If you are struggling to make friends easily, then you are reading the right post. I know many people don’t have as many friends as they’d like. But you can accomplish that immediately if you play your cards right. Read on to find out how.
You’ll remember that friendships are very important when it comes to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.
So make friends easily with the following tips:
Tip #1: Get in the word of God
If you’ve been following my blog you know the word of God is my best answer to everything. The bible is an exact mirror of what the Lord created you to be.
If you read and internalize that you were created in the image of God, then you know you are not supposed to be less than he is. So you’ll know in order to follow in your Father’s footsteps you should form only healthy relationships.
Proverbs 12 v 26: The righteous person is a guide to his friend, but the path of the wicked leads them astray. (GNB)
Proverbs 17 v 17: Friends always show their love. (GNB)
Proverbs 27 v 17: You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. (MSG)
If you need help with your bible study, read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.
Tip #2: Know what you want out of a friendship
You can’t make friends easily if you are not sure what you want out of a friendship.
This in no way implies that you should enter friendships on ulterior motives. Remember you are forming friendships so you and your friends can accompany each other on this journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.
Tip #3: Don’t expect too much from people
You can’t make friends easily if you expect too much from people. Approach people with little, or even better, no expectations. I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it if someone approached you for friendship with expectations.
Tip #4: Be clear about what you like and dislike
This is very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to be clear about what you like and dislike. Don’t be scared to let the other person know. If you think they might reject you, then that’s a positive thing because it means you and them were never compatible to begin with.
In the end you’ll be left with only those people who share your likes and dislikes, and even if they don’t, at least they are willing to respect yours. But remember to respect theirs too.
You can’t begin to know what you like and dislike if you don’t know yourself. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.
Tip#5: Make sure your friendship is based on love and trust
Though you should approach people with no expectations in order to make friends easily, you should ensure that the friendship you are forming is based on love and trust, because those two virtues will make your friendship healthy and you shouldn’t settle for anything less than that.
- Tip #6: Don’t act desperate
It’s the desperate people who fail to make friends easily. Don’t force yourself onto other people because you might just scare them away, and you don’t want that.
If you know yourself and are able to enjoy your own company, then you should be confident enough to look for the right friends without worrying about the passage of time.
- Tip #7: Don’t be clingy
It’s the clingy people who can’t make friends easily. You don’t give the other person space when you are friends, or worse still, while you are trying to pursue them for friendship.
Remember, you are responsible for your own happiness. Don’t hang onto the other person for that.
- Tip #8: Be generous
Yes, you will make friends easily if you are willing to give to them and others. Everyone loves a generous friend. A healthy friendship should be about giving and not taking.
Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.
- Tip #9: Be positive about life
You can’t make friends easily if you are negative about life, walking around with a chip on your shoulder and making everyone around you feel bad.
Be positive about life. Be optimistic. Be hopeful. Live life with vigor and excitement. Then you’ll make friends easily because everyone will want to hang around you.
Encourage others to be positive too. Life is beautiful and that includes even the challenges we go through.
- Tip#10: Try different things
Sometimes you struggle to make friends easily because you are too stuck in your routine. There’s nothing wrong with having a routine; I also have a routine that makes my life enjoyable.
But you should be flexible enough to try new things especially if you are trying to make friends. You might discover something you like and a friend to go with that.
Trying different things will let you discover some things you didn’t know about yourself. You might even uncover a hidden talent you can share with your friends. Read my post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.
- Tip #11: Go to the right places
This is also very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to go to the places you know potential friends are likely to be hanging out in.
But be wary of friends you make in places like strip clubs because they might not be genuine friends. Go to the park instead, or church, or the library, or the museum, the list is endless.
- Tip #12: Let go of unhealthy friendships
Maybe you can’t make friends easily because all your time and energy is spent on those unhealthy friendships you are still hanging onto.
Unhealthy friendships make you love yourself less than you should. They rob you of your self esteem and position you to make more bad friends in future.
If you know the friendship has no hope of being redeemed, then let go of it so you can focus on forming healthy friendships. This way you’ll regain your love for yourself and your self esteem.
Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.
The final word
You no longer have to struggle to make friends easily. Follow the above tips and be well on your way to making friends who’ll join hands with you as you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.
Always remember to not lose who you are. Be firm about upholding your own values. You’ll appreciate that, and your friends will too.
Thank you for reading this post. I hope it was helpful. Please let us know your own tips to make friends easily.
You’ll also want to read:
10 tips to make new friends by personalexcellence.co
How to make new friends (and keep the old) as a young adult by the greatist.com