5 qualities of the most fulfilling life goals

Life goals are a must-have for everyone.

Recently I listened to an inspiring and wise man who said humans don’t need life goals. That our existence is a goal on its own.

While I think we should be grateful for our existence; I also believe we need goals to propel us. We thrive on motivation, and having life goals gives us the motivation we need to keep getting out of bed every morning.

 

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It’s only when we make self-centered life goals that life becomes unfulfilling for most people.

So, what are the 5 qualities of the most fulfilling life goals?

 

  • #1: They more on others and less on yourself

Your life goals will fulfill you to the end of time if they are focused more on others and less on yourself.

It’s much more fulfilling to have a life goal to help the needy than to have one where you want to own a house with ten bedrooms.

 

  • #2: They focus more on life itself and less on material things

Nothing wrong with wanting to have goals that focus on nice materials things for yourself: a nice house, a lovely car etc.

But your goals will be much more fulfilling if you focus on life itself, and life is much larger than our material wants.

Setting goals to be happy, content, peaceful, patient, kindhearted is much more fulfilling than setting life goals to own several houses in the world’s largest cities.

 

  • #3: They are independent of the influence of others

There’s nothing wrong with good influence from others. But we face more bad than good influence in making our life goals.

You might feel pressured to set life goals that will make your loved ones happy, rather than give you fulfillment.

You might also be tempted to set life goals so you can keep up with the Joneses.

Read how to stop comparing yourself with others so you can set yourself free to make life goals free from the bad influence of others.

I also recommend do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

Your loved ones should only be of good influence. Remind yourself why a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • #4: They remove money as an issue

Life goals that are dependent upon you having a certain amount of money won’t carry you far.

Fulfilling goals should be goals you can implement right here right now, regardless of the weight of your pocket.

Goals that focus on being generous, kind, loving, peaceful, happy, compassionate etc don’t require you to have money.

Read 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • #5: They are timeless

No matter how much time passes, true life goals should continue to stand and fulfill you.

There’s nothing wrong with saying you want to do this and that within 5 years. But the time lapse can leave you feeling unchallenged and unfulfilled.

In contrast, goals to be happy, generous, helpful etc don’t have an expiration date.

 

The final word

In order to truly enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, life goals should move from being shallow to being deep and meaningful, and the best way to do that is to look at real life, especially with focus away from self to others.

Setting goals the right way can maintain our fulfillment to the end of time, making us live longer, and productively.

The above 5 ways of making the most fulfilling life goals are deeply rooted in God and what he requires of us according to his word.

Familiarize yourself with God’s will for your life by reading the bible. I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

While you are at it, pray to God and ask him to plant the right life goals in your heart. Read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

You can’t follow God and not be happy and fulfilled. An intimate relationship with our Father guarantees the best things in life.

Are you aware of God’s blessings for you? Read this post and know your rights as a child of God.

 

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? What do you define as life goals? And what are your own goals? Please share with us by commenting.

Cultivate success everyday with these 7 effective tips

If you want to cultivate success in your everyday life, then you are in the right place.

Stick with me because I’m about to give you tips on how you can do that. Your life is about to become better and simpler than you ever imagined.

 

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Before I embarked on my journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, I felt more like a failure than a success.

That made sense because there was a lot I wanted to have achieved but hadn’t. My goals were still not yet achieved and my dreams not yet lived.

I was just a failure trying everyday to salvage what was left of my energy to try to make something of myself.

I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this. The world has created a definition of success that only a few of us can meet. The rest of us feel like failures everyday.

What does success mean to you? Because your definition of success will determine if you can cultivate success everyday in your life or not.

OK, here are the tips to cultivate success in your everyday life.

 

  • Tip #1: Re examine your values, or identify them for the first time

Values are vital if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life. Your values basically define what’s most important to you.

Many of us would like to think we have values. But if we get asked about them,  in a job interview for instance; we go blank.

Now is the time to be clear about what your values are. And you can’t know what your values are if you don’t know yourself.

So, get to know yourself, being honest with yourself about what’s most important to you. Not to someone else but to you. Not to your parents, or spouse, or boss, or best friend but to you.

6 useful tips to know yourself better is a must read.

 

  • Tip # 2: So then, redefine success

Success means different things to different people. What I define as success might not be success to you, and vice versa.

So what does success mean to you? Forget about the definitions you’ve heard from other people, and I’m sure you’ve heard more than an earful.

What does success mean to you? What does it mean to you to feel successful? To me it means to live my values everyday.

You should have clear answers to these questions if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life.

 

  • Tip #3: Read the word of God

Simply because it’s the perfect manual for your life, especially as you try to cultivate success.

God says in many places that you are precious, and your value to him has nothing to do with the net worth that the world has attached to your name.

Go on, read the word of God and realize that you are the most important of God’s creation.

Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power… (CEV)

1 John 5 v 4: Every child of God can defeat the world, and our faith is what gives us this victory. (CEV)

2 Corinthians 2 v 14: …In the Messiah, in Christ, God leads us from place to place in one perpetual victory parade… (MSG)

There are many more verses that define you as successful. Open the word of God and meditate on it.

If you have trouble understanding your bible, I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Ask God to reveal the true meaning of success to you as you pray to him. Read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #4: Remove money as an issue

This tip must actually come first if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life.

People have given money power it doesn’t deserve. If you define success in terms of money, as in, you feel most successful when you have a lot of money then you are going to have a problem because what happens when you are not making as much money as you think is necessary to make you a successful person?

True success has nothing to do with money. In fact, completely remove money from the equation because it has no place in the definition of success.

In the past few months I’ve been learning to remove money as an issue and to live on less and less money everyday. Soon, I’ll dedicate an entire post to that.

But in the meantime, forget about your bank balances and how much you are making at your job. Cultivate success by removing money as an issue.

 

  • Tip #5: Recognize and appreciate that your best tools for success are free

If you want to cultivate success in your life, then you need not worry about resources because the best resources are given free of charge.

Have you noticed that nature’s best gifts are not bought with money but are freely available to everyone?

The sun shines on both the rich and the poor, as do the moon and the stars. The rain pours down on the soils of both the rich and the poor, and flora and fauna is for everyone’s eyes.

After all that, there’s nothing more magical. If we have all these free of charge, then we all have success at our disposal.

 

  • Tip #6: Live life on your own terms.

This is crucial if you want to cultivate success in your life. In fact, I have an entire post called do you have the guts to live life on your own terms? You have to check it out.

Refuse to compare yourself to others by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Your definition of success doesn’t have to align with anyone else’s definitions, even when you seem to be the only one with your definition.

Don’t be tempted to do what everyone else is doing because you think it’s the right and only way to cultivate success in your everyday life. Stick to your guns about what success means to you.

 

  • Tip #7: Choose to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle

This tip is the main reason behind this entire blog. We should all aspire to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle because it’s our right as children of God.

Let’s do away with the complicated human philosophies that have robbed us of our joy and success, and replace those with the simple key components of food and diet, exercise, personal development, healthy relationships and spirituality.

There’s nothing complicated about living these key elements. They are all simple and can be enjoyed by everyone.

I recommend the following posts so you can remind yourself of these key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle:

A simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet

A simple healthy lifestyle requires exercise

A simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships

A simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality

 

The final word

For a long time I was deceived into believing I wasn’t successful just because I was lacking in some areas.

We are all human, so you can be lacking in some areas, many areas, and still be successful. Refuse to wait until you are perfect so you can feel successful because you’ll be waiting forever.

Instead redefine and cultivate success everyday by making it achievable.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts with us about what it means to cultivate success in your everyday life.

Live stress free with these 10 great tips

Do you want to live stress free? Then you are in the right place because I’m about to share with you easy tips you can start using right now to live stress free.

 

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I too used to want to live stress free. But at the time, I was riddled with so much stress that the notion to live stress free seemed far fetched.

There was so much going on in my life. I wanted so many things that I didn’t have. And the things that I did have didn’t seem to be helping much to achieve the ones I wanted.

I had too much going on in my head. I stressed about my present and my future so much I couldn’t concentrate on anything long enough to finish it.

This struggle remained even long after I made the decision to start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

But right now as I write this, I’m confident that I have let go of stress and now live stress free.

It was hard at first letting go of stress because I’d gotten so accustomed to it that it was a legitimate part of my life.

But I can tell you right now that my life is much better without stress and I look forward to every coming day and whatever it brings; pleasures and discomforts.

You can live stress free too, and here’s how:

 

  • Tip #1: Read the word of God

This is the best tip to live stress free. The word of God is soothing in a truthful way.

It lets you know that you are loved beyond explanation by our father, and also offers counsel. You can’t go wrong if you stick to it.

2 Timothy 3 v 16: Everything in the Scriptures is God’s word. All of it is useful for teaching and helping people and for correcting them and showing them how to live. (CEV)

You can trust the word of God to always tell you the truth. It doesn’t manipulate you by telling you only what you want to hear. So you can trust it to always be honest with you.

Now you can tailor your life to go in step with God’s counsel. If you do that, you are more than guaranteed to live stress free.

Read 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 7 easy steps to help you find rest in God.

 

  • Tip #2: Re-examine you values

Or examine them for the first time. It’s easy to assume that every one is aware of their values. But some people just live unaware of their values.

Consciously re-examine your values. Your values will always make it clear to you what you want in life.

Now that you are clear on your values, you can begin to pinpoint the things you should do away with.

Those things will highly likely be your stressors, so this tips is extremely important if you want to live stress free.

 

  • Tip # 3: Forgive yourself

You can’t begin to live stress free if you can’t forgive yourself. You are swimming in guilt or regrets and therefore you have too much stress on your hands.

Remember life is for everyone to enjoy. And it’s a journey, not a destination. Just because you took a detour to the wrong side doesn’t mean you can’t find your way back to the right path.

Work toward becoming a better person. Let your mistakes be life lessons. Everyone makes mistakes, remember that.

Let the mistakes of your past be your past, and those include the mistakes you made yesterday because now they are in the past.

 

  • Tip #4: Forgive others

Just as it’s important to forgive yourself, it’s equally important that you forgive others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Others are just as worthy of forgiveness as you are. Forgiving others frees you more than it frees them.

I’m sure you know what I mean. Have you ever been in the same room as a friend who wronged you a few months ago?

You are still pouting and sulking in the corner and they are laughing with everybody else and having a good time?

I know the feeling. And it just makes you look and feel stupid. Forgive others and free yourself to also enjoy yourself at all times.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

  • Tip #5: Accept your life just the way it is

Yes. This is also very important if you want to live stress free.

So what if your life is pretty bad right now? I know you are wondering about that.

Then accept it just the way it is. Accepting it doesn’t mean settling in it. It means consciously acknowledging it instead of running away from it in denial.

Whatever your life circumstances, accept them. If you’ve been in jail, or you are in jail, accept that.

If you’ve been an abusive spouse, then accept that.

Only when you accept your life circumstances can you begin to take steps to improve them. This will definitely help you to live stress free.

 

  • Tip #6: Think the best of every situation

I don’t care what it is. Divorce, disease, failing at school, getting fired from work, you name it.

These are bad situations, I know. But it’s the bad situations that always teach us the best lessons in life as long as we don’t play the victim but accept them.

So always see the best of whatever situation you find yourself in. I guarantee that this will help you live stress free.

 

  • Tip #7: Be present in everything you do

It’s easy to be preoccupied with other things while we are doing one thing, and this elevates stress.

If you are washing dishes, but now you are worried about paying the bills and the kids’ tuition, and the mortgage, then stress is bound to overwhelm you.

Instead, learn to be present in what you are doing. You can teach yourself to think of only washing the dishes.

You can compartmentalize everything so that you don’t let your stressors dominate all your time. This way you don’t let stress prevent you from being productive.

Read 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.

 

  • Tip #8: Leave the future where it’s supposed to be, in the future

Don’t stress about the unreal. Everything in the future is unreal; have you ever thought about that? That wedding you are planning for Christmas, it’s unreal. That house you are going to buy next summer, that’s unreal.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan for them. But you should remember that tomorrow is unknown and things might turn out differently than you thought, or they might not even happen at all.

So, in this midst of the unknown, why stress? No, focus on what you can do now and leave the future to God to handle.

 

  • Tip #9: Declutter your life

And do this in every way imaginable if you want to live stress free. People have a lot of stress because they have a lot of material, mental, emotional, financial, intellectual and social clutter. If only they could declutter their lives.

You don’t need all those other things outside of your basic needs. Stop hoarding stuff because managing it means stress. Simplify your life in the best possible way.

Soon I’ll dedicate an entire to post to decluttering your life, so please keep following my posts.

 

  • Tip #10: Be grateful

I’m surprised by people who roll their eyes at this tip. Don’t underestimate the significance of gratitude if you want to live stress free.

Most people can’t get out of stress because instead of being grateful for the good things in their lives, they are busy whining about the bad things in their lives.

Sometimes they whine even about the good things because they’ve become blind to how lucky they are.

If you are like that, it’s time to change. Gratitude is the best antidote for stress, so take a spoonful and live stress free.

 

The final word

The decision to live stress free is well within your reach; you just have to make it. If you are used to living with stress, then the thought that you can live stress free can seem inconceivable and unreal at first.

But it is your right as a child of God to live stress free and enjoy the life God has blessed you with.

Many people have died and many are dying right now, so you are blessed to still be alive. Don’t let one more moment of your life go wasted as you wallow in stress.

You can make a choice to be happy from this moment forth. All it takes is a decision to be happy. I recommend 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

Also check out how to be free from anger.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? Are you trying to live stress free? Then please share with us how you are going about doing that.

 

 

 

 

17 simple things you must do to become happier

If you are like every other person on the face of the earth, you want to become happier. Keep reading to learn what you must do in order to become happier.

 

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  • #1: Realize that happiness is a state of the mind

It’s all within you to become happy. It’s all in your mind. If you are currently unhappy, then you need to cultivate your mind for some happiness.

And the good news is, you can become as happy as you want just by exercising your mind the right way. So become happier by working your mind to give you as much happiness as you need.

 

  • #2: Stop looking for happiness around you

This follows from the point above. Happiness is not external, it’s internal. So, stop looking around you to become happier.

The people around you and the things around you are not responsible for making you become happier.

By letting go of the idea that the people around you must make you happy, you enable yourself to form and enjoy healthy relationships.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • #3: Make a choice to become happier

Becoming happier is a choice just like many other different choices you make in life.

If you are currently less happy than you should be, it’s because you’ve made that choice, whether or not you realize it.

So, consciously choose to become happier.

 

  • #4: Renew your choice to become happier every day

Just because you chose to become happier yesterday doesn’t mean you are set for happiness for the rest of your life.

Renew your decision to become happier every day.

 

  • #5: Be active in the word of God

You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

The word of God says you have a right to become happier than you are right now. It says happiness is one of the many blessings bestowed upon each and every one of us by our Father.

Don’t skimp out on reading the word. And don’t just read it, live it. This will definitely help you become happier.

Read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • #6: Realize that you have everything you need in order to become happier

Remember that it’s not about the external things. You, all on your own, have everything you need in order to become happier. That’s powerful.

So, use this power you have and don’t let it go to waste.

 

  • #7: Stop comparing yourself to others

Nothing good can come out of you comparing yourself to others because you’ll always come out feeling short.

Learn to run your own race. Be confident in who you are. Know yourself enough to not be swayed by how people around you are living their lives.

Read my post on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Also read 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

You’ll also definitely want to read 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • #8: Focus more on helping other people and less on yourself.

I can honestly say this has helped me become happier. I used to focus too much on myself and my needs. I thought I was happy until I started focusing on other people more.

Then I realized the true meaning of happiness.  You can too if you learn to focus more on other people than you do on yourself.

 

  • #9: Forgive and accept yourself just the way you are

You are God’s creation, so you are already perfect. Stop trying to fix whatever you think is wrong with you and start celebrating yourself.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Take them as opportunities to grow.

 

  • #10: Forgive and accept others just the way they are

Become happier by cutting other people some slack, just as you should do for yourself.

Accept others’ mistakes and forgive them. Forgiveness is a medicine for the heart.

 

  • #11: Give

It can be your money, time, labor, talent or any other resource. Giving is a sure way to help you become happier.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • #12: Take care of yourself

Just because now you are focusing more on other people than on yourself doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself.

Actually, you can’t successfully care about and love other people if you can’t do those things for yourself first.

You have to be fit in every way to take care of others. So take care of yourself if you want to become happier.

Eat right, exercise, focus on your personal development, spirituality and on nurturing and developing the traits that will enable you to become a part of healthy relationships.

 

  • #13: Be positive

Positivity will definitely help you become happier. Always try and see the best in every person and every situation. Worry less and rejoice more.

 

  • #14: Be grateful

Grateful people are way happier than those people who aren’t grateful. There’s plenty to be grateful for.

Stop whining about what you don’t have and start showing gratitude for what you have.

 

  • #15: Smile and laugh

Smiling and laughing work magic if you want to become happier. On those days when I don’t feel too good, just smiling and laughing literally brighten up my mood and my day.

Please learn to do the same. Your true beauty shows when you smile and laugh.

 

  • #16: Focus on doing the things you love

Don’t waste time on the things you don’t like if you want to become happier. Live your hobbies and your talents. Read this post on 10 important steps to nurture and develop your talent.

 

  • #17: Make the most of every day

People who do this become happier. Knowing you are not wasting your days contributes tremendously to your happiness. Read this post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

 

The final word

You can become happier right at this very moment if you make a decision to do so. Happiness is available to everyone, regardless of your life circumstances.

So, don’t use your divorce, childhood trauma, disability etc as an excuse to remain unhappy. And don’t grow weary in your journey to become happier because you will definitely get where you want to go.

Judge your growing progress along the way, remembering to focus on the long term rather than the short term. The pursuit of happiness is a lifelong journey after all.

Read this post on 12 signs you are making progress in your life.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Are you happy? Do you want to become happier? Tell us what you think you need to do in order to become happier.

 

You’ll also want to read:

How to be happy: 23 ways to be happier by psychologytoday.com

10 ways to be happier by realsimple.com

12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist

If you are struggling to become a good conversationalist then you are in the right place. I used to struggle with the same thing.

But now I can confidently say that I can successfully start and hold a good conversation to the very end. I’m about to share with you how you can become a good conversationalist.

 

A picture for tips to become a good conversationalist

 

Tip #1: Talk about things you are passionate about

And the only way to identify the things you are passionate about is to spend time with yourself so you can learn everything about yourself – your likes and dislikes.

This way you’ll clearly identify what you want to talk about and this will definitely help you become a good conversationalist.

Read my post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

Tip #2: Capitalize on your talents

As long as you use your talents to benefit other people, then you’ll always have something worthwhile and interesting to talk about and you’ll definitely become a good conversationalist.

A talent you keep to yourself is a wasted talent. Use your talent for the benefit of others. They’ll want to know more about it and ask questions, and this will help you talk more about things that will definitely excite people.

Read my post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

Tip #3: Listen

This tip is extremely important if you really want to become a good conversationalist. Have you ever met a person who’s good at talking but never shuts up? They don’t listen and all they want to do is talk?

I know I’ve met such people. I used to be one of those people. And you already know how annoying it is to spend time with such a person.

People like to be listened to. So, you might be great at starting conversations, but if you don’t learn to listen, you’ll lose the other person’s attention. So learn to listen.

 

Tip #4: Concentrate less on yourself and more on the other person

People like to feel important. If you spend a lot of the conversation on you, then you can never become a good conversationalist.

Rather, concentrate on the person you are talking to. Ask them about their hobbies, family, career, etc and you’ll get them talking.

As they talk, make nice comments and be supportive. As long as you do this, you never have to struggle to become a good conversationalist.

 

Tip #5: Learn different things

Knowing a variety of topics is very important if you want to become a good conversationalist because as long as you know a lot of things, you’ll always have something to talk about.

You don’t have to learn everything, that’s impossible. Remember it’s all about what interests you, and I’m sure that’s quite a lot.

Remember to always pay attention to what you read. Read my post on are you aware of what you read?

 

Tip #6:  Practice good oral hygiene

You might never have thought of this tip in this context but having good oral hygiene is also very important if you want to become a good conversationalist.

No one wants to talk to someone with bad breath. Remember, some conversations may be so intimate that you are sitting right next to the other person, face to face.

So you want your breath to be friendly when you do that.

 

Tip#7: Know when to stop

Just like learning to listening, knowing when to stop is also crucial if you want to become a good conversationalist.

I can have a good conversation with someone, but if the conversation carries on for far too long, then it becomes more tiring than exciting.

So know when to stop talking so that you leave the other person as interested in your conversations as they were when you first started.

 

Tip #8: Practise

Don’t overlook the importance of practice if you want to become a good conversationalist.

You can practise with those you love because you feel most comfortable with them and you can trust them to give you their honest opinions.

In time, you’ll definitely become a good conversationalist.

 

Tip #9: Be polite

You might know someone who’d become a good conversationalist if they’d only reduce the amount of cursing in their speech.

Honestly, I don’t know who’d enjoy all the vulgar words in a conversation. They are just so raw and off-putting.

Be polite in your language so there’s no chance of offending the other person and chasing them away. This will contribute toward helping you become a good conversationalist.

 

Tip #10: Nurture and develop your writing skills

Talking and writing go hand in hand, well, intelligent talking, at least. If you can’t write, then chances are, you are can’t hold a good conversation either.

Maybe some people can get away with doing one and not the other. But I promise you’ll become a good conversationalist if you hone your writing skills.

You don’t even have to look hard for something to say; if you have some written work you can always talk about that.

Read these 11 crucial tips every aspiring writer must know.

 

Tip #11: Be gentle and don’t force yourself onto people

Yes, don’t act desperate if you really want to become a good conversationalist. If you realize the person you are trying to talk to is not interested in what you have to say, then leave them alone.

Don’t take their resistance personally. They truth is, not everyone is going to want to talk to you. Plus, people have their own lives and they might be busy, or wanting some time and space. Give them that.

But there’ll also be plenty of people who’ll want to talk to you and who you can become great friends with, thanks to you becoming a good conversationalist.

Read this post on 12 easy tips to make friends easily.

 

Tip #12: Don’t be judgmental

Don’t make conclusions about the other person, and most importantly, don’t voice out any judgments.

Would you like to be judged? No. So, refuse to judge others if you want to become a good conversationalist.

Be open-minded at all times. Remember to keep your relationships healthy and intact because they are a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read this post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

The final word

If you are struggling to become a good conversationalist, then be of good cheer. You can and you will become a good conversationalist if you work hard and wisely at it.

Use the tips above and they’ll definitely help you become a good conversationalist. Remember to focus less on yourself and more on the person you are talking to.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your thoughts on it? Can you share with us your own tips to become a good conversationalist?

 

You might also want to read:

How to become a great conversationalist by entrepreneur.com

Hate awkward silences? 10 essential tips to be a great conversationalist by lifehack.org

 

 

 

8 important tips to be more generous

The world would be a better place if we’d all learn to be more generous. I believe that generosity is a human trait everyone is born with, but our own selfish desires sometimes dampen it until it’s so dormant that we can’t even believe we have it.

 

A picture for tips to be more generous

 

I know for one that I’d love to be more generous. In fact this is one of my life goals. Now, being generous wasn’t something I thought of until recently. Since accepting God into my life and having his word tell me to love others, I’ve been burning with the desire to be more generous.

Generosity might actually seem counterproductive to your own growth if you look at it in the shallow way. I mean, you are trying to get more stuff and yet you must give some of it away.

And remember that generosity is not about giving away only material things. There are other resources to give like your talents, time, labor etc.

Our relationships with others are more strengthened if we learn to be more generous. And we know that in order to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle we must form and nurture healthy relationships. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Now, I present to you tips to be more generous.

 

  • Tip #1: Get in the word of God

If you follow my blog, you already know by now that getting in the word of God is my first step and tip toward everything in life.

The word of God is a true manual for our lives and if we follow it, we can never go wrong. The word of God encourages us in more places than one to give to those in need.

2 Corinthians 8 v 12: It doesn’t matter how much you have. What matters is how much you are willing to give from what you have (CEV).

If that’s the case, then everyone of us must give because whatever our situation, there’s always someone more in need than we are.

 

  • Tip #2: Be content with what you have

You can’t be more generous if you are always complaining about what you don’t have. You want more clothes, more cars, more money. You believe you can never have enough.

If that’s your mentality then you can’t possibly be more generous because all you are concerned with is hording more things.

Instead, be happy with what God has given you. He promises to always be with us, so whatever you have, he’s given you. Be happy with it.

 

  • Tip #3: Stop copying and envying others

If you want to be more generous, you are going to have to stop copying those around you. This tip is a great complement to tip #2: Be content with what you have.

Copying others is so detrimental it will lead you spiraling into an unfulfilled life. Whatever your friends, your neighbors, your relatives have, that’s none of your business. Run your own race. Do you have the guts to live life on your own terms? is a post you’ll need to really live this tip.

 

  • Tip #4: Get involved in the lives of others

Sometimes we want to be more generous, but we can’t be if we live in our own little bubbles because then we are not aware of how other people live and the lacks they have.

Get involved in the lives of others. Definitely not in an intrusive kind of way but in a way that lets them know you care about them. This way, you’ll be able to identify who needs what and you are at a much better position to help and be more generous toward others.

 

  • Tip #5: Be grateful

This sounds similar to tip #2: be content with what you have. But being content is one thing, actually showing gratitude for that contentment is quite another.

If you are content but that contentment is hidden inside of you, you can’t fully be more generous. There’s something about giving thanks for what you have, audibly giving thanks, that just opens up your spirit to be more generous.

So don’t be shy, or take gratitude for granted. Show it.

 

  • Tip #6: Partner with others

You don’t have to be more generous alone. Encourage others to also be more generous. Sometimes it’s not that people don’t want to be more generous, it’s just that they don’t know where to start.

So without being boastful, let others know what you are doing and partner with them so you can all be more generous.

 

  • Tip#7: Be modest in your generosity

By modest I mean don’t tweet your own horn and let everyone know last night you fed so and so’s family. It’s in fact better to not be generous at all than to brag about what you do for others.

If you want to be more generous, do it to help others, not for your own glory.

 

  • Tip #8: Start small

If you worry that you have to do big deeds in order to be more generous then you are wrong. It’s actually the little things that might count most with those you help.

Start small, and that can be buying school stationery for a poor kid, or helping them with homework. Sounds simple enough, right? Maybe you have the talent to tutor kids, so use that talent to benefit those kids. Read these 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

The final word

We can all be more generous if we step up and realize that we already have so much. Stop complaining about what you want, and start being thankful for what you have. As long as your needs are already met, then you have more than enough to live on and to be more generous with.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts with us by commenting. Let us know your own tips of how we can all be more generous.

 

You’ll also want to read:

10 little ways to become more generous by becomingminimalist.com

8 simple and easy ways to become more generous by lifehack.org

How to be free from anger

Being free from anger is liberating beyond explanation. See, anger is a negative emotion that takes more than it gives, unless you are talking about giving you disease. Being free from anger is something we must all strive to achieve. Continue reading so you can learn how to be free from anger.

 

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A lot of people struggle with anger management. There used to be a time in my life when I did too. It didn’t take a lot to anger me, and when I did get angry, it was excessive.

Let me tell you. I once blew up at my boss at work. I stood up in a meeting of more than one hundred people and called out the boss that everyone, including myself, was scared of.

That might have been brave because I was standing up for my rights. But it was the wrong way to go about doing that. Since then, I’ve consciously stepped away from that kind of anger, and anger altogether.

A life free from anger is a life of freedom in every way imaginable. You free up your spirit to focus on the positive and in the process, you free up your body to enjoy that positivity.

 

Here’s how you can be free from anger:

  • Get into God’s word

I know. It seems like this is my first answer to every question. Well, the truth is, it is. The word of God is literally a manual for your life. It has the answer to every question you have right now.

The word of God tells us to not go to bed angry, and it tells us to love each other. It tells us to patiently put up with each other.

There’s no anger evident in any of the scenarios above. And in the first scenario, the word of God comes right out and condemns anger.

So, be free from anger by getting into God’s word and meditating on it. Pray to God for guidance. Read my 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Avoid anything that triggers your anger

Avoid people who make you angry. If it means changing the people you hang around with, then so be it.

If it’s someone at work or school who you can’t avoid, then converse with them only in matters concerning work or school so you limit the chances of them saying something that makes you angry. This will definitely help you be free from anger.

 

  • Practice forgiveness

I’ve already mentioned patiently putting up with each other. Now, go further by forgiving others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Everyone makes mistakes, including you. And everyone deserves forgiveness for their mistakes, including you. Forgive others just as you’d like them to forgive you and by doing this you will be free from anger.

If you hold grudges, you open yourself up to a lot of heartache, which births diseases. Plus, holding grudges robs you of healthy relationships and we know that healthy relationships are one of the key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read my post: a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • Address your personal issues and make peace with your life

Sometimes all you need to be free from anger is to address the issues in your life. And these are issues no one else but you might know of. Maybe you are struggling with addictions.

It’s common that when you are frustrated with your private things, you tend to take them out on others in the form of anger.

Instead of lashing out, address your addictions. Lean on the word of God, and seek counseling. You shouldn’t be alone in your time of need and there are a lot of people who are ready to help you so you can be free from anger.

 

  • Live a simple life

This is extremely important. I know the world today encourages cut-throat competition and a high lifestyle few can afford.

Don’t let people dictate how you should live. Read this post on having the guts to live life on your own terms.

Be clear about what you want. Know yourself enough to know the kind of life you want to lead and be firm about it. I have these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

A simple life is the best life. Simple means affordable, and you can never go wrong with affordable.

Living a life you can’t afford burdens you, and this breeds anger. So be free from anger by living simply, quietly, minding your own business.

 

The final word

Do everything you can in order to be free from anger. Freedom from anger will liberate you and attract good things into your life.

You’ll have the best that life has to offer, and though challenges will arise, your new attitude will ensure you deal with challenges with amazing positivity that will enable you to always emerge triumphant at the other end of your problems.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I know a lot of people struggle to be free from anger. Are you struggling too? Let us know. If you’ve struggled to be free from anger before but you managed to conquer your anger, please share with us how you did that.

 

You’ll also be interested in:

10 biblical truths to overcome sinful anger by biblestudytools.com

3 ways to break free from anger by huffingtonpost.com

Keys to powerful living: overcoming anger by cbn.com

The truth about being your own boss

Being your own boss is very rewarding. Of course the challenge in it stems from the fact that when you are your own boss, you hold the reigns of your life. You hold the key to every dream you have. You have your goals in your hand, and whether or not you get to achieve those goals is completely up to you, and you alone.

 

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Being my own boss has always appealed to me, but it was talk like this that always made me second-guess myself when it came to if I could really do it. And yet surprisingly, the truth is a that a lot of people think working for someone else is harder than being your own boss.

No, that’s not true at all. Working for someone else is easier because you are sure of your pay as long as you follow the rules that have been laid out for you.

If you come into work on time, you do all your tasks before their deadlines are up, you have no problem taking instructions and cooperating with the authority, then you are sure to get paid at the end of the month.

If you get sick sometime during the month and have to stay home, you are still sure to get paid as long as your bosses know your sick leave is legitimate.

All you do when you work for someone else is show up at work, do your job to the best of your ability and get paid. You are sure to get paid whether or not the business makes profit.

 

But being your own boss is different in that in addition to showing up at work, you don’t get paid if the business doesn’t make profit. In fact, you stand to lose a lot if the business fails.

If you get sick sometime during the month and have to stay home, then the business stays sick and home with you, as long as you work alone. That means you are temporarily not making money for as long as you are not working.

Now, this full-time requirement of being your own boss is one of the things that scare some people away from being their own bosses. I know it used to scare me too.

I became my own boss accidentally. When I left my job in 2014, my intention was to go back to school. When that failed I found myself sitting at home with no money. I spent 2 years looking for another job and trying to go back to my previous one to no avail.

I finally managed to start my own business and become my own boss. I am my own boss right now.

Like I said above, being your own boss is not easy. You have to be determined to make things work. You have to exercise the kind of discipline that will get you working tirelessly on your goals, the kind of discipline many people are not patient enough to learn and master.

Here’s the truth about being your own boss that I didn’t get to know until I became my own boss.

 

  • Being your own boss teaches you patience

If you are serious about being your own boss, and you work hard at it, you learn to become patient. That’s because things might not come as quickly as you’d hoped and because you know quitting is not an option, you learn to wait patiently for things to come to pass.

 

  • Being your own boss is rewarding but not glamorous

Just because it’s rewarding doesn’t make it glamorous. Imagine being sick and being afraid to stay away from work because you know if you stay away from work you won’t be able to make money.

Usually at the beginning of your journey of being your own boss, you are working alone. That means you are in charge of everything from finances to marketing.

That’s a lot of work that leaves you wiped out at the end of the day and frustrated at most times before things begin to pick up. And they might take a long time to pick up.

 

  • Being your own boss makes you more aware of the passing time

I never realized how fast the days and the years go by until I became my own boss and decided to make it count.

While everyone else is looking forward to the end of the year so they can enjoy the festive season and get ready for the new year, I literally want to stop the hands of time just so I can have more to do before I take stock of my life at the end of the year.

I feel like I have so much to do and very little time. Now I have a new schedule in which I focus on my relationship with God from 8am to 12noon, then work on my blog from 12noon to 6pm and then work on my ebook from that time until I retire to bed at 09:25pm.

Now all of a sudden it feels like the day has been reduced from 24 hours to maybe 8. Right now its 05:27pm. I’ve been sitting here since 07:45am and yet I feel like I just sat down to work. That’s how quickly time passes when you are your own boss.

 

  • Being your own boss means the rewards can be slow to come

You might be cash strapped for a very long time, and for many people that’s just unbearable. When money comes into the business, you think about paying everyone else first before you pay yourself and sometimes after you finish paying everyone else, there’s nothing left for you to pay yourself.

Now we know you are supposed to pay yourself first if you dream of having any savings or investing. But if there’s not enough money left in your business account after you pay yourself, then you’ll definitely find yourself in trouble with your suppliers and everyone else carrying your business. And that’s not something you want to happen.

 

  • Being your own boss makes you less self-focused

You know you need to put a lot of emphasis on your personal development, your exercise, food and diet, healthy relationships and spirituality if you want to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

But being your own boss can take the focus away from these important things. If you find yourself swamped with work and a lot of responsibilities, taking care of yourself can feel like the last priority.

It’s not uncommon to find a self-employed person who’s in poor health. That’s because when you are your own boss and you don’t make a conscious effort to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, you can get lost in the melee of your work and suffer for it.

 

Being your own boss definitely rearranges your priorities

There was a time when I used to care a lot about my fashion sense. When I was working the 9-5, I made it a point to always look polished. With my salary I bought new clothes, makeup, hair extensions and all that.

If you see me now, you’ll hardly believe I’m the same person. The last time I bought hair extensions was 4 years ago. I go for weeks without putting on makeup and I haven’t bought a new piece of clothing in 4 years with the exception of winter socks I bought in April 2017.

In an effort to save money, I’ve stopped going to the salon and I do my own hair. The hairstyle I have now is pathetic because I’m still learning to do my own hair. But I’m determined to make this work so I’ll keep this shabby appearance until I know my business is on track.

Right now my priority is on the business, keeping it afloat and getting it to return some money to me. That’s what I care about.

 

Being your own boss makes you impervious to people’s judgements

Unless you are a people pleaser and not very sure about being your own boss. Because if you really want to be your own boss, then you don’t care what other people say about you, whether to you or behind your back.

I used to care about people’s opinions of me. I’d get depressed if someone said anything remotely negative about me, to me or to someone else. I’d be more concerned about making people like me than I was about actually being myself.

Now, I couldn’t care less what people think of me. I’m saying that because I love people and I always try to be friendly and helpful to everyone. So whoever doesn’t like me, that’s none of my business.

Being your own boss will make you grow a thick skin when it comes to dealing with people, and pretty much everything else.

 

The final word

Being your own boss is the best thing you can do for yourself. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else. After all, the world wouldn’t work if we were all our own bosses.

But if you are thinking of being your own boss and you wonder if it’s worth it, the answer is, YES, it’s totally worth it. Go for it, keep at it, never look back and you’ll reap the rewards of your choice.

Being your own boss is not as hard as you think. Find something you love doing and turn it into a business. We all have talents. What’s yours? Use your talent to benefit those around you and love every minute of doing it. I talk about 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

If you want to assess the progress you are making in being your own boss, then read this post on 12 signs you are making progress in your life.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I feel like I’m in a better position to have something to say about this topic after having a taste of working for someone else and then being my own boss.

What about you? Are you your own boss? Or maybe you aren’t but you are thinking of being your own boss? Please share your story with us by commenting. Thank you.

 

The following will definitely interest you:

So you want to be your own boss by entrepreneur.com

5 essentials for succeeding when you become your own boss by entrepreneur.com

5 steps to becoming your own boss by wework.com

9 effective tips to improve your self-esteem

If you are looking to improve your self-esteem then you’ve come to the right place. These days many people have their self-esteem threatened by the endless demands placed on them. Society now expects more from us than it used to and we are labeled failures if we can’t deliver.

 

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We know that self-esteem is vital in our journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. So then, how do you improve your self-esteem when the odds seem to be against you? How do you rise up from the puddle of self-worthlessness when the world seems to have knocked you down? You will need these 9 effective tips to improve your self-esteem:

 

  • Tip #1: Get in touch with the real you

Many people don’t know their true identities. They define themselves using names. Someone will say, “I’m Peter, or Jack, or Mary.” And that’s OK. But it’s not the true definition of who you are. You are a child of God, and that’s a title way above the VIP. It’s the ultimate highness. Knowing you are a child of God, and using that as your identity is the first tip to embrace if you want to improve your self system.

Praying is a great way to get in touch with the real you. Prayer brings out the best in us because we don’t pretend but approach God with genuineness and humility. Talk to God about your struggle and ask him to show you who you are. 

If you are struggling to pray, read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #2: Spend some time with yourself

Yes, alone. Many people find that scary. That’s why loneliness exists. Think of it. If you were to spend time with yourself and enjoy your own company, you wouldn’t feel lonely. You’d feel fulfilled and complete. If everyone in the world would spend time with themselves, loneliness wouldn’t exist.

Many people lack self-esteem because they can’t have a relationship with themselves. They don’t deem themselves worthy of attention from themselves. Spend time with yourself and don’t be scared to do so. When you spend time with yourself, you learn things you wouldn’t learn when you fill your time with other people’s company.

Now you can discover your true talents. Read these 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent. You’ll recognize the great things about yourself, and learn how you can improve the not-so-great ones. This will elevate your self-worth because you realize the treasure you are and what you can contribute to the world. This will definitely improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #3: Stop relying on other people’s opinions of you

You can’t improve your self-esteem if you keep relying on people’s accolades. I used to feel low on myself if I went out into the world with a new hairstyle, or an expensive outfit, and nobody paid me a compliment. I’d secretly get mad if I gave a great presentation in class and no one had a compliment for me after class.

You can’t improve your self-esteem if you take to heart criticisms of you by other people either. A friend doesn’t like your hairstyle, or your husband made a nasty remark about your weight. Don’t let those comments put you down. Stop relying on other people’s opinions of you. Rely on God’s opinion of you and he says you are his most beloved.

 

  • Tip #4: Help other people

Have you ever stopped to think that the reason you struggle to improve your self-esteem is because you are too self-absorbed? You’ve made everything to be about you. It’s me me me, all the time. If you focus too much on yourself and leave no room to care for other people, then you’re going to fall short somewhere in your opinion of yourself because no one is perfect, including you.

But if you focus on helping other people, lending a hand where needed, a sympathetic shoulder to a crying friend, a plate of food to a starving kid, you get the kind of fulfillment only these actions can birth. There’s so much power in reaching beyond self to others in service, if only people could realize that. Start paying attention to this and you’ll definitely improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #5: Embrace mistakes instead of beating yourself up over them

Mistakes present an opportunity for you to learn something. Mistakes are not evil, they are something to welcome into your life. Imagine living a life of no mistakes. How would you possibly learn?  If you want to improve your self-esteem, don’t fall into the trap of beating yourself up over your mistakes, the trap of endless regrets.

Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes, including you. Be receptive to your mistakes and do your best to learn from them so you can be a better person tomorrow.

At the same time, refuse to let other people punish you for your mistakes. If you battled a gambling addiction but have repented and you are now working hard to commit to an addiction-free life, refuse to let people’s comments put you down. Learn to do this and improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #6: Live in the present, not the past

This follows from Tip #5. Maybe you led a colorful past of alcohol addiction or prostitution but you’ve changed and you are now trying to live a better life. Don’t let people use your past against you. Most importantly, don’t use your own past against yourself.

Sometimes it’s not even people who attack you; you attack yourself. If you do that, you’ll always feel worthless. Forgive yourself, live in the present where you are a changed person and improve your self esteem.

 

  • Tip #7: Find a strong support system

This could be anyone you trust whom you confide in about your struggle with self-esteem. It could be your colleague at work, or your teacher, or pastor. Or it could be all of these people. It’s important that you find a great support system that can hold your hand when you have doubts and pull you along with love. Finding a strong support system will definitely help you improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #8: Stop comparing yourself to others

Comparing yourself to others is a no-no if you really want to improve your self-esteem. If you are always competing with your friends and neighbors, envying their jobs, their cars, their families, their lives in general, you’ll always feel like you lack something.

You are making a huge mistake by gauging your life against the lives of others. Live your own life and enjoy it. Run your own race and don’t worry about racing your friends and colleagues down to the finishing line.

 

  • Tip #9: Take care of yourself

Maybe you are struggling to improve your self-esteem because you feel like you are not where you want to be in terms of health. And this goes beyond just your physical health. So exercise, eat healthy foods, read inspiring books, go back to school if you have to, take your relationship with God to the next level, cherish your relationships, etc.

Neglecting your health is a sure way to make your self-esteem suffer. So take care of yourself and improve your self-esteem.

 

The final word

The world we live in today can be hard on us. You are not alone if you are struggling to improve your self esteem. But use the tips above and begin working to improve your self-esteem. Don’t forget who you are. You are God’s child. An original. Don’t ever let go of that.

 

Thank you for reading this post.  Are you struggling with self-esteem too? Or maybe you used to but have conquered it? Please share your journey with us by commenting. What are your own tips to improve your self-esteem?

 

Check these out of you want more tips on how to improve your self esteem:

8 steps to improving your self-esteem by psychologytoday.com

10 tips for improving your self-esteem by reachout.com

25 killer actions to boost your self-confidence by zenhabits.net

11 crucial tips every aspiring writer must know

A good reader of my blog asked me if I had tips for an aspiring writer, and I promised to dedicate an entire post to that.

 

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Remember that in our quest to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, we make an emphasis on discovering your talent and putting it out there. We talk about that here.

So, do you feel like you’ve been called to be a writer? Because if that’s the case, then writing is what you should be doing, what you should be focusing your attention on. Writing is one of the things that mean a lot to my life. I know I was born to write.

And here’s something interesting. I used to write a lot when I was younger. I would sit with my notebook and write for hours everyday. And it didn’t feel like work. It felt like something I wanted to do and I never wanted to stop.

And then as I grew older I wrote less and less. I know why. When I was younger, I was innocent and driven by my passion. I didn’t care about whether or not my writing would have an audience. I wrote because the words were in me and they wanted to come out.

And then as I grew older, I tainted the innocent act of writing with notions such as ‘you should have an audience.’ I started going on the internet and learning there were people who might not even like my work.

That was too much information for me, information I didn’t want to know, information I didn’t need to know. So then I began to write less because I had embraced these limiting factors which inhibited my creativity and made me feel less excited about my writing.

Almost every aspiring writer today faces the same problem. We’ve lost our innocence. We’ve listened to so many opinions that have dampened our zeal for writing. Today we write with anxiety because we are worried there might be people out there who won’t like our work.

We write with fear and uncertainty because the internet says the odds of making a living as a writer are against you. You hear of those few people who are living as established writers and wonder with a heavy heart if you’ll ever be one of those people. And because the internet says the odds are against you, you have thrown in the towel but are in denial about it. So, now your writing is suffering.

But today I present 11 tips every aspiring writer must know. These tips will take you back to the zeal you used to know when writing.

 

  • Tip#1: Dismiss what you’ve heard from other people about whether or not you’ll make it as a writer

And I mean that. Every aspiring writer should dismiss everything they’ve ever heard about whether or not they’ll make it as a writer because I’m willing to bet it wasn’t good. Decide if writing is truly your passion, because if it is, then you’ll know you were called to fulfill it no matter what other people say.

 

  • Tip#2: Stop googling ‘can I make a living as a writer?’

Seriously, stop doing that. How have you been making a living until now? Because you have to continue with that and write every chance you get. Google is nothing more than other people’s opinions. That leads us back to Tip #1: Dismiss what you’ve heard from other people about whether or not you’ll make it as a writer.

If you are an aspiring writer and you know you were born to write, then don’t worry about whether or not you can make a living as a writer. Write with faith, and everything will sort itself out.

 

  • Tip #3: OK, now start writing

And I’m not talking about now and then or once in a while. I’m talking about writing as often as you can, and as much as you can. Go back to that zeal you had before your mind was polluted by other people’s opinions. When your writing was passionate and free.

 

  • Tip #4: Stop waiting for inspiration

I wish I could go back to that time before I knew the meaning of the word inspiration, because then I had no excuse to not write. An aspiring writer who says they are waiting for inspiration was never a writer in the first place and can’t carry that title long term. I know because I used to be that kind of writer.

Two months ago, I finished an 80 000-word novel I’d been working on since 2014. Now, there’s nothing wrong with the time it takes you to write a novel. Don’t feel like you have to rush. But at the same time, don’t stall because you are waiting for inspiration. I took that long to finish my novel because sometimes I waited for days, sometimes weeks for inspiration.

Now I’m working on a new novel of a similar length. I started it a little over a month ago, and I’m already halfway done with my first draft. I had a vague idea of what I wanted the novel to be about when I started and nothing else. Every day I take to my computer with no idea of what I’m going to write, but I manage to put words on my screen every day.

 

  • Tip #5: Write about what pleases you, not other people

An aspiring writer sometimes worries about writing to please other people because they want to sell their work. I don’t like that because it makes writing less personal. Write about what makes you happy, and that way you’ll give writing your everything. Then readers will definitely appreciate your work.

 

  • Tip #6: Start a blog

Now, this is one tip I heard over and over again for years. I didn’t understand it until I started my own blog. Now I wish I could shake someone’s hand, but whose? Starting your own blog as an aspiring writer is one of the most fulfilling things.

If you are worried about sitting for months before your work is completed, then blogging will take care of that because you get to put out posts while you are working on your longer project. It’s a perfect balance that keeps you working hard at both pursuits.

Soon I’ll dedicate an entire post to starting your own blog and what to expect.

 

  • Tip #7: Finish your work before you try to get published

Getting published would definitely be nice. But don’t obsess about it. Finish your work before you try to get published. Don’t waste valuable time and energy looking for publishers when you haven’t yet completed your work, especially if it’s fiction work.

And another important point under this tip: don’t query any agents before you complete your work. If they ask to see your work and it’s not ready, that’s bad. Polish your work before you even think of typing the word query.

 

  • Tip#8: Create your own routine

Don’t worry about Stephen King’s routine, or the routine of that famous blogger whose blog makes $10 000.00 monthly. You are not them, you are you. As an aspiring writer, you should create a routine that works for you. If you can’t write in the morning because you are swamped with work at home, and you best write in the afternoon because you are free, it’s OK, work with that. Don’t copy anyone, appreciate your own uniqueness.

 

  • Tip#9: Keep your work to yourself if you can’t handle rejection

I’m talking about when you are still working on your project. If you know you’ll only be demoralized by people’s rejection of your work, then keep it to yourself until it’s finished. If it’s rejected then, you are likely to improve it if it’s finished than if it’s not.

 

  • Tip #10: Don’t let rejection bring you down

This follows on tip #9. If an agent rejects your query or a publisher says your work is not the right fit for them, then don’t worry. There are many other agents and publishers out there you can contact.

Work on the comments you get to make your work even better. Don’t stress about anything. You are a writer and nothing and nobody is going to change that.

 

  • Tip #11: Read

Every aspiring writer should read a lot. Read other people’s work. If you have your own voice, then you shouldn’t worry about copying someone else’s. Reading will broaden your mind,  help you see what works and what doesn’t. Plus, reading is fun.

 

The final word

If you are an aspiring writer, you must begin to act like the writer you were called to be and write. Don’t worry about anything but write. If nobody appreciates your work now, someday someone else will. In the meantime, your passion for writing should keep you going.

 

Thank you for reading this post. If you are an inspiring writer please tell us your story. Which tips work for you? Please share with us by commenting.

 

There’s a lot information out there to help the aspiring writer.

For more tips, read this great article by artplusmarketing.com.

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