Get out of an abusive relationship with these 10 tips

If you’ve been wondering how to get out of an abusive relationship, then you’ve come to the right place.

Keep reading because I’m about to share with you tips you can employ to finally break free from that bondage.

 

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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. An abusive relationship is anything but healthy.

It undermines your freedom and everything good that God intended for you when he made you.

 

So what are the tips to get out of an abusive relationship?

 

  • Tip #1: Lean on God

Yes, my answer to everything. As you try to get out of an abusive relationship, God is your best refuge. And you have to get into his word to be able to draw out his comfort and counsel.

So, take your relationship with God to the next level in this difficult phase of your life. If you’ve never really had a relationship with God, now is the time to start.

God is in the pages of your bible. The bible has the answer to every question you are asking yourself right now.

If you have trouble with your bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #2: Know what you want

It’s people who are unclear about what they want who can’t get out of an abusive relationship.

Be clear about what you want and let your partner know what that is. If your needs can’t be met, then you need to get out provided you’ve communicated your dissatisfaction and done all that’s necessary to make the relationship work.

You can’t get out of an abusive relationship until you do this first tip. And to do it, you must know yourself. So read these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • Tip #3: Communicate before leaving

It might seem unfathomable to communicate with someone who abuses you. But leaving without communicating your departure will inhibit you from finding closure.

So, try to get your partner to sit down so you can have a heart to heart in as calm a manner as possible. Remember this: communication will help you get a clean break as you try to get out of an abusive relationship.

 

  • Tip #4: Know where you are going from here

And I can tell you right now that it’s not into the arms of a new lover. Starting a new relationship shouldn’t even be something you think about as you get out of an abusive relationship.

Be prepared to spend some time alone so you can heal, regroup and prepare to get into a new relationship when the time is right.

 

  • Tip #5: Distance yourself from this relationship as much as possible

Saying you want to stay friends with your partner will only make things more complicated for you as you get out of an abusive relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with remaining in good terms with your partner after you’ve broken up. In fact, that’s the best thing to do.

But you should do that while maintaining some distance from them. And that means not just them but everything associated with them; their family, friends etc.

Clinging to some parts of your partner’s life will only make leaving and staying away much harder for you.

 

  • Tip #6: Get closer to your friends and family

As you distance yourself from your partner, make sure you get closer to your loved ones.

These people are your support system as you get out of an abusive relationship, and you are going to need them as you face a life of readjusting back to your singleness.

 

  • Tip #7: Take a step back from social media

Not just your partner’s accounts, but social media altogether. Social media just throws people’s lives in your face. And remember, those lives are staged and not a true representation of how those people live.

As you get out of an abusive relationship, of course you are going to get hurt when you see other people’s seemingly perfect lives on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc.

You’ll then start to doubt your decision to leave your relationship, though deep down you know that was the right decision to make.

Read the real impact of social media in your life.

Resist the temptation to compare yourself to anyone by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Comparing yourself to others as you get out of abusive relationship will only make you feel worse than you already do about yourself. But there’s nothing to feel bad about. In fact, you should be proud of yourself for taking such a brave step.

Pick yourself up by reading 9 effective strategies to improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #8: Focus on helping others

As you get out of an abusive relationship and lean on friends and family for support, don’t let everything become about you. You should also offer help to them and to many people in this world who need you right now, despite you and them not knowing each other.

So, help others and you’ll no longer feel alone. In fact, you’ll feel fortunate in your life right now.

Read these 8 important tips to be more generous.

Who knows? Maybe this chance to step into selflessness will help you uncover your true calling in life.

You’ll want to read 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #9: Refuse to make excuses

Not for yourself or your partner. Don’t try to give reasons why you might be abused because nothing justifies being someone else’s punching bag.

If you make excuses, you’ll never get out of an abusive relationship. Instead, know right now that you deserve much more respect than what you are getting right now.

You tried to get your partner to see reason. They didn’t, so it’s time to move on from them.

 

  • Tip #10: Forgive

Forgive yourself and forgive your partner. It’s time to move forward and not hold grudges. You want to heal and forgiveness will surely give you healing.

Read my post a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

The final word

The first thing to remember as you get out of an abusive relationship is that the abuse is not your fault, no matter what you think you’ve done wrong.

A healthy relationship should be about mutual respect. An abusive partner has no respect for you and there can’t be a healthy and productive future for you. Get out of an abusive relationship so you can finally realize the life God intended for you: a simple healthy lifestyle.

Remember that forgiveness is a virtue that will heal broken hearts and this broken world, so we must all strive to have it by starting with forgiving those who hurt us deeply.

Also remember to be happy everyday by reading these 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please tell us what you think of it. Have you ever tried to get out of an abusive relationship? Then please share with us your experience. What are some of your tips?

Even if you’ve never tried to get out of an abusive relationship, still share your thoughts with us please.

 

I love these posts you’ll also definitely want to read:

5 ways to escape an abusive relationship by pyschcentral.com

6 ways to escape an abusive relationship by beliefnet.com

How I escaped my abusive relationship by cosmopolitan.com

3 ways to escape an abusive relationship by thehopeline.com

 

 

 

 

Enjoy every weekend with these 10 tips

In life, you should aim to enjoy every weekend. The weekend is the time to put aside your work and focus on recharging so you can get physically, mentally and emotionally ready for the coming week.

So how do you enjoy every weekend?

 

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  • Tip #1: Drop all your work

I don’t care how busy you are; you should still make it a point to enjoy every weekend no matter how many reports you have due at work or school.

Don’t overwork yourself. It’s important to take every weekend off work to recharge.

 

  • Tip #2: Switch off your phone

Even if you are worried your boss might call you to ask about that report. Your boss must know that your weekends are your own private time and he/she shouldn’t interfere.

Switching off your phone and making yourself inaccessible to the outside world is definitely a great tip to enjoy every weekend.

 

  • Tip #3: Invite family and friends over

This is a great tip if you are determined to enjoy every weekend. Maybe you are already living with your immediate family. Then call your aunts, uncles and cousins over. Call your friends over and use the weekend to catch up with them.

Remind yourself why a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

You have no friends? Then read these 12 easy tips to make friends easily.

Invest in great conversations with your loved ones. If you have trouble starting conversations then I recommend 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.

 

  • Tip #4: Cook healthy food

You are trying to enjoy every weekend, so don’t throw your healthy diet out the window. Now isn’t the time to gorge on unhealthy food.

The weekend is not some time off your journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle; it’s still a part of the journey, so eat healthy. Remind yourself why a simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet.

Check out these 10 must-read pros of doing your own cooking and bring everyone together for some bonding.

 

  • Tip #5: Garden

Gardening is definitely a must-do if you want to enjoy every weekend. I tend to my vegetable garden every weekend.

Use the weekends to take care of the source of your healthy foods. If you don’t have a garden you should make it a point to have one. Limited space? Put some pots on your window sills.

Make a vegetable garden without spending any money is a post you must read.

 

  • Tip #6: Explore the outdoors

Especially if you are cooped up indoors on weekdays. This Sunday I spent my entire day outside, reconnecting with nature and enjoying some time away from technology. If you do that, I promise you’ll definitely enjoy every weekend.

 

  • Tip #7: Switch off the television

I know watching TV might sound like a great way to enjoy every weekend. But trust me, TV has no place in your journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Watch less TV with these easy tactics.

If you truly want to enjoy every weekend, then switch off that television and do something worthwhile with your time instead.

 

  • Tip #8: Read

Reading is a great activity to do if you want to enjoy every weekend. I use the weekend to read my bible farther that I do on weekdays. I also occasionally enjoy a great book.

There’s a lot of reading material to choose from so you can enjoy every weekend. Invest your time in reading, it will be worth it.

Exercise caution as you read. I recommend my post are you aware of what you read?

Remember that reading is a great way to nurture your personal development.

 

  • Tip #9: Clean your surroundings

Don’t treat cleaning as an enemy. You should aim to keep your surroundings clean as part of your journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Normally, you are too busy to do thorough cleaning on weekdays. So, do your cleaning on weekends and don’t let that dirt pile on into the next week.

I promise if you learn to appreciate activities like cleaning, you’ll enjoy every weekend.

 

  • Tip #10: Revisit your goals

You might be so busy on weekdays that you don’t have time to think about what you want in life.

Revisiting your goals and assessing your progress is the perfect way to enjoy every weekend. Not every one of your goals is work-related, I hope. You should have goals of what you want out of life in general.

Use the weekend to assess where you are on these goals. Are you making progress? Read these 12 signs you are making progress in your life.

 How successful are you feeling this weekend? Cultivate success everyday with these 7 effective tips.

 

The final word

In this busy world, it’s best that you make it a point to enjoy every weekend. We’ve become so busy and self-absorbed with our nonsense that we forget to live, and the weekend is your chance to really get in touch with what you were destined for: enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

Thank you for reading this post. How do you enjoy every weekend? Please share your tips with us by commenting.

 

 

8 things you must do to make exercise a habit

I’ve just realized that we’ve never talked about how to make exercise a habit. That should’ve been one of the very first posts under exercise as a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

I know I wrote every exercise beginner needs these 10 must-know tips. It’s definitely a worthwhile read but I want to be as straight to the point as I can to address the issue of making exercise a habit. So keep reading.

 

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Like I just said, remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires exercise.

You  might still be struggling to make exercise a habit. Don’t worry, you are not alone. A lot of people all over the world are facing the same challenge.

Until only four years ago, I struggled to make exercise a habit. I’d take off on two full weeks of rigorous, faithful exercise, and then drop off for the following month or even months.

But then, four years ago when I made the decision to start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, I knew I’d have to make exercise a habit.

I experimented with different things for a while before I finally found my rhythm. I’m going to share with you how you can finally manage to make exercise a habit.

 

  • #1: Make a decision once and for all that you are going to make exercise a habit

Really, this is the first step, and without a decision you can never move forward.

You might have started exercising and fallen off the wagon many times before. Assess your decision. Did you make it consciously and intentionally? Because chances are, you didn’t it. You were loose about it, taking that decision frivolously.

It’s time to change that. Make a conscious and intentional decision to make exercise a habit. Only then can you successfully embark on exercise.

 

  • #2: Don’t buy that gym membership just yet

Because then you might find yourself paying for a gym you don’t use. A lot of people seem to think buying a gym membership will force them to exercise. Turns out, it doesn’t and it won’t.

So, if you don’t buy that gym membership, how are you going to make exercise a habit? See #3.

 

  • #3: Use your own surroundings to exercise

Your stairs, your backyard, the road, the park. There’s a lot at your disposal for you to make exercise a habit.

I’ve realized that it’s when you make exercise a natural part of your life that it sticks. It’s much more natural to run at your park than it is to run on the treadmill.

We’d like to believe we are evolving with technology. But the truth is, we’ll always gravitate toward what is natural to us, and technology isn’t. But nature is and it’s time for you to use it to make exercise a habit.

 

  • #4: Don’t rely on exercise partners

There’s nothing wrong with finding partners if you want to make exercise a habit.

But the problem arises when the other person lags behind because then you might be tempted to fall behind as well.

What happens when your partner can’t make it to your jog around the park? Or is sick and has to rest for a week, or a month, or longer?

The danger is that you might tie your progress to another person’s and you definitely shouldn’t do that.

Refuse to take on exercise partners when you first begin to make exercise a habit. Go at it alone. Nothing wrong with letting a friend join you once in a while.

But know that you should exercise independently. That means you should also steer clear of personal trainers. Here’s why you don’t need a personal trainer.

 

  • #5: Incorporate rest days

One of the biggest mistakes you can make when you are trying to make  exercise a habit is to never take rest days.

Rest days are critical to a healthy and consistent exercise regime. I recommend that you read 5 reasons why rest days are good for you. Also read how to know when to take a break from exercise.

Rest days allow your body to recuperate and become ready to resume exercise, and you absolutely need that.

Rest days also help you to keep your workouts new and fresh. Never taking rest days can lead to boredom.

You’ll want to read 7 simple tips to cure boredom during exercise.

 

  • #6: Do what you love

You might not know what that is when you first begin exercising. But I promise you will.

Try different things so you can find out what feels good to you. And then stick with that.

You can’t make exercise a habit if you force yourself to do things that don’t feel good to your body.

If you are worried that sooner or later you’ll get bored, don’t worry. That’s not going to happen because as time goes on, you’ll naturally want to challenge yourself more.

This is the first exercise mistake you are making is a post that will definitely interest you.

 

  • #7: Stop looking for the physical evidence of your efforts

Because you might get discouraged when you don’t see it. But know this: You might not see any physical changes in your body after taking on exercise, but improvements in your health have already taken root inside of you.

And how you feel is much more important than how you look. In time though, you’ll begin to see the physical evidence of your efforts. Just be patient.

 

  • #8: Make a commitment to honor all the other components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

A healthy diet, healthy relationships, personal development and spirituality. You will much more likely succeed to make exercise a habit if you don’t neglect any of these other components.

Remember that it’s fruitless to exercise faithfully while you eat poorly, maintain unhealthy relationships, neglect your personal development and spirituality.

Remind yourself why:

a simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet.

a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

 

The final word

You can make exercise a habit just like you’ve made many other habits over the course of your life. But don’t expect things to happen naturally; be prepared to work hard to make your exercise habit stick.

Now is the time to stop making excuses and instead make things happen. You were meant to move your body, so claim that and enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your thoughts on it? Do you agree with my tips on how to make exercise a habit? Why or why not? Please share with us by commenting.

5 signs you are living a spiritual life

If you are like me, you desire a truly spiritual life. Life in this world as we know it is moving farther away from the spiritual to physical, and this has led to so much emptiness in the lives of many.

Stick with this post so I can give you the signs that you are living a spiritual life.

 

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How exactly would I define a spiritual life?

It’s a life concerned with the spiritual as compared to the physical part of a person.

 

Maybe I’m still not clear on that.

Remember that man is a tri-part being. You ARE a spirit being, you HAVE a soul, you LIVE in a physical body.

So, essentially, you are a spirit, not a physical being. That means we must be working hard everyday to nurture and grow our spirits because that’s what we truly are, especially in full knowledge that a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

 

Are we doing that now?

Unfortunately, no. Most people have completely forgotten and many have never even acknowledged that they are spiritual beings and therefore fail to live a spiritual life.

Everything we do today is concerned with only the physical part of our existence. We do everything we can to take care of our physical bodies. Eating right, exercising, doing beauty treatments, and many of us going to great lengths to not let our physical bodies age.

Well, we might not reflect our true ages because we take care of ourselves. But we can never stop the hands of time. Just because you look 35 when you are 70 doesn’t make you 35, you are still 70.

Whether we like it or not, our physical bodies will die. But get this. Our spirits will never die. They will live for eternity.

It makes sense then that we should be taking care of that which is eternal. And we can set our spirits up for a lifetime of bliss and happiness by taking care of our spirits now while we are still alive in our physical bodies by making the right choices.

Maybe like me, that’s what you’re trying to do. So how will you know you are making progress at living a spiritual life?

Here are the signs you are living a spiritual life.

 

  • Sign #1: You crave the word of God

The word of God is meant to feed your spirit. Every word in the bible is God-inspired and is meant to nourish the spirit.

You’ll know you are concerned with the spiritual life when you crave the word of God and feel empty and incomplete without it.

But you are not going to get there on your own. You are going to have to make an effort to get in the word for you to get to the point of craving it. You can’t crave what you never knew in the first place.

So pick up your bible and immerse yourself in the true source of life. Having trouble with the bible? Then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

  • Sign #2: Your prayers are less self-focused

When I prayed, it used to be all about me. God give me this and that, God do this and that for me.

I thought I was living the spiritual life just because I was praying. But it’s when you change your focus away from yourself to others that you begin to live a spiritual life.

God already knows what you need before you even ask him, so don’t worry about letting him know some things about your life because he already knows.

Instead, spend your prayer time praying for others around you and far away from you, whether you know them or not.

Now I spend less time talking about myself and more time praying for my family, our relatives and friends, our neighbors and their families, our young people, our country, our leaders, Africa, and the whole world.

I pray that God teaches us to help each other and put others’ needs before our own.

I  thank God for the nature he’s given us. But I’m thinking now that I should start praying and asking him to teach us how to take care of that nature.

Your prayer will become more fruitful when you focus on others. If you are struggling to pray then read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Sign #3: You enjoy and appreciate nature more than you ever have in your life.

Nature used to be just something around us. I never paid much attention to it until I started nurturing my relationship with God.

Now I marvel at nature all the time. I marvel at the unmatched light of the distant moon, sun and stars.

I marvel at the trees that have probably been here long before I even came, giving me the oxygen that I breathe.

I marvel at the animals that, though have nothing, still manage to remain taken care of.

I marvel at the plants springing back to life after a long, dead and cold winter.

I keep thinking that’s how God designed human beings as well. The long, dead and cold winter of our lives would be our troubles and failures: divorces, homelessness, financial hardship, sickness and disease, etc.

But God meant for us to spring back to life replenished and new at the end of our troubles, because they will surely come to an end.

You’ll know you are living a spiritual life when you feel connected to nature. You feel part of it and know it’s incomplete without you, just as you are incomplete without it.

 

  • Sign #4: You no longer care about what the world cares about

Fashion, all the empty entertainment, pleasing people. No, now that you are living a spiritual life you are concerned with only pleasing God, knowing if you please God, you please those who love God just like you do.

I no longer worry about what I have in my wardrobe or who’ll laugh at my outfit choice. Who’ll mock me because I’m not buying a car or a smartphone when everyone else. Who’ll mock me because I’m not on social media.

I no longer feel the need to compare myself to anyone. I now know no one on this earth is the standard, just as I’m not the standard. There’s only one standard and role model; and that’s Jesus Christ.

Read my post on do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

Also read how to stop comparing yourself to others.

 

  • Sign # 5: You are no longer scared of death.

Death used to scare me to death (pun!). Not only was I scared of dying. I was also scared of losing loved ones. Death scared me into so much anxiety that sometimes I’d wake up in the middle of the night panting.

That was before I learned and understood that death of the physical body means nothing because when that happens, the true me, which is the spirit remains alive for eternity.

Now, I’m no longer scared of parting with my physical body because it was just a borrowed suit to begin with.

Instead of worrying about death, I kind of look forward to being with my father when he calls me. And it’s freeing living with that much peace and calm.

 

The final word

The spiritual life was something meant for each and every one of us as children of God. It’s us who choose daily to separate ourselves from our true nature by honoring the physical rather than the spiritual.

But you no longer have to live this limited life you’ve been living. You can elevate yourself to the level God intended for you.

If you feel like you are already living a spiritual life, now isn’t the time to stop. Keep striving to reach unknown heights of this life by staying close to God.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? Do you agree with my definition of a spiritual life? If not, please tell us why.

What are your own signs of living a spiritual life? Please share with us by commenting.

10 must-read pros of doing your own cooking

If you are wondering if you’d be better off doing your own cooking, you are right.

There are limitless pros to doing your own cooking versus buying ready-made food from restaurants or the supermarket. Read on to find out the pros of doing your own cooking.

 

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We all know that most people feel pressed for time to do their own cooking, what with all the demands on their time: kids, careers and many other commitments.

But why does doing your own cooking have to take a backseat when it comes to honoring those demands?

The way I see it, doing your own cooking should fit right at the top of your priorities seeing that it’s the quality of the food you eat that will determine whether or not you have enough energy to honor all the other demands.

Without wasting any more time, let’s dive straight into the pros of doing your own cooking.

 

  • #1: Doing your own cooking straight away puts you in charge of your diet and therefore your health.

Wouldn’t you like that? To have complete control over your diet instead of handing that control over to someone else like the indifferent chef at that restaurant or that exhausted one at the supermarket?

If you are serious about enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, and you know that a simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet, then you know you have to be in charge of your own diet. And the only and best way to do that is by doing your own cooking.

If you are in charge of your diet, you’ll have control of your health, and that’s what we must all be striving for.

Your food choices will determine how healthy you are where the diet component of a simple healthy lifestyle is concerned.

Learn how to use food as medicine for your body with these 6 effective tips.

 

  • #2: Doing your own cooking straight away puts you in charge of your time

If you say you don’t have the time for doing your own cooking, then you are saying that you are a victim of time, and that’s a negative mentality to have.

Finding the time to do your own cooking puts you in complete control of time. You are not the victim and you can actually manage time better than someone who chooses to let time limit them.

 

  • #3: Doing your own cooking makes you prioritize on quality

If you are going to cook unhealthy food, then don’t bother. You’d be better off stepping into that restaurant or supermarket instead.

Because of doing my own cooking, I tend to prioritize on cooking the best quality food we have available at home.

If you are going to take the time and effort to do your own cooking, then your food has to be of the best quality.

 

  • #4: Doing your own cooking puts you in control of what goes into your food

I’m talking about your choice of ingredients. Not only do you get to decide on what ingredients to add but you also get to decide on how much of those ingredients to add.

I tend to add less oil and salt to my cooking. I don’t add sugar at all, except a little bit when I make bread because my family is not ready yet to quit sugar.

You need these  12 tips if you want to eat less sugar.

Being in charge of what and how much ingredients to put in your food will surely guarantee a healthy diet.

 

  • #5: Doing your own cooking helps stave off unhealthy cravings

You tend to crave healthy foods when you are doing your own cooking, provided you always cook healthy foods.

Remember that eating healthy/unhealthy is all about conditioning the  subconscious mind.

By cooking only healthy foods, you teach your mind that healthy foods are the only and best thing to eat, thereby getting rid of your cravings for unhealthy foods.

You’ll be interested in how to stop obsessing over calories.

You’ll also want to read how to stop binge eating.

 

  • #6: Doing your own cooking helps you save money

You save a lot of money. You don’t throw money away on those pricey dishes at the restaurant. You know how to compromise on ingredients in order to reduce costs while still obtaining the best quality.

You are careful not to unnecessarily throw out food and you learn to recycle things like stale breads, and the list is endless.

 

  • #7: Doing your own cooking may help you uncover a hidden cooking talent

There are a lot of people who don’t know they are talented at cooking simply because they’ve never taken the time to experiment with cooking, or maybe they did try it, but didn’t stick with it long enough to discover that talent.

I used to hate doing my own cooking. And because of that I was terrible at it. But then I quit my job and found myself sitting at home, faced with the responsibility of cooking for my family everyday.

It was that obligation that drew out the great cook in me. You might just discover your hidden cooking talent if you resort to doing your own cooking.

Read 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • #8: Doing your own cooking makes you appreciate life more

Because you are in touch with the food you eat, you tend to appreciate that more than if you let someone else do your cooking.

It wasn’t until I started doing my own cooking that I started appreciating how nature gives me the food that I eat, aware of their work in me to keep growing me everyday.

We are literally the food we eat. That’s a massive thing to ponder. And when you do, you’ll be passionate about doing your own cooking, eating clean and even growing your own food.

Make a vegetable garden without spending any money is a must read.

 

  • #9: Doing your own cooking fosters healthy relationships

And we all know that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. Doing your own cooking when you have a family will bring you together. I appreciate whoever does our cooking at home. I have new founded respect for them whenever they put my plate in front of me.

After a long day at work for you and school for your kids, why would you let the mechanical tendency of your lifestyle extend to your diet as well by eating store or restaurant-bought foods?

Don’t. Do your own cooking, encouraging your family to lend a hand and bond while you do so.

 

  • #10: Doing your own cooking puts you in charge of your weight

And weight is a source of concern for many people around the world. A lot of people are unhappy with their weight, but most if not all of them would lose all that excess weight and keep it off by doing their own cooking.

If you eat out everyday, how can you be shocked when you pack on extra pounds? I too used to worry about gaining weight, but since I started doing my own cooking, weight is no longer a concern because I have it under control.

 

The final word

Nothing beats doing your own cooking. It makes you a chef in your own kitchen. God gave us the natural ability to feed ourselves, so don’t hand that power over to another person and prioritize less important things over your own healthy eating.

There’s everything to be gained from doing your own cooking and nothing to lose from it. If you haven’t tried your hand at it or you’ve been skimpy about doing your own cooking, then start taking charge of what goes into your body because that literally builds or breaks you.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your thoughts about it? Do you do your own cooking? Then share with us your own pros? If you don’t do your own cooking, please share with us why?

 

7 compelling CONS of the 9-5 daily grind

I didn’t always dread the 9-5 daily grind. As far as I knew, that was exactly what we were all supposed to do after finishing school.

 

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I did get into the grind when I graduated university. I was ecstatic because it my first time holding that much money.

But it soon got to me that the 9-5 daily grind wasn’t something I wanted to do. I couldn’t imagine continuing with it for the rest of my life.

But I left that first job not because I wanted to quit the 9-5 daily grind. Rather, it was because I had an opportunity I wanted to seize.

The opportunity ended up falling through before I even started. I sat at home looking for another job to no avail.

As I write this, I haven’t had any other job since that first job. But am I still looking? Absolutely not! Do I still want to get back to the 9-5 daily grind? Not even if I was paid a million dollar salary.

So what changed? Here are the cons of going back to the 9-5 daily grind.

 

  • Con #1: The 9-5 daily grind gives you only a limited chance to grow

As soon as you’ve been trained for your job, that’s it. You are at it for years before you get a promotion, that is, if you get one at all.

That happened to me. I reached a point at my first job where I felt like I’d learnt all I could learn in my position and I felt stuck.

 

  • Con #2: The 9-5 daily grind rarely challenges you.

If you don’t like being challenged, then I guess the daily grind is for you. But I know the majority of people like to feel challenged.

And the 9-5 daily grind will challenge you when you first arrive. After that, even the task you felt was the most difficult when you began, you can now do with your eyes closed.

Have you ever felt like that?

 

  • Con #3:  The 9-5 daily grind usually means you have to answer to someone, and that’s not the way to live.

For me it wasn’t that I had a problem respecting authority or taking instructions.

But it gets to a point where you know you’ve had enough of all the commands and being barked at occasionally.

It helps if you have a decent boss. If you don’t, you are in trouble.

Now that I’m my own boss, I don’t have to worry about that any more. Read my post on the truth about being your own boss.

 

  • Con #4: The 9-5 daily grind can make you less happy

And we know that’s detrimental to our journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

It makes sense. Why would you be happier working on someone else’s clock, being told what to do and what not to do for the better part of the day?

If you are less happy in your job, then it’s time to make a change. I recommend 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

 

  • Con #5: The 9-5 daily grind can dampen your own goals and dreams

You exchange those for your bosses’ goals and dreams. Everything you do must be to fulfill someone else’s dream.

While a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships in which you learn to put the needs of others before your own, you should remember that you can’t begin to do that successfully if you’ve neglected your own needs.

You can’t fix someone else’s life when yours is in shambles. And you can’t usher someone to a destination you’ve never been to yourself.

So, fulfill your own goals and dreams, or at least work toward doing that so you can know how to help others.

 

  • Con #6: The 9-5 daily grind invites social pressure

You know what I mean. Now that you have that job, you feel forced to meet people’s expectations and fit into the stereotype of a working individual.

You have to have that bigger house even though you don’t need it, buy that bigger car even though the one you have is still working for you, put your kids into the more expensive schools, eat at fine restaurants, get married, have kids, etc.

You are expected to do that because those things are expected from those who have jobs.

You stop living life the way you want and have to live it the way everyone else wants.

Read my post on do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

Also read my post on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

 

  • Con #7: The 9-5 daily grind invites financial pressure

And if you are serious about enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you need to stop making money an issue.

The financial pressure comes from wanting to make a show of the working person you are by spending more money than you have.

The loans will only bury you alive. Don’t be afraid to be honest with yourself about what you can and can’t afford.

Don’t tie your worth to any item. And refuse to be forced into financially burdening yourself.

Live debt-free with these 7 easy tips.

 

The final word

Of course I’m not saying people should quit the 9-5 daily grind. I’d never say that. People are different. Maybe the 9-5 daily grind works for you. Then go ahead and enjoy it.

Or maybe you are like me and you’ve had enough of it. Then there’s absolutely nothing wrong with stepping away to try your hand at something else.

As long as we do things that make us happier than we are now without trampling on anyone else’s rights, then we are on the right track to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle and we should keep going, encouraging each other on our journey.

 

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your thoughts on it? Does the 9-5 daily grind work for you? Then please share your experiences with us. If it doesn’t work for you, also share with us.

 

 

 

 

Cultivate success everyday with these 7 effective tips

If you want to cultivate success in your everyday life, then you are in the right place.

Stick with me because I’m about to give you tips on how you can do that. Your life is about to become better and simpler than you ever imagined.

 

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Before I embarked on my journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, I felt more like a failure than a success.

That made sense because there was a lot I wanted to have achieved but hadn’t. My goals were still not yet achieved and my dreams not yet lived.

I was just a failure trying everyday to salvage what was left of my energy to try to make something of myself.

I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this. The world has created a definition of success that only a few of us can meet. The rest of us feel like failures everyday.

What does success mean to you? Because your definition of success will determine if you can cultivate success everyday in your life or not.

OK, here are the tips to cultivate success in your everyday life.

 

  • Tip #1: Re examine your values, or identify them for the first time

Values are vital if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life. Your values basically define what’s most important to you.

Many of us would like to think we have values. But if we get asked about them,  in a job interview for instance; we go blank.

Now is the time to be clear about what your values are. And you can’t know what your values are if you don’t know yourself.

So, get to know yourself, being honest with yourself about what’s most important to you. Not to someone else but to you. Not to your parents, or spouse, or boss, or best friend but to you.

6 useful tips to know yourself better is a must read.

 

  • Tip # 2: So then, redefine success

Success means different things to different people. What I define as success might not be success to you, and vice versa.

So what does success mean to you? Forget about the definitions you’ve heard from other people, and I’m sure you’ve heard more than an earful.

What does success mean to you? What does it mean to you to feel successful? To me it means to live my values everyday.

You should have clear answers to these questions if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life.

 

  • Tip #3: Read the word of God

Simply because it’s the perfect manual for your life, especially as you try to cultivate success.

God says in many places that you are precious, and your value to him has nothing to do with the net worth that the world has attached to your name.

Go on, read the word of God and realize that you are the most important of God’s creation.

Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power… (CEV)

1 John 5 v 4: Every child of God can defeat the world, and our faith is what gives us this victory. (CEV)

2 Corinthians 2 v 14: …In the Messiah, in Christ, God leads us from place to place in one perpetual victory parade… (MSG)

There are many more verses that define you as successful. Open the word of God and meditate on it.

If you have trouble understanding your bible, I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Ask God to reveal the true meaning of success to you as you pray to him. Read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #4: Remove money as an issue

This tip must actually come first if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life.

People have given money power it doesn’t deserve. If you define success in terms of money, as in, you feel most successful when you have a lot of money then you are going to have a problem because what happens when you are not making as much money as you think is necessary to make you a successful person?

True success has nothing to do with money. In fact, completely remove money from the equation because it has no place in the definition of success.

In the past few months I’ve been learning to remove money as an issue and to live on less and less money everyday. Soon, I’ll dedicate an entire post to that.

But in the meantime, forget about your bank balances and how much you are making at your job. Cultivate success by removing money as an issue.

 

  • Tip #5: Recognize and appreciate that your best tools for success are free

If you want to cultivate success in your life, then you need not worry about resources because the best resources are given free of charge.

Have you noticed that nature’s best gifts are not bought with money but are freely available to everyone?

The sun shines on both the rich and the poor, as do the moon and the stars. The rain pours down on the soils of both the rich and the poor, and flora and fauna is for everyone’s eyes.

After all that, there’s nothing more magical. If we have all these free of charge, then we all have success at our disposal.

 

  • Tip #6: Live life on your own terms.

This is crucial if you want to cultivate success in your life. In fact, I have an entire post called do you have the guts to live life on your own terms? You have to check it out.

Refuse to compare yourself to others by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Your definition of success doesn’t have to align with anyone else’s definitions, even when you seem to be the only one with your definition.

Don’t be tempted to do what everyone else is doing because you think it’s the right and only way to cultivate success in your everyday life. Stick to your guns about what success means to you.

 

  • Tip #7: Choose to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle

This tip is the main reason behind this entire blog. We should all aspire to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle because it’s our right as children of God.

Let’s do away with the complicated human philosophies that have robbed us of our joy and success, and replace those with the simple key components of food and diet, exercise, personal development, healthy relationships and spirituality.

There’s nothing complicated about living these key elements. They are all simple and can be enjoyed by everyone.

I recommend the following posts so you can remind yourself of these key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle:

A simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet

A simple healthy lifestyle requires exercise

A simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships

A simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality

 

The final word

For a long time I was deceived into believing I wasn’t successful just because I was lacking in some areas.

We are all human, so you can be lacking in some areas, many areas, and still be successful. Refuse to wait until you are perfect so you can feel successful because you’ll be waiting forever.

Instead redefine and cultivate success everyday by making it achievable.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts with us about what it means to cultivate success in your everyday life.