abandon you.” (GNB)

Read my post on here’s the truth you didn’t know about money so you can know the real place of money in your life.

 

Step #5: Be of service to others

Reaching out to others always works the trick of making you less self-absorbed.

Sometimes you think you are struggling, and then you take one look at someone else’s life and you realize there are people with bigger problems out there.

So, in your journey to find rest in God, focus less on yourself and more on others. Give whatever you think you don’t have enough of; your money, your time, your resources. This will make you feel richer and more fortunate.

Read my tips on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

Step #6: Find a support system

You will remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Your support system must be people who love God. They must have found rest in God or aiming to find rest in God.

Your support system can’t be that pessimistic friend who worries about every little thing.

But it can be your family, your work colleagues, your friends, or your local church.

 

Step #7: Be grateful

This is very important. When you are trying to find rest in God, it’s easy to become selfish and think all about yourself and what you are trying to achieve.

Realize at this very moment that you already have God’s blessings with you. You are alive and that’s more important than anything else. Be grateful for that and many more things that are going on in your life.

I have a post on are you aware of God’s blessings for you?

Take it a step further by being grateful for your challenges because they teach you a lot.

If you read the word of God, you’ll notice that he calls for us to be grateful.

Philippians 4 v 6: Don’t worry about anything, but in all your prayers ask God for what you need, always asking him with a thankful heart. (GNB)

So, instead of complaining in your prayers, offer thanksgiving to God who continues to give us more than we deserve. Gratitude is a virtue we all must work hard to possess.

 

The final word

We need to strive to find rest in God. It’s the only way we’ll survive this hyperactive, stressed world.

Let’s not be lazy but do all that the word says we must do to find rest in God. Then we’ll have the kind of peace we won’t even be able to explain to those around us, and we can help them achieve that peace too.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your own steps to find rest in God? Please share with us by commenting.

Make a vegetable garden without spending any money

You can make a vegetable garden without spending any money if you are really determined to have a good diet as a component of enjoying your simple healthy lifestyle.

Please do remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet.

 

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  • Choose a suitable place to make your vegetable garden

This one is a no-brainer, and really, everyone should be able to do this. Just look for a spot that gets a lot of sunshine during the day. This way, you maximize the growth of your plants.

This is the easiest tip to make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

 

  • Recycle discarded materials to use for your vegetable garden

For almost a year I was planning on buying a net for my vegetable garden. For a whole year. And I’ve been waiting for that. It had never occurred to me before then that I could make a vegetable garden without spending any money.

But then early this month my budget told me I didn’t have money to buy a net. That’s why it’s so important to always create a budget. Read my post on tips to learn how to budget and be successful at it.

So then, knowing I couldn’t afford a net but desperately wanting a vegetable garden, I set out to look for discarded buckets, bathtubs etc to use as my containers.

I took a discarded fence wire to make the walls of my garden, took the old tattered net I’d gotten from my little brother, patched it up and used it as a roof.

This way, I’m confident I’ve made a structure that will keep out birds and my neighbor’s chickens.

To think I spent a year waiting for store-bought materials for a vegetable garden is ridiculous.

Please do the same. Find discarded materials to use for your garden. You are not going to look far and for long because people are always throwing out such things as leaky buckets and bathtubs, worn out fences and tattered nets. Doing this will enable you to make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

 

  • Take advantage of the rainy season for your vegetable garden

You should aim to have a supply of vegetables for the whole year. Don’t miss out on planting, especially during the rainy season if you want to make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

The rain will be free water for your garden. And please make sure to have a reservoir so you can harvest the rain water to use long after the rainy season is gone. Doing this will definitely help you make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

 

  • Make and tend to your own vegetable garden

I know a lot of people who say they don’t have the time to make and tend to their vegetable gardens.

But that garden is a source of the food you require in order to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, so you have to set aside some time to make it and then tend to it.

Hiring another person to make and tend to your garden is not going to help you if you want to make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

Saying you are too busy to make and tend to your vegetable garden is like saying you are too busy to exercise or to nurture healthy relationships, your spirituality and your personal development. You can never enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle if you entertain such an excuse.

Eating right should be one of your top priorities, so then you must be responsible for making and tending to your garden. You don’t have to hire someone else to do that for you.

Set aside little time during your day for this very important activity and that will enable you to make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

 

  • Harvest and prepare your own seeds

You don’t have to buy seeds from the store if you really want to make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

I just harvested tomato seeds from a ripe potato I was cooking for my soup. I asked for some carrot, beetroot, spinach and kale seeds from a farmer near me.

But remember that we shouldn’t be all about taking; we must give too. Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

So share your own seeds with other farmers as well so that you all end up with everything. This will help you make your vegetable garden without spending any money.

 

The final word

You really can make your vegetable garden without spending any money if you put a little effort into it. Don’t think you have to spend money to make a vegetable garden because you don’t. Just follow the tips above and don’t look back.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts with us. How do you think you can make a vegetable garden without spending any money? If you’ve done that, please do share with us how you did it. If you haven’t yet but are planning to do it, please share your own tips.

 

 

17 simple things you must do to become happier

If you are like every other person on the face of the earth, you want to become happier. Keep reading to learn what you must do in order to become happier.

 

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  • #1: Realize that happiness is a state of the mind

It’s all within you to become happy. It’s all in your mind. If you are currently unhappy, then you need to cultivate your mind for some happiness.

And the good news is, you can become as happy as you want just by exercising your mind the right way. So become happier by working your mind to give you as much happiness as you need.

 

  • #2: Stop looking for happiness around you

This follows from the point above. Happiness is not external, it’s internal. So, stop looking around you to become happier.

The people around you and the things around you are not responsible for making you become happier.

By letting go of the idea that the people around you must make you happy, you enable yourself to form and enjoy healthy relationships.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • #3: Make a choice to become happier

Becoming happier is a choice just like many other different choices you make in life.

If you are currently less happy than you should be, it’s because you’ve made that choice, whether or not you realize it.

So, consciously choose to become happier.

 

  • #4: Renew your choice to become happier every day

Just because you chose to become happier yesterday doesn’t mean you are set for happiness for the rest of your life.

Renew your decision to become happier every day.

 

  • #5: Be active in the word of God

You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

The word of God says you have a right to become happier than you are right now. It says happiness is one of the many blessings bestowed upon each and every one of us by our Father.

Don’t skimp out on reading the word. And don’t just read it, live it. This will definitely help you become happier.

Read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • #6: Realize that you have everything you need in order to become happier

Remember that it’s not about the external things. You, all on your own, have everything you need in order to become happier. That’s powerful.

So, use this power you have and don’t let it go to waste.

 

  • #7: Stop comparing yourself to others

Nothing good can come out of you comparing yourself to others because you’ll always come out feeling short.

Learn to run your own race. Be confident in who you are. Know yourself enough to not be swayed by how people around you are living their lives.

Read my post on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Also read 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

You’ll also definitely want to read 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • #8: Focus more on other people and less on yourself.

I can honestly say this has helped me become happier. I used to focus too much on myself and my needs. I thought I was happy until I started focusing on other people more.

Then I realized the true meaning of happiness.  You can too if you learn to focus more on other people than you do on yourself.

 

  • #9: Forgive and accept yourself just the way you are

You are God’s creation, so you are already perfect. Stop trying to fix whatever you think is wrong with you and start celebrating yourself.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Take them as opportunities to grow.

 

  • #10: Forgive and accept others just the way they are

Become happier by cutting other people some slack, just as you should do for yourself.

Accept others’ mistakes and forgive them. Forgiveness is a medicine for the heart.

 

  • #11: Give

It can be your money, time, labor, talent or any other resource. Giving is a sure way to help you become happier.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • #12: Take care of yourself

Just because now you are focusing more on other people than on yourself doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself.

Actually, you can’t successfully care about and love other people if you can’t do those things for yourself first.

You have to be fit in every way to take care of others. So take care of yourself if you want to become happier.

Eat right, exercise, focus on your personal development, spirituality and on nurturing and developing the traits that will enable you to become a part of healthy relationships.

 

  • #13: Be positive

Positivity will definitely help you become happier. Always try and see the best in every person and every situation. Worry less and rejoice more.

 

  • #14: Be grateful

Grateful people are way happier than those people who aren’t grateful. There’s plenty to be grateful for.

Stop whining about what you don’t have and start showing gratitude for what you have.

 

  • #15: Smile and laugh

Smiling and laughing work magic if you want to become happier. On those days when I don’t feel too good, just smiling and laughing literally brighten up my mood and my day.

Please learn to do the same. Your true beauty shows when you smile and laugh.

 

  • #16: Focus on doing the things you love

Don’t waste time on the things you don’t like if you want to become happier. Live your hobbies and your talents. Read this post on 10 important steps to nurture and develop your talent.

 

  • #17: Make the most of every day

People who do this become happier. Knowing you are not wasting your days contributes tremendously to your happiness. Read this post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

 

The final word

You can become happier right at this very moment if you make a decision to do so. Happiness is available to everyone, regardless of your life circumstances.

So, don’t use your divorce, childhood trauma, disability etc as an excuse to remain unhappy. And don’t grow weary in your journey to become happier because you will definitely get where you want to go.

Judge your growing progress along the way, remembering to focus on the long term rather than the short term. The pursuit of happiness is a lifelong journey after all.

Read this post on 12 signs you are making progress in your life.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Are you happy? Do you want to become happier? Tell us what you think you need to do in order to become happier.

 

You’ll also want to read:

How to be happy: 23 ways to be happier by psychologytoday.com

10 ways to be happier by realsimple.com

12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist

If you are struggling to become a good conversationalist then you are in the right place. I used to struggle with the same thing.

But now I can confidently say that I can successfully start and hold a good conversation to the very end. I’m about to share with you how you can become a good conversationalist.

 

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Tip #1: Talk about things you are passionate about

And the only way to identify the things you are passionate about is to spend time with yourself so you can learn everything about yourself – your likes and dislikes.

This way you’ll clearly identify what you want to talk about and this will definitely help you become a good conversationalist.

Read my post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

Tip #2: Capitalize on your talents

As long as you use your talents to benefit other people, then you’ll always have something worthwhile and interesting to talk about and you’ll definitely become a good conversationalist.

A talent you keep to yourself is a wasted talent. Use your talent for the benefit of others. They’ll want to know more about it and ask questions, and this will help you talk more about things that will definitely excite people.

Read my post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

Tip #3: Listen

This tip is extremely important if you really want to become a good conversationalist. Have you ever met a person who’s good at talking but never shuts up? They don’t listen and all they want to do is talk?

I know I’ve met such people. I used to be one of those people. And you already know how annoying it is to spend time with such a person.

People like to be listened to. So, you might be great at starting conversations, but if you don’t learn to listen, you’ll lose the other person’s attention. So learn to listen.

 

Tip #4: Concentrate less on yourself and more on the other person

People like to feel important. If you spend a lot of the conversation on you, then you can never become a good conversationalist.

Rather, concentrate on the person you are talking to. Ask them about their hobbies, family, career, etc and you’ll get them talking.

As they talk, make nice comments and be supportive. As long as you do this, you never have to struggle to become a good conversationalist.

 

Tip #5: Learn different things

Knowing a variety of topics is very important if you want to become a good conversationalist because as long as you know a lot of things, you’ll always have something to talk about.

You don’t have to learn everything, that’s impossible. Remember it’s all about what interests you, and I’m sure that’s quite a lot.

Remember to always pay attention to what you read. Read my post on are you aware of what you read?

 

Tip #6:  Practice good oral hygiene

You might never have thought of this tip in this context but having good oral hygiene is also very important if you want to become a good conversationalist.

No one wants to talk to someone with bad breath. Remember, some conversations may be so intimate that you are sitting right next to the other person, face to face.

So you want your breath to be friendly when you do that.

 

Tip#7: Know when to stop

Just like learning to listening, knowing when to stop is also crucial if you want to become a good conversationalist.

I can have a good conversation with someone, but if the conversation carries on for far too long, then it becomes more tiring than exciting.

So know when to stop talking so that you leave the other person as interested in your conversations as they were when you first started.

 

Tip #8: Practise

Don’t overlook the importance of practice if you want to become a good conversationalist.

You can practise with those you love because you feel most comfortable with them and you can trust them to give you their honest opinions.

In time, you’ll definitely become a good conversationalist.

 

Tip #9: Be polite

You might know someone who’d become a good conversationalist if they’d only reduce the amount of cursing in their speech.

Honestly, I don’t know who’d enjoy all the vulgar words in a conversation. They are just so raw and off-putting.

Be polite in your language so there’s no chance of offending the other person and chasing them away. This will contribute toward helping you become a good conversationalist.

 

Tip #10: Nurture and develop your writing skills

Talking and writing go hand in hand, well, intelligent talking, at least. If you can’t write, then chances are, you are can’t hold a good conversation either.

Maybe some people can get away with doing one and not the other. But I promise you’ll become a good conversationalist if you hone your writing skills.

You don’t even have to look hard for something to say; if you have some written work you can always talk about that.

Read these 11 crucial tips every aspiring writer must know.

 

Tip #11: Be gentle and don’t force yourself onto people

Yes, don’t act desperate if you really want to become a good conversationalist. If you realize the person you are trying to talk to is not interested in what you have to say, then leave them alone.

Don’t take their resistance personally. They truth is, not everyone is going to want to talk to you. Plus, people have their own lives and they might be busy, or wanting some time and space. Give them that.

But there’ll also be plenty of people who’ll want to talk to you and who you can become great friends with, thanks to you becoming a good conversationalist.

Read this post on 12 easy tips to make friends easily.

 

Tip #12: Don’t be judgmental

Don’t make conclusions about the other person, and most importantly, don’t voice out any judgments.

Would you like to be judged? No. So, refuse to judge others if you want to become a good conversationalist.

Be open-minded at all times. Remember to keep your relationships healthy and intact because they are a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read this post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

The final word

If you are struggling to become a good conversationalist, then be of good cheer. You can and you will become a good conversationalist if you work hard and wisely at it.

Use the tips above and they’ll definitely help you become a good conversationalist. Remember to focus less on yourself and more on the person you are talking to.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your thoughts on it? Can you share with us your own tips to become a good conversationalist?

 

You might also want to read:

How to become a great conversationalist by entrepreneur.com

Hate awkward silences? 10 essential tips to be a great conversationalist by lifehack.org

 

 

 

12 easy tips to make friends easily

If you are struggling to make friends easily, then you are reading the right post. I know many people don’t have as many friends as they’d like. But you can accomplish that immediately if you play your cards right. Read on to find out how. 

 

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You’ll remember that friendships are very important when it comes to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

So make friends easily with the following tips:

 

Tip #1: Get in the word of God

If you’ve been following my blog you know the word of God is my best answer to everything. The bible is an exact mirror of what the Lord created you to be.

If you read and internalize that you were created in the image of God, then you know you are not supposed to be less than he is. So you’ll know in order to follow in your Father’s footsteps you should form only healthy relationships.

Proverbs 12 v 26: The righteous person is a guide to his friend, but the path of the wicked leads them astray. (GNB)

Proverbs 17 v 17: Friends always show their love. (GNB)

Proverbs 27 v 17: You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. (MSG)

If you need help with your bible study, read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

Tip #2: Know what you want out of a friendship

You can’t make friends easily if you are not sure what you want out of a friendship.

This in no way implies that you should enter friendships on ulterior motives. Remember you are forming friendships so you and your friends can accompany each other on this journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

Tip #3: Don’t expect too much from people

You can’t make friends easily if you expect too much from people. Approach people with little, or even better, no expectations. I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it if someone approached you for friendship with expectations.

 

Tip #4: Be clear about what you like and dislike

This is very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to be clear about what you like and dislike. Don’t be scared to let the other person know. If you think they might reject you, then that’s a positive thing because it means you and them were never compatible to begin with.

In the end you’ll be left with only those people who share your likes and dislikes, and even if they don’t, at least they are willing to respect yours. But remember to respect theirs too.

You can’t begin to know what you like and dislike if you don’t know yourself. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

Tip#5: Make sure your friendship is based on love and trust

Though you should approach people with no expectations in order to make friends easily, you should ensure that the friendship you are forming is based on love and trust, because those two virtues will make your friendship healthy and you shouldn’t settle for anything less than that.

 

  • Tip #6: Don’t act desperate

It’s the desperate people who fail to make friends easily. Don’t force yourself onto other people because you might just scare them away, and you don’t want that.

If you know yourself and are able to enjoy your own company, then you should be confident enough to look for the right friends without worrying about the passage of time.

 

  • Tip #7: Don’t be clingy

It’s the clingy people who can’t make friends easily. You don’t give the other person space when you are friends, or worse still, while you are trying to pursue them for friendship.

Remember, you are responsible for your own happiness. Don’t hang onto the other person for that.

 

  • Tip #8: Be generous

Yes, you will make friends easily if you are willing to give to them and others. Everyone loves a generous friend. A healthy friendship should be about giving and not taking.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • Tip #9: Be positive about life

You can’t make friends easily if you are negative about life, walking around with a chip on your shoulder and making everyone around you feel bad.

Be positive about life. Be optimistic. Be hopeful. Live life with vigor and excitement. Then you’ll make friends easily because everyone will want to hang around you.

Encourage others to be positive too. Life is beautiful and that includes even the challenges we go through.

 

  • Tip#10: Try different things

Sometimes you struggle to make friends easily because you are too stuck in your routine. There’s nothing wrong with having a routine; I also have a routine that makes my life enjoyable.

But you should be flexible enough to try new things especially if you are trying to make friends. You might discover something you like and a friend to go with that.

Trying different things will let you discover some things you didn’t know about yourself. You might even uncover a hidden talent you can share with your friends. Read my post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #11: Go to the right places

This is also very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to go to the places you know potential friends are likely to be hanging out in.

But be wary of friends you make in places like strip clubs because they might not be genuine friends. Go to the park instead, or church, or the library, or the museum, the list is endless.

 

  • Tip #12: Let go of unhealthy friendships

Maybe you can’t make friends easily because all your time and energy is spent on those unhealthy friendships you are still hanging onto.

Unhealthy friendships make you love yourself less than you should. They rob you of your self esteem and position you to make more bad friends in future.

If you know the friendship has no hope of being redeemed, then let go of it so you can focus on forming healthy friendships. This way you’ll regain your love for yourself and your self esteem.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

 

The final word

You no longer have to struggle to make friends easily. Follow the above tips and be well on your way to making friends who’ll join hands with you as you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Always remember to not lose who you are. Be firm about upholding your own values. You’ll appreciate that, and your friends will too.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I hope it was helpful. Please let us know your own tips to make friends easily.

 

You’ll also want to read:

 

10 tips to make new friends by personalexcellence.co

How to make new friends (and keep the old) as a young adult by the greatist.com

6 easy to use tips to avoid gossip

If you are looking for easy to use tips to avoid gossip then you are in the right place. I used to struggle with gossiping and didn’t have any idea how to avoid it.

But then I made a lot of progress in that area and I’m about to let you know how I did that so you can also make progress to avoid gossip.

 

A message to avoid gossip

 

Gossip is never good, and it’s always best to avoid it at all costs. Avoid gossip so you can keep your relationships intact because they are an important requirement to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Gossip turns loved ones against each other and leads to a broken world. It also hinders you from being the best you can be and sharing that with other people.

There’s so much we can do if we can learn to avoid gossip. Think of all the time and energy you’d save, and all the relationships you’d enjoy.

So here are 6 easy to use tips to avoid gossip.

 

  • Tip #1: Stop gossiping

There’s no use in saying you want to avoid gossip if you are gossiping yourself. The first thing you need to do is stop gossiping so you can begin to dissociate yourself from it completely.

 

  • Tip #2: Avoid people who make you gossip

You know who those people are because you’ve been gossiping with them. But remember that you should try to get your friends to also avoid gossip instead of cutting them off altogether.

Give them a chance to realize their mistake and repent. If they insist on gossiping and you know you tried with them, then it’s time to move away from them and form healthy relationships.

 

  • Tip #3: Be productive with your time

This will definitely help you avoid gossip. Read my post on 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.

Sometimes we gossip because we have nothing to do with our time. Our days are just so empty that we are looking for empty but harmful talk to fill them up.

Keep busy instead. Find something to do so you don’t have time to gossip. There are many things you can do. Try new things. Engage your talents. Read this post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

Don’t worry that you won’t find something to do. There really are plenty of things. You can do this.

 

  • Tip #4: Get in the word of God

I know, this is my answer to everything. But it really works and this is perhaps your best tip. Get in the word of God. The word has a lot to say about gossip and it will teach you to move away from it.

Proverbs 20 v 19: Gossips can’t keep secrets, so never confide in blabbermouths (MSG).

Proverbs 16 v 28: Troublemakers start fights; gossip breaks up friendships (MSG).

We should be eager to follow the word of God because it’s the perfect manual for our lives.

Read my post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible. You’ll also want to read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip#5: Watch less TV

TV is full of gossip. Celebrity gossip is the perfect foundation for a life of gossip. There’s always plenty to talk about when it comes to celebrities.

Read my post: Watch less TV with these easy tactics. Watching less TV will help you avoid gossip and help free up some time for you to be productive.

 

  • Tip#6: Spend less time on social media

There’s a lot of gossip going around in social media. All that time spent on Facebook talking to friends you might have never even met is bound to get you talking about someone or something you shouldn’t be talking about.

Some people use social media as a means to cure boredom. Learn to nurture your relationships with others and learn to enjoy your own company. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

Also read this post on the real impact of social media in your life.

 

The final word

It can be hard to break a habit. So you’ll definitely face temptations while you are trying to avoid gossip. Keep strong and no matter how many times you fall, get back up and keep moving forward.

 

Thank you for reading this post. How do you avoid gossip? Please tell us your own tips by commenting.