5 qualities of the most fulfilling life goals

Life goals are a must-have for everyone.

Recently I listened to an inspiring and wise man who said humans don’t need life goals. That our existence is a goal on its own.

While I think we should be grateful for our existence; I also believe we need goals to propel us. We thrive on motivation, and having life goals gives us the motivation we need to keep getting out of bed every morning.

 

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It’s only when we make self-centered life goals that life becomes unfulfilling for most people.

So, what are the 5 qualities of the most fulfilling life goals?

 

  • #1: They more on others and less on yourself

Your life goals will fulfill you to the end of time if they are focused more on others and less on yourself.

It’s much more fulfilling to have a life goal to help the needy than to have one where you want to own a house with ten bedrooms.

 

  • #2: They focus more on life itself and less on material things

Nothing wrong with wanting to have goals that focus on nice materials things for yourself: a nice house, a lovely car etc.

But your goals will be much more fulfilling if you focus on life itself, and life is much larger than our material wants.

Setting goals to be happy, content, peaceful, patient, kindhearted is much more fulfilling than setting life goals to own several houses in the world’s largest cities.

 

  • #3: They are independent of the influence of others

There’s nothing wrong with good influence from others. But we face more bad than good influence in making our life goals.

You might feel pressured to set life goals that will make your loved ones happy, rather than give you fulfillment.

You might also be tempted to set life goals so you can keep up with the Joneses.

Read how to stop comparing yourself with others so you can set yourself free to make life goals free from the bad influence of others.

I also recommend do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

Your loved ones should only be of good influence. Remind yourself why a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • #4: They remove money as an issue

Life goals that are dependent upon you having a certain amount of money won’t carry you far.

Fulfilling goals should be goals you can implement right here right now, regardless of the weight of your pocket.

Goals that focus on being generous, kind, loving, peaceful, happy, compassionate etc don’t require you to have money.

Read 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • #5: They are timeless

No matter how much time passes, true life goals should continue to stand and fulfill you.

There’s nothing wrong with saying you want to do this and that within 5 years. But the time lapse can leave you feeling unchallenged and unfulfilled.

In contrast, goals to be happy, generous, helpful etc don’t have an expiration date.

 

The final word

In order to truly enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, life goals should move from being shallow to being deep and meaningful, and the best way to do that is to look at real life, especially with focus away from self to others.

Setting goals the right way can maintain our fulfillment to the end of time, making us live longer, and productively.

The above 5 ways of making the most fulfilling life goals are deeply rooted in God and what he requires of us according to his word.

Familiarize yourself with God’s will for your life by reading the bible. I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

While you are at it, pray to God and ask him to plant the right life goals in your heart. Read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

You can’t follow God and not be happy and fulfilled. An intimate relationship with our Father guarantees the best things in life.

Are you aware of God’s blessings for you? Read this post and know your rights as a child of God.

 

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? What do you define as life goals? And what are your own goals? Please share with us by commenting.

Get out of an abusive relationship with these 10 tips

If you’ve been wondering how to get out of an abusive relationship, then you’ve come to the right place.

Keep reading because I’m about to share with you tips you can employ to finally break free from that bondage.

 

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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. An abusive relationship is anything but healthy.

It undermines your freedom and everything good that God intended for you when he made you.

 

So what are the tips to get out of an abusive relationship?

 

  • Tip #1: Lean on God

Yes, my answer to everything. As you try to get out of an abusive relationship, God is your best refuge. And you have to get into his word to be able to draw out his comfort and counsel.

So, take your relationship with God to the next level in this difficult phase of your life. If you’ve never really had a relationship with God, now is the time to start.

God is in the pages of your bible. The bible has the answer to every question you are asking yourself right now.

If you have trouble with your bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #2: Know what you want

It’s people who are unclear about what they want who can’t get out of an abusive relationship.

Be clear about what you want and let your partner know what that is. If your needs can’t be met, then you need to get out provided you’ve communicated your dissatisfaction and done all that’s necessary to make the relationship work.

You can’t get out of an abusive relationship until you do this first tip. And to do it, you must know yourself. So read these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • Tip #3: Communicate before leaving

It might seem unfathomable to communicate with someone who abuses you. But leaving without communicating your departure will inhibit you from finding closure.

So, try to get your partner to sit down so you can have a heart to heart in as calm a manner as possible. Remember this: communication will help you get a clean break as you try to get out of an abusive relationship.

 

  • Tip #4: Know where you are going from here

And I can tell you right now that it’s not into the arms of a new lover. Starting a new relationship shouldn’t even be something you think about as you get out of an abusive relationship.

Be prepared to spend some time alone so you can heal, regroup and prepare to get into a new relationship when the time is right.

 

  • Tip #5: Distance yourself from this relationship as much as possible

Saying you want to stay friends with your partner will only make things more complicated for you as you get out of an abusive relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with remaining in good terms with your partner after you’ve broken up. In fact, that’s the best thing to do.

But you should do that while maintaining some distance from them. And that means not just them but everything associated with them; their family, friends etc.

Clinging to some parts of your partner’s life will only make leaving and staying away much harder for you.

 

  • Tip #6: Get closer to your friends and family

As you distance yourself from your partner, make sure you get closer to your loved ones.

These people are your support system as you get out of an abusive relationship, and you are going to need them as you face a life of readjusting back to your singleness.

 

  • Tip #7: Take a step back from social media

Not just your partner’s accounts, but social media altogether. Social media just throws people’s lives in your face. And remember, those lives are staged and not a true representation of how those people live.

As you get out of an abusive relationship, of course you are going to get hurt when you see other people’s seemingly perfect lives on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc.

You’ll then start to doubt your decision to leave your relationship, though deep down you know that was the right decision to make.

Read the real impact of social media in your life.

Resist the temptation to compare yourself to anyone by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Comparing yourself to others as you get out of abusive relationship will only make you feel worse than you already do about yourself. But there’s nothing to feel bad about. In fact, you should be proud of yourself for taking such a brave step.

Pick yourself up by reading 9 effective strategies to improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #8: Focus on helping others

As you get out of an abusive relationship and lean on friends and family for support, don’t let everything become about you. You should also offer help to them and to many people in this world who need you right now, despite you and them not knowing each other.

So, help others and you’ll no longer feel alone. In fact, you’ll feel fortunate in your life right now.

Read these 8 important tips to be more generous.

Who knows? Maybe this chance to step into selflessness will help you uncover your true calling in life.

You’ll want to read 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #9: Refuse to make excuses

Not for yourself or your partner. Don’t try to give reasons why you might be abused because nothing justifies being someone else’s punching bag.

If you make excuses, you’ll never get out of an abusive relationship. Instead, know right now that you deserve much more respect than what you are getting right now.

You tried to get your partner to see reason. They didn’t, so it’s time to move on from them.

 

  • Tip #10: Forgive

Forgive yourself and forgive your partner. It’s time to move forward and not hold grudges. You want to heal and forgiveness will surely give you healing.

Read my post a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

The final word

The first thing to remember as you get out of an abusive relationship is that the abuse is not your fault, no matter what you think you’ve done wrong.

A healthy relationship should be about mutual respect. An abusive partner has no respect for you and there can’t be a healthy and productive future for you. Get out of an abusive relationship so you can finally realize the life God intended for you: a simple healthy lifestyle.

Remember that forgiveness is a virtue that will heal broken hearts and this broken world, so we must all strive to have it by starting with forgiving those who hurt us deeply.

Also remember to be happy everyday by reading these 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please tell us what you think of it. Have you ever tried to get out of an abusive relationship? Then please share with us your experience. What are some of your tips?

Even if you’ve never tried to get out of an abusive relationship, still share your thoughts with us please.

 

I love these posts you’ll also definitely want to read:

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How I escaped my abusive relationship by cosmopolitan.com

3 ways to escape an abusive relationship by thehopeline.com

 

 

 

 

5 signs you are living a spiritual life

If you are like me, you desire a truly spiritual life. Life in this world as we know it is moving farther away from the spiritual to physical, and this has led to so much emptiness in the lives of many.

Stick with this post so I can give you the signs that you are living a spiritual life.

 

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How exactly would I define a spiritual life?

It’s a life concerned with the spiritual as compared to the physical part of a person.

 

Maybe I’m still not clear on that.

Remember that man is a tri-part being. You ARE a spirit being, you HAVE a soul, you LIVE in a physical body.

So, essentially, you are a spirit, not a physical being. That means we must be working hard everyday to nurture and grow our spirits because that’s what we truly are, especially in full knowledge that a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

 

Are we doing that now?

Unfortunately, no. Most people have completely forgotten and many have never even acknowledged that they are spiritual beings and therefore fail to live a spiritual life.

Everything we do today is concerned with only the physical part of our existence. We do everything we can to take care of our physical bodies. Eating right, exercising, doing beauty treatments, and many of us going to great lengths to not let our physical bodies age.

Well, we might not reflect our true ages because we take care of ourselves. But we can never stop the hands of time. Just because you look 35 when you are 70 doesn’t make you 35, you are still 70.

Whether we like it or not, our physical bodies will die. But get this. Our spirits will never die. They will live for eternity.

It makes sense then that we should be taking care of that which is eternal. And we can set our spirits up for a lifetime of bliss and happiness by taking care of our spirits now while we are still alive in our physical bodies by making the right choices.

Maybe like me, that’s what you’re trying to do. So how will you know you are making progress at living a spiritual life?

Here are the signs you are living a spiritual life.

 

  • Sign #1: You crave the word of God

The word of God is meant to feed your spirit. Every word in the bible is God-inspired and is meant to nourish the spirit.

You’ll know you are concerned with the spiritual life when you crave the word of God and feel empty and incomplete without it.

But you are not going to get there on your own. You are going to have to make an effort to get in the word for you to get to the point of craving it. You can’t crave what you never knew in the first place.

So pick up your bible and immerse yourself in the true source of life. Having trouble with the bible? Then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

  • Sign #2: Your prayers are less self-focused

When I prayed, it used to be all about me. God give me this and that, God do this and that for me.

I thought I was living the spiritual life just because I was praying. But it’s when you change your focus away from yourself to others that you begin to live a spiritual life.

God already knows what you need before you even ask him, so don’t worry about letting him know some things about your life because he already knows.

Instead, spend your prayer time praying for others around you and far away from you, whether you know them or not.

Now I spend less time talking about myself and more time praying for my family, our relatives and friends, our neighbors and their families, our young people, our country, our leaders, Africa, and the whole world.

I pray that God teaches us to help each other and put others’ needs before our own.

I  thank God for the nature he’s given us. But I’m thinking now that I should start praying and asking him to teach us how to take care of that nature.

Your prayer will become more fruitful when you focus on others. If you are struggling to pray then read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Sign #3: You enjoy and appreciate nature more than you ever have in your life.

Nature used to be just something around us. I never paid much attention to it until I started nurturing my relationship with God.

Now I marvel at nature all the time. I marvel at the unmatched light of the distant moon, sun and stars.

I marvel at the trees that have probably been here long before I even came, giving me the oxygen that I breathe.

I marvel at the animals that, though have nothing, still manage to remain taken care of.

I marvel at the plants springing back to life after a long, dead and cold winter.

I keep thinking that’s how God designed human beings as well. The long, dead and cold winter of our lives would be our troubles and failures: divorces, homelessness, financial hardship, sickness and disease, etc.

But God meant for us to spring back to life replenished and new at the end of our troubles, because they will surely come to an end.

You’ll know you are living a spiritual life when you feel connected to nature. You feel part of it and know it’s incomplete without you, just as you are incomplete without it.

 

  • Sign #4: You no longer care about what the world cares about

Fashion, all the empty entertainment, pleasing people. No, now that you are living a spiritual life you are concerned with only pleasing God, knowing if you please God, you please those who love God just like you do.

I no longer worry about what I have in my wardrobe or who’ll laugh at my outfit choice. Who’ll mock me because I’m not buying a car or a smartphone when everyone else. Who’ll mock me because I’m not on social media.

I no longer feel the need to compare myself to anyone. I now know no one on this earth is the standard, just as I’m not the standard. There’s only one standard and role model; and that’s Jesus Christ.

Read my post on do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

Also read how to stop comparing yourself to others.

 

  • Sign # 5: You are no longer scared of death.

Death used to scare me to death (pun!). Not only was I scared of dying. I was also scared of losing loved ones. Death scared me into so much anxiety that sometimes I’d wake up in the middle of the night panting.

That was before I learned and understood that death of the physical body means nothing because when that happens, the true me, which is the spirit remains alive for eternity.

Now, I’m no longer scared of parting with my physical body because it was just a borrowed suit to begin with.

Instead of worrying about death, I kind of look forward to being with my father when he calls me. And it’s freeing living with that much peace and calm.

 

The final word

The spiritual life was something meant for each and every one of us as children of God. It’s us who choose daily to separate ourselves from our true nature by honoring the physical rather than the spiritual.

But you no longer have to live this limited life you’ve been living. You can elevate yourself to the level God intended for you.

If you feel like you are already living a spiritual life, now isn’t the time to stop. Keep striving to reach unknown heights of this life by staying close to God.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? Do you agree with my definition of a spiritual life? If not, please tell us why.

What are your own signs of living a spiritual life? Please share with us by commenting.

10 must-read pros of doing your own cooking

If you are wondering if you’d be better off doing your own cooking, you are right.

There are limitless pros to doing your own cooking versus buying ready-made food from restaurants or the supermarket. Read on to find out the pros of doing your own cooking.

 

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We all know that most people feel pressed for time to do their own cooking, what with all the demands on their time: kids, careers and many other commitments.

But why does doing your own cooking have to take a backseat when it comes to honoring those demands?

The way I see it, doing your own cooking should fit right at the top of your priorities seeing that it’s the quality of the food you eat that will determine whether or not you have enough energy to honor all the other demands.

Without wasting any more time, let’s dive straight into the pros of doing your own cooking.

 

  • #1: Doing your own cooking straight away puts you in charge of your diet and therefore your health.

Wouldn’t you like that? To have complete control over your diet instead of handing that control over to someone else like the indifferent chef at that restaurant or that exhausted one at the supermarket?

If you are serious about enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, and you know that a simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet, then you know you have to be in charge of your own diet. And the only and best way to do that is by doing your own cooking.

If you are in charge of your diet, you’ll have control of your health, and that’s what we must all be striving for.

Your food choices will determine how healthy you are where the diet component of a simple healthy lifestyle is concerned.

Learn how to use food as medicine for your body with these 6 effective tips.

 

  • #2: Doing your own cooking straight away puts you in charge of your time

If you say you don’t have the time for doing your own cooking, then you are saying that you are a victim of time, and that’s a negative mentality to have.

Finding the time to do your own cooking puts you in complete control of time. You are not the victim and you can actually manage time better than someone who chooses to let time limit them.

 

  • #3: Doing your own cooking makes you prioritize on quality

If you are going to cook unhealthy food, then don’t bother. You’d be better off stepping into that restaurant or supermarket instead.

Because of doing my own cooking, I tend to prioritize on cooking the best quality food we have available at home.

If you are going to take the time and effort to do your own cooking, then your food has to be of the best quality.

 

  • #4: Doing your own cooking puts you in control of what goes into your food

I’m talking about your choice of ingredients. Not only do you get to decide on what ingredients to add but you also get to decide on how much of those ingredients to add.

I tend to add less oil and salt to my cooking. I don’t add sugar at all, except a little bit when I make bread because my family is not ready yet to quit sugar.

You need these  12 tips if you want to eat less sugar.

Being in charge of what and how much ingredients to put in your food will surely guarantee a healthy diet.

 

  • #5: Doing your own cooking helps stave off unhealthy cravings

You tend to crave healthy foods when you are doing your own cooking, provided you always cook healthy foods.

Remember that eating healthy/unhealthy is all about conditioning the  subconscious mind.

By cooking only healthy foods, you teach your mind that healthy foods are the only and best thing to eat, thereby getting rid of your cravings for unhealthy foods.

You’ll be interested in how to stop obsessing over calories.

You’ll also want to read how to stop binge eating.

 

  • #6: Doing your own cooking helps you save money

You save a lot of money. You don’t throw money away on those pricey dishes at the restaurant. You know how to compromise on ingredients in order to reduce costs while still obtaining the best quality.

You are careful not to unnecessarily throw out food and you learn to recycle things like stale breads, and the list is endless.

 

  • #7: Doing your own cooking may help you uncover a hidden cooking talent

There are a lot of people who don’t know they are talented at cooking simply because they’ve never taken the time to experiment with cooking, or maybe they did try it, but didn’t stick with it long enough to discover that talent.

I used to hate doing my own cooking. And because of that I was terrible at it. But then I quit my job and found myself sitting at home, faced with the responsibility of cooking for my family everyday.

It was that obligation that drew out the great cook in me. You might just discover your hidden cooking talent if you resort to doing your own cooking.

Read 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • #8: Doing your own cooking makes you appreciate life more

Because you are in touch with the food you eat, you tend to appreciate that more than if you let someone else do your cooking.

It wasn’t until I started doing my own cooking that I started appreciating how nature gives me the food that I eat, aware of their work in me to keep growing me everyday.

We are literally the food we eat. That’s a massive thing to ponder. And when you do, you’ll be passionate about doing your own cooking, eating clean and even growing your own food.

Make a vegetable garden without spending any money is a must read.

 

  • #9: Doing your own cooking fosters healthy relationships

And we all know that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. Doing your own cooking when you have a family will bring you together. I appreciate whoever does our cooking at home. I have new founded respect for them whenever they put my plate in front of me.

After a long day at work for you and school for your kids, why would you let the mechanical tendency of your lifestyle extend to your diet as well by eating store or restaurant-bought foods?

Don’t. Do your own cooking, encouraging your family to lend a hand and bond while you do so.

 

  • #10: Doing your own cooking puts you in charge of your weight

And weight is a source of concern for many people around the world. A lot of people are unhappy with their weight, but most if not all of them would lose all that excess weight and keep it off by doing their own cooking.

If you eat out everyday, how can you be shocked when you pack on extra pounds? I too used to worry about gaining weight, but since I started doing my own cooking, weight is no longer a concern because I have it under control.

 

The final word

Nothing beats doing your own cooking. It makes you a chef in your own kitchen. God gave us the natural ability to feed ourselves, so don’t hand that power over to another person and prioritize less important things over your own healthy eating.

There’s everything to be gained from doing your own cooking and nothing to lose from it. If you haven’t tried your hand at it or you’ve been skimpy about doing your own cooking, then start taking charge of what goes into your body because that literally builds or breaks you.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your thoughts about it? Do you do your own cooking? Then share with us your own pros? If you don’t do your own cooking, please share with us why?

 

Cultivate success everyday with these 7 effective tips

If you want to cultivate success in your everyday life, then you are in the right place.

Stick with me because I’m about to give you tips on how you can do that. Your life is about to become better and simpler than you ever imagined.

 

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Before I embarked on my journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, I felt more like a failure than a success.

That made sense because there was a lot I wanted to have achieved but hadn’t. My goals were still not yet achieved and my dreams not yet lived.

I was just a failure trying everyday to salvage what was left of my energy to try to make something of myself.

I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this. The world has created a definition of success that only a few of us can meet. The rest of us feel like failures everyday.

What does success mean to you? Because your definition of success will determine if you can cultivate success everyday in your life or not.

OK, here are the tips to cultivate success in your everyday life.

 

  • Tip #1: Re examine your values, or identify them for the first time

Values are vital if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life. Your values basically define what’s most important to you.

Many of us would like to think we have values. But if we get asked about them,  in a job interview for instance; we go blank.

Now is the time to be clear about what your values are. And you can’t know what your values are if you don’t know yourself.

So, get to know yourself, being honest with yourself about what’s most important to you. Not to someone else but to you. Not to your parents, or spouse, or boss, or best friend but to you.

6 useful tips to know yourself better is a must read.

 

  • Tip # 2: So then, redefine success

Success means different things to different people. What I define as success might not be success to you, and vice versa.

So what does success mean to you? Forget about the definitions you’ve heard from other people, and I’m sure you’ve heard more than an earful.

What does success mean to you? What does it mean to you to feel successful? To me it means to live my values everyday.

You should have clear answers to these questions if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life.

 

  • Tip #3: Read the word of God

Simply because it’s the perfect manual for your life, especially as you try to cultivate success.

God says in many places that you are precious, and your value to him has nothing to do with the net worth that the world has attached to your name.

Go on, read the word of God and realize that you are the most important of God’s creation.

Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power… (CEV)

1 John 5 v 4: Every child of God can defeat the world, and our faith is what gives us this victory. (CEV)

2 Corinthians 2 v 14: …In the Messiah, in Christ, God leads us from place to place in one perpetual victory parade… (MSG)

There are many more verses that define you as successful. Open the word of God and meditate on it.

If you have trouble understanding your bible, I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Ask God to reveal the true meaning of success to you as you pray to him. Read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #4: Remove money as an issue

This tip must actually come first if you want to cultivate success in your everyday life.

People have given money power it doesn’t deserve. If you define success in terms of money, as in, you feel most successful when you have a lot of money then you are going to have a problem because what happens when you are not making as much money as you think is necessary to make you a successful person?

True success has nothing to do with money. In fact, completely remove money from the equation because it has no place in the definition of success.

In the past few months I’ve been learning to remove money as an issue and to live on less and less money everyday. Soon, I’ll dedicate an entire post to that.

But in the meantime, forget about your bank balances and how much you are making at your job. Cultivate success by removing money as an issue.

 

  • Tip #5: Recognize and appreciate that your best tools for success are free

If you want to cultivate success in your life, then you need not worry about resources because the best resources are given free of charge.

Have you noticed that nature’s best gifts are not bought with money but are freely available to everyone?

The sun shines on both the rich and the poor, as do the moon and the stars. The rain pours down on the soils of both the rich and the poor, and flora and fauna is for everyone’s eyes.

After all that, there’s nothing more magical. If we have all these free of charge, then we all have success at our disposal.

 

  • Tip #6: Live life on your own terms.

This is crucial if you want to cultivate success in your life. In fact, I have an entire post called do you have the guts to live life on your own terms? You have to check it out.

Refuse to compare yourself to others by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Your definition of success doesn’t have to align with anyone else’s definitions, even when you seem to be the only one with your definition.

Don’t be tempted to do what everyone else is doing because you think it’s the right and only way to cultivate success in your everyday life. Stick to your guns about what success means to you.

 

  • Tip #7: Choose to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle

This tip is the main reason behind this entire blog. We should all aspire to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle because it’s our right as children of God.

Let’s do away with the complicated human philosophies that have robbed us of our joy and success, and replace those with the simple key components of food and diet, exercise, personal development, healthy relationships and spirituality.

There’s nothing complicated about living these key elements. They are all simple and can be enjoyed by everyone.

I recommend the following posts so you can remind yourself of these key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle:

A simple healthy lifestyle requires a good diet

A simple healthy lifestyle requires exercise

A simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships

A simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality

 

The final word

For a long time I was deceived into believing I wasn’t successful just because I was lacking in some areas.

We are all human, so you can be lacking in some areas, many areas, and still be successful. Refuse to wait until you are perfect so you can feel successful because you’ll be waiting forever.

Instead redefine and cultivate success everyday by making it achievable.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts with us about what it means to cultivate success in your everyday life.

10 reasons NOT to become the other woman

If you are a single lady, refuse at all costs to become the other woman. You should know by now that married men are off limits, and yet many of us still find ourselves caught in nasty affairs that only leave us hurt and broken.

 

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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

But being the other woman is anything but healthy. It’s never a good idea. The man has a wife for goodness’ sake.

He’s unavailable, no matter how much time you spend with him or how much he tells you he loves you.

I’m not judging you here. I’ve been misled into having affairs with married men before. Yes. Not a married man but married men. That’s a mistake I’ll never repeat.

It’s easy to continue an affair because a married man will promise you things in such a way that you believe every word he says.

Not necessarily because you are a gullible person. Well, they bring out the gullibility in even the strongest of women.

But it’s mostly because you’ve made yourself vulnerable to him and by agreeing to the affair in the first place, you displayed your desperation and now he’s playing on it.

Now here are the 10 reasons not to become the other woman:

 

  • Reason #1: He’s not trustworthy

He’s cheating on his wife with you. Why on earth would you want to give yourself to a man like that?

If you are hoping he’ll leave his wife for you, and he does, you’ll have lost because he can never stay faithful to you.

So, refuse to settle for becoming the other woman. Find a single man who’ll love you and make you his wife.

 

  • Reason #2: He doesn’t love you

I don’t care what he’s been telling you all along. A married man loves his wife. You are just a pastime for him.

I know what you are thinking. That you think he’s genuine about his love for you. Believe me, he’s not. He’s just taking advantage of you.

Prepare to free yourself by reading how to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships.

It’s always the other woman who gets the short end of the stick when it comes to love. Refuse that.

 

  • Reason #3: He’ll never leave his wife for you

It’s all a lie when he keeps telling you he’s going to leave his wife for you as soon as this or that happens. As soon as the kids are grown, as soon as the mortgage is paid off, etc.

A married man will not leave his wife for you. Leave him and open yourself to being genuinely loved by a man who’s available, who treats you as his first lady and not the other woman.

 

  • Reason #4: If he does leave his wife for you, you’ll never be happy

Would you be happy with a man who was unfaithful to his ex-wife? Every time he leaves the house, you’ll be wondering where he’s going. Is that how you want to live?

You can’t build a life with a man who married you out of his unfaithfulness. You as the other woman knows what he got up to when he wasn’t home, so how can you have peace of mind now as his wife?

There might not be anything sinister about his whereabouts when you are married. Maybe he’s genuinely working late. But would you believe that?

Why would you settle for that kind of stress in your life? I recommend live stress free with these 10 great tips.

People who enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle are supposed to be happy. Know that and claim your happiness by reading 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

 

  • Reason #5: He makes you love yourself less

And that’s a big no no. Being the other woman will bring your self-esteem and self-love crushing down.

How can it not when you got the man out of evil intentions? And when you know you are his second, third, fourth…choice.

If you are serious about enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you know you have to love yourself enough to be able to extend that love to others. Being the other woman will make that impossible.

I recommend 9 effective tips to improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Reason #6: You’ll never truly be accepted into his circle of family and friends

No matter how friendly they act toward you, you’ll always be the other woman. You are just the other woman who drove their woman of choice away. That’s not the way you want to be looked at.

 

  • Reason #7: He’ll never trust or respect you

You’ll always be the other woman for him. So he knows you have a knack for ensnaring men who are taken. That makes him lose trust and respect for you.

 

  • Reason #8: He’ll always be ashamed of you

I don’t care if you finally manage to get his ring around your finger; the man will always look at you as the other woman and he’ll always be ashamed of you.

Wonder why he kept quiet about family day at work? Because even as his wife, you are still the other woman and he doesn’t want to be seen with you in public.

 

  • Reason #9: You’ll always be a victim of his ex wife

Not just because you broke up their marriage. But you’ll never be rid of his ex-wife, especially if they have kids.

That’s one of the most annoying things about being the other woman. You can never be rid of the ex-wife and their kids.

 

  • Reason #10: You’ll miss out on the love God intended for you

This is the biggest con about being the other woman. You don’t get to meet that one special man God made for you because you were busy with another woman’s husband.

Ask yourself now. Would you want to spend a miserable life with a man who was created for another woman, or would you rather enjoy a long happy life with a man who was created specially for you?

Begin to see yourself the way God sees you. As his precious child. Claim the blessings he intended for you by checking out are you aware of God’s blessings for your life?

 

The final word

Maybe you think there’s something romantic or decent about being the other woman because you are watching other women do the same thing. Remember that you can never get the full picture if you are on the outside looking in.

You can’t build your happiness with a man who belongs to another woman. Refuse to stoop that low. Love and value yourself enough to want only the best in love.

God has someone special for you out there. Leave married men alone. In the meantime remain single so you can find yourself and get yourself ready for when you meet that special man.

Read these 8 reasons to celebrate being single. You’ll also want to read 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Have you ever been the other woman? Or maybe you are currently the other woman? Please share with us your experiences by commenting.

You needn’t be a church goer to be a legitimate Christian

I know there’s that worldwide belief that you have to be a church goer in order to be a legitimate christian.

But is there any truth to that? Does being a church goer really qualify or disqualify you as a legitimate christian?

 

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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality. But is cultivating your spirituality synonymous with being a church goer?

I personally don’t go to church. I don’t have anything against church attendance. In fact, I love and support the idea.

I strongly believe that church brings believers together in one place where they can help each other’s faith; not to mention, worship God.

 

The word of God strongly recommends the idea of being a church goer.

Hebrews 10 v 25: Some people have gotten out of the habit of meeting for worship, but we must not do that. We should keep on encouraging each other, especially since you know that the day of the Lord’s coming is getting closer. (CEV)

 

But we have no biblical evidence that every Christian in the biblical times was a church goer. In fact, the above verse clearly spells out that not every christian was a church goer.

The bible also doesn’t condemn those who are not church goers. The condemnation was cooked up by some christians all on their own.

But of course I welcome corrections. So pick up your bible and start searching and find out where it clearly says or even merely implies that you are condemned if you are not a church goer.

You struggle to understand the bible? Then read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

But why don’t I attend church?

Simply because I haven’t found a church I’m confident will help me develop my spirituality.

Sounds like a petty and childish excuse, doesn’t it? But I don’t want to be a mere church goer who puts away the bible to gather dust until next Sunday.

No. I want to be the kind of church goer who loves every minute of church and can’t wait to read the bible on my own.

I want a pastor that focuses more on teaching the word of God than on performing all the money miracles. And it seems like nowadays money is of more concern to christians than God is.

I don’t need all those miracles. Why? Because my existence on its own is a miracle. And I believe I’m a miracle to others.

So I need a church that teaches the word that cements that so I can use my gift instead of spreading my hands out to receive miracles from God knows where (no pun intended).

So yes, that’s the kind of church goer I want to be and why I still haven’t found a church I really want to attend.

 

So, why do I believe you need not be a church goer to be a legitimate christian?

 

  • Reason #1: Christianity is a personal relationship between you and God, not a religion.

Yes. It’s between you and God.

That doesn’t mean it ends there. If you read God’s word and let it change your way of thinking, then you’ll always be willing to obey the word and spread it to everyone else. And you don’t need to be a church goer to do that. You can do that outside of church.

 

  • Reason #2:  Being a church goer can limit your authority as a Christian

If you understand that being a legitimate christian isn’t based on following set rules and regulations, then you know that you, just like every other christian in the world, is in the ministry of spreading God’s word.

But there are many churches that prevent their attendants from ministering to others.

Those churches say the pastor is the only one who can minister to others and the congregation must listen.

My friend was once prevented by his church from holding morning sermons in our village clinic because the church believed that was solely the duty of the pastor.

Wherever we are, and whatever job we hold, we must each teach God’s word. I recommend that you read how to serve God in your profession.

 

  • Reason #3: Being a church goer can distract you from the word of God

I spoke about this earlier. There are a lot of christians who go to church, not to hear the word of God but to receive the so-called miracles produced by pastors.

They want prophecies that favor them. They spend so little time on the word that they’ve lost touch with it. They’ve thrown their spirituality out of the window.

This can happen to you if you are a church goer and you’ve chosen a church that focuses more on performing miracles than on spreading the word of God.

On my own at home, I read the word of God and dwell in it, teaching myself the ins and outs of it.

I understand that the word is my tool for every situation in life. I understand wealth differently from many other people who only focus on the financial aspect of wealth.

I feel wealthy in a way that makes my life more fulfilling than I could ever have imagined before I familiarized myself with the word.

You can and should do the same. Read these 6 easy steps to stay connected to your spirituality and get back on the right path to God.

 

  • Reason #4: Being a church goer can make you spiritually lazy

I’m sure you know of people who attend church because it’s something they feel they must do and have been doing since they were little.

They go to church because it’s family tradition. Many people like that have reduced church attendance to a chore and they don’t do anything to grow spiritually.

It’s people like that who’ll praise you because you are a church goer and condemn you because you are not. They attach your christian worth to whether or not you are a church goer.

 

  • Reason #5: The idea of being a church goer as a prerequisite leaves many people out

I know this first hand because before I knew my right standing with God, I used to feel left out just because I wasn’t a church goer.

If everyone out there understood Christianity as being a personal relationship between them and God more than it is about being a church goer, then they’d become responsible for their spiritual salvation.

There’s the self-condemnation that ‘I don’t go to church so I must be a bad christian.’

People who say things like that usually give up on themselves and on God. But if people understood that being a church goer or not, God loves each and every one of us, then we’d see those previously hopeless people spring to life to claim their positions as children of God.

You, as a child of God, church goer or not, should be aware of the many blessings our father has bestowed upon you.

Are you aware of God’s blessings for you? is a post you must read because it talks about one of God’s blessings for you being a life free of condemnation.

Come to God with all your flaws because he loves you regardless. Church goer or not, God wants to use you.

So get yourself ready by reading 5 ways to position yourself to hear from God.

 

The final word

Again, please don’t take this to mean that I don’t support the idea of being a church goer. Of course not.

However, I feel that people have attached being a church goer to being a legitimate christian and that’s just misleading, and it leaves many people despondent because they’ve been left out of the church ‘clique.’

Church goer or not, we must all be involved in spreading God’s message however we can while being aware of our worth as children of God.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Are you a church goer or not? Then please share your thoughts with us about this post.

 

 

 

 

Live stress free with these 10 great tips

Do you want to live stress free? Then you are in the right place because I’m about to share with you easy tips you can start using right now to live stress free.

 

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I too used to want to live stress free. But at the time, I was riddled with so much stress that the notion to live stress free seemed far fetched.

There was so much going on in my life. I wanted so many things that I didn’t have. And the things that I did have didn’t seem to be helping much to achieve the ones I wanted.

I had too much going on in my head. I stressed about my present and my future so much I couldn’t concentrate on anything long enough to finish it.

This struggle remained even long after I made the decision to start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

But right now as I write this, I’m confident that I have let go of stress and now live stress free.

It was hard at first letting go of stress because I’d gotten so accustomed to it that it was a legitimate part of my life.

But I can tell you right now that my life is much better without stress and I look forward to every coming day and whatever it brings; pleasures and discomforts.

You can live stress free too, and here’s how:

 

  • Tip #1: Read the word of God

This is the best tip to live stress free. The word of God is soothing in a truthful way.

It lets you know that you are loved beyond explanation by our father, and also offers counsel. You can’t go wrong if you stick to it.

2 Timothy 3 v 16: Everything in the Scriptures is God’s word. All of it is useful for teaching and helping people and for correcting them and showing them how to live. (CEV)

You can trust the word of God to always tell you the truth. It doesn’t manipulate you by telling you only what you want to hear. So you can trust it to always be honest with you.

Now you can tailor your life to go in step with God’s counsel. If you do that, you are more than guaranteed to live stress free.

Read 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 7 easy steps to help you find rest in God.

 

  • Tip #2: Re-examine you values

Or examine them for the first time. It’s easy to assume that every one is aware of their values. But some people just live unaware of their values.

Consciously re-examine your values. Your values will always make it clear to you what you want in life.

Now that you are clear on your values, you can begin to pinpoint the things you should do away with.

Those things will highly likely be your stressors, so this tips is extremely important if you want to live stress free.

 

  • Tip # 3: Forgive yourself

You can’t begin to live stress free if you can’t forgive yourself. You are swimming in guilt or regrets and therefore you have too much stress on your hands.

Remember life is for everyone to enjoy. And it’s a journey, not a destination. Just because you took a detour to the wrong side doesn’t mean you can’t find your way back to the right path.

Work toward becoming a better person. Let your mistakes be life lessons. Everyone makes mistakes, remember that.

Let the mistakes of your past be your past, and those include the mistakes you made yesterday because now they are in the past.

 

  • Tip #4: Forgive others

Just as it’s important to forgive yourself, it’s equally important that you forgive others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Others are just as worthy of forgiveness as you are. Forgiving others frees you more than it frees them.

I’m sure you know what I mean. Have you ever been in the same room as a friend who wronged you a few months ago?

You are still pouting and sulking in the corner and they are laughing with everybody else and having a good time?

I know the feeling. And it just makes you look and feel stupid. Forgive others and free yourself to also enjoy yourself at all times.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

  • Tip #5: Accept your life just the way it is

Yes. This is also very important if you want to live stress free.

So what if your life is pretty bad right now? I know you are wondering about that.

Then accept it just the way it is. Accepting it doesn’t mean settling in it. It means consciously acknowledging it instead of running away from it in denial.

Whatever your life circumstances, accept them. If you’ve been in jail, or you are in jail, accept that.

If you’ve been an abusive spouse, then accept that.

Only when you accept your life circumstances can you begin to take steps to improve them. This will definitely help you to live stress free.

 

  • Tip #6: Think the best of every situation

I don’t care what it is. Divorce, disease, failing at school, getting fired from work, you name it.

These are bad situations, I know. But it’s the bad situations that always teach us the best lessons in life as long as we don’t play the victim but accept them.

So always see the best of whatever situation you find yourself in. I guarantee that this will help you live stress free.

 

  • Tip #7: Be present in everything you do

It’s easy to be preoccupied with other things while we are doing one thing, and this elevates stress.

If you are washing dishes, but now you are worried about paying the bills and the kids’ tuition, and the mortgage, then stress is bound to overwhelm you.

Instead, learn to be present in what you are doing. You can teach yourself to think of only washing the dishes.

You can compartmentalize everything so that you don’t let your stressors dominate all your time. This way you don’t let stress prevent you from being productive.

Read 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.

 

  • Tip #8: Leave the future where it’s supposed to be, in the future

Don’t stress about the unreal. Everything in the future is unreal; have you ever thought about that? That wedding you are planning for Christmas, it’s unreal. That house you are going to buy next summer, that’s unreal.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan for them. But you should remember that tomorrow is unknown and things might turn out differently than you thought, or they might not even happen at all.

So, in this midst of the unknown, why stress? No, focus on what you can do now and leave the future to God to handle.

 

  • Tip #9: Declutter your life

And do this in every way imaginable if you want to live stress free. People have a lot of stress because they have a lot of material, mental, emotional, financial, intellectual and social clutter. If only they could declutter their lives.

You don’t need all those other things outside of your basic needs. Stop hoarding stuff because managing it means stress. Simplify your life in the best possible way.

Soon I’ll dedicate an entire to post to decluttering your life, so please keep following my posts.

 

  • Tip #10: Be grateful

I’m surprised by people who roll their eyes at this tip. Don’t underestimate the significance of gratitude if you want to live stress free.

Most people can’t get out of stress because instead of being grateful for the good things in their lives, they are busy whining about the bad things in their lives.

Sometimes they whine even about the good things because they’ve become blind to how lucky they are.

If you are like that, it’s time to change. Gratitude is the best antidote for stress, so take a spoonful and live stress free.

 

The final word

The decision to live stress free is well within your reach; you just have to make it. If you are used to living with stress, then the thought that you can live stress free can seem inconceivable and unreal at first.

But it is your right as a child of God to live stress free and enjoy the life God has blessed you with.

Many people have died and many are dying right now, so you are blessed to still be alive. Don’t let one more moment of your life go wasted as you wallow in stress.

You can make a choice to be happy from this moment forth. All it takes is a decision to be happy. I recommend 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

Also check out how to be free from anger.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? Are you trying to live stress free? Then please share with us how you are going about doing that.

 

 

 

 

7 easy steps to help you find rest in God

In your everyday life, you must strive to find rest in God.

Otherwise you take the weight of the world on your shoulders and let me tell you, that’s a battle you are certainly going to lose.

 

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What does it mean to find rest in God?

It means resting in God while you do your daily work.

A lot of people misunderstand the phrase ‘to find rest in God’ to mean that they fold their hands, sit back and retire from work.

No, it doesn’t mean that. In fact, the scenario above defines laziness. And the bible sternly warns us against becoming lazy.

Instead, to find rest in God means not worrying about anything while you do what you have to do. You are relaxed as you go about your daily hassle, trusting God to take care of you.

It’s important to find rest in God because only then can he make a move in your life. God won’t compete with you. So while you are struggling to make everything happen on your own, he’ll sit back and watch you.

But as soon as you cast your care on him, let him know and show him that you trust him for your provision, then he’ll take care of you.

 

So how do you find rest in God?

  • Step #1: Read his word

By now you should know that God’s word is the ultimate truth. You can’t successfully maneuver through life outside of his word and his counsel.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

Immerse yourself in the word and let it carve itself into your heart. Live by it. Things might seem impossible but that’s according to your understanding, which is far from sufficient.

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust in the Lord with all you heart. Never rely on what you think you know. (GNB)

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. (MSG)

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. (KJV)

Those are just three translations of the same verse. There are many more translations for your convenience so you can find rest in God.

If you have trouble understanding the bible, read my post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

  • Step #2: Pray

All along I’ve been making the mistake of lumping prayer and word study into one step.

But there are a lot of people who diligently and faithfully read the word, but then fail to pray, hence I’m putting prayer on its own category.

Prayer is effective because it’s your communication with God. Find rest in God by asking for his help.

Remember that prayer is a two way street. So remember to listen to what God is saying instead of you talking the entire time.

Read my post on 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

Also read this post on 5 ways to position yourself to hear from God.

 

  • Step #3: Be productive

This is a very important step.

Like I said earlier, to find rest in God doesn’t mean to be inactive or to cease working. It means to trust God while you are working.

Now, we must remember to be productive at all times. Productivity is not only important when you are doing your office job, or your studying. It’s also important and applicable in your leisure time.

So, do the best you can in the job that pays your bills, and do the best you can in your leisure time.  Do your day job, and in your leisure time, entertain yourself in the word, meditating on it until God’s promise of rest echoes in every fiber of your being.

Read my post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

Also read my post on this is what you didn’t know about meditation.

 

  • Step #4: Remove money as an issue

I know money is at the center of everything, and is the cause of stress for most people. But it’s very possible to live a simple healthy lifestyle with less than what you are spending right now.

Don’t be one of those people who work themselves to the bone just so they can afford unnecessary expenses.

Lead a minimalistic life that removes money as an issue and you’ll definitely find rest in God. Don’t be obsessed with money because that’s a burden that will separate you from God.

Hebrews 13 v 5: Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never leave you; I will never abandon you.” (GNB)

Read my post on here’s the truth you didn’t know about money so you can know the real place of money in your life.

 

Step #5: Be of service to others

Reaching out to others always works the trick of making you less self-absorbed.

Sometimes you think you are struggling, and then you take one look at someone else’s life and you realize there are people with bigger problems out there.

So, in your journey to find rest in God, focus less on yourself and more on others. Give whatever you think you don’t have enough of; your money, your time, your resources. This will make you feel richer and more fortunate.

Read my tips on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

Step #6: Find a support system

You will remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Your support system must be people who love God. They must have found rest in God or aiming to find rest in God.

Your support system can’t be that pessimistic friend who worries about every little thing.

But it can be your family, your work colleagues, your friends, or your local church.

 

Step #7: Be grateful

This is very important. When you are trying to find rest in God, it’s easy to become selfish and think all about yourself and what you are trying to achieve.

Realize at this very moment that you already have God’s blessings with you. You are alive and that’s more important than anything else. Be grateful for that and many more things that are going on in your life.

I have a post on are you aware of God’s blessings for you?

Take it a step further by being grateful for your challenges because they teach you a lot.

If you read the word of God, you’ll notice that he calls for us to be grateful.

Philippians 4 v 6: Don’t worry about anything, but in all your prayers ask God for what you need, always asking him with a thankful heart. (GNB)

So, instead of complaining in your prayers, offer thanksgiving to God who continues to give us more than we deserve. Gratitude is a virtue we all must work hard to possess.

 

The final word

We need to strive to find rest in God. It’s the only way we’ll survive this hyperactive, stressed world.

Let’s not be lazy but do all that the word says we must do to find rest in God. Then we’ll have the kind of peace we won’t even be able to explain to those around us, and we can help them achieve that peace too.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your own steps to find rest in God? Please share with us by commenting.

17 simple things you must do to become happier

If you are like every other person on the face of the earth, you want to become happier. Keep reading to learn what you must do in order to become happier.

 

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  • #1: Realize that happiness is a state of the mind

It’s all within you to become happy. It’s all in your mind. If you are currently unhappy, then you need to cultivate your mind for some happiness.

And the good news is, you can become as happy as you want just by exercising your mind the right way. So become happier by working your mind to give you as much happiness as you need.

 

  • #2: Stop looking for happiness around you

This follows from the point above. Happiness is not external, it’s internal. So, stop looking around you to become happier.

The people around you and the things around you are not responsible for making you become happier.

By letting go of the idea that the people around you must make you happy, you enable yourself to form and enjoy healthy relationships.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • #3: Make a choice to become happier

Becoming happier is a choice just like many other different choices you make in life.

If you are currently less happy than you should be, it’s because you’ve made that choice, whether or not you realize it.

So, consciously choose to become happier.

 

  • #4: Renew your choice to become happier every day

Just because you chose to become happier yesterday doesn’t mean you are set for happiness for the rest of your life.

Renew your decision to become happier every day.

 

  • #5: Be active in the word of God

You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

The word of God says you have a right to become happier than you are right now. It says happiness is one of the many blessings bestowed upon each and every one of us by our Father.

Don’t skimp out on reading the word. And don’t just read it, live it. This will definitely help you become happier.

Read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • #6: Realize that you have everything you need in order to become happier

Remember that it’s not about the external things. You, all on your own, have everything you need in order to become happier. That’s powerful.

So, use this power you have and don’t let it go to waste.

 

  • #7: Stop comparing yourself to others

Nothing good can come out of you comparing yourself to others because you’ll always come out feeling short.

Learn to run your own race. Be confident in who you are. Know yourself enough to not be swayed by how people around you are living their lives.

Read my post on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Also read 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

You’ll also definitely want to read 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • #8: Focus more on helping other people and less on yourself.

I can honestly say this has helped me become happier. I used to focus too much on myself and my needs. I thought I was happy until I started focusing on other people more.

Then I realized the true meaning of happiness.  You can too if you learn to focus more on other people than you do on yourself.

 

  • #9: Forgive and accept yourself just the way you are

You are God’s creation, so you are already perfect. Stop trying to fix whatever you think is wrong with you and start celebrating yourself.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Take them as opportunities to grow.

 

  • #10: Forgive and accept others just the way they are

Become happier by cutting other people some slack, just as you should do for yourself.

Accept others’ mistakes and forgive them. Forgiveness is a medicine for the heart.

 

  • #11: Give

It can be your money, time, labor, talent or any other resource. Giving is a sure way to help you become happier.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • #12: Take care of yourself

Just because now you are focusing more on other people than on yourself doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself.

Actually, you can’t successfully care about and love other people if you can’t do those things for yourself first.

You have to be fit in every way to take care of others. So take care of yourself if you want to become happier.

Eat right, exercise, focus on your personal development, spirituality and on nurturing and developing the traits that will enable you to become a part of healthy relationships.

 

  • #13: Be positive

Positivity will definitely help you become happier. Always try and see the best in every person and every situation. Worry less and rejoice more.

 

  • #14: Be grateful

Grateful people are way happier than those people who aren’t grateful. There’s plenty to be grateful for.

Stop whining about what you don’t have and start showing gratitude for what you have.

 

  • #15: Smile and laugh

Smiling and laughing work magic if you want to become happier. On those days when I don’t feel too good, just smiling and laughing literally brighten up my mood and my day.

Please learn to do the same. Your true beauty shows when you smile and laugh.

 

  • #16: Focus on doing the things you love

Don’t waste time on the things you don’t like if you want to become happier. Live your hobbies and your talents. Read this post on 10 important steps to nurture and develop your talent.

 

  • #17: Make the most of every day

People who do this become happier. Knowing you are not wasting your days contributes tremendously to your happiness. Read this post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

 

The final word

You can become happier right at this very moment if you make a decision to do so. Happiness is available to everyone, regardless of your life circumstances.

So, don’t use your divorce, childhood trauma, disability etc as an excuse to remain unhappy. And don’t grow weary in your journey to become happier because you will definitely get where you want to go.

Judge your growing progress along the way, remembering to focus on the long term rather than the short term. The pursuit of happiness is a lifelong journey after all.

Read this post on 12 signs you are making progress in your life.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Are you happy? Do you want to become happier? Tell us what you think you need to do in order to become happier.

 

You’ll also want to read:

How to be happy: 23 ways to be happier by psychologytoday.com

10 ways to be happier by realsimple.com