Get out of an abusive relationship with these 10 tips

If you’ve been wondering how to get out of an abusive relationship, then you’ve come to the right place.

Keep reading because I’m about to share with you tips you can employ to finally break free from that bondage.

 

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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. An abusive relationship is anything but healthy.

It undermines your freedom and everything good that God intended for you when he made you.

 

So what are the tips to get out of an abusive relationship?

 

  • Tip #1: Lean on God

Yes, my answer to everything. As you try to get out of an abusive relationship, God is your best refuge. And you have to get into his word to be able to draw out his comfort and counsel.

So, take your relationship with God to the next level in this difficult phase of your life. If you’ve never really had a relationship with God, now is the time to start.

God is in the pages of your bible. The bible has the answer to every question you are asking yourself right now.

If you have trouble with your bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #2: Know what you want

It’s people who are unclear about what they want who can’t get out of an abusive relationship.

Be clear about what you want and let your partner know what that is. If your needs can’t be met, then you need to get out provided you’ve communicated your dissatisfaction and done all that’s necessary to make the relationship work.

You can’t get out of an abusive relationship until you do this first tip. And to do it, you must know yourself. So read these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • Tip #3: Communicate before leaving

It might seem unfathomable to communicate with someone who abuses you. But leaving without communicating your departure will inhibit you from finding closure.

So, try to get your partner to sit down so you can have a heart to heart in as calm a manner as possible. Remember this: communication will help you get a clean break as you try to get out of an abusive relationship.

 

  • Tip #4: Know where you are going from here

And I can tell you right now that it’s not into the arms of a new lover. Starting a new relationship shouldn’t even be something you think about as you get out of an abusive relationship.

Be prepared to spend some time alone so you can heal, regroup and prepare to get into a new relationship when the time is right.

 

  • Tip #5: Distance yourself from this relationship as much as possible

Saying you want to stay friends with your partner will only make things more complicated for you as you get out of an abusive relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with remaining in good terms with your partner after you’ve broken up. In fact, that’s the best thing to do.

But you should do that while maintaining some distance from them. And that means not just them but everything associated with them; their family, friends etc.

Clinging to some parts of your partner’s life will only make leaving and staying away much harder for you.

 

  • Tip #6: Get closer to your friends and family

As you distance yourself from your partner, make sure you get closer to your loved ones.

These people are your support system as you get out of an abusive relationship, and you are going to need them as you face a life of readjusting back to your singleness.

 

  • Tip #7: Take a step back from social media

Not just your partner’s accounts, but social media altogether. Social media just throws people’s lives in your face. And remember, those lives are staged and not a true representation of how those people live.

As you get out of an abusive relationship, of course you are going to get hurt when you see other people’s seemingly perfect lives on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc.

You’ll then start to doubt your decision to leave your relationship, though deep down you know that was the right decision to make.

Read the real impact of social media in your life.

Resist the temptation to compare yourself to anyone by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Comparing yourself to others as you get out of abusive relationship will only make you feel worse than you already do about yourself. But there’s nothing to feel bad about. In fact, you should be proud of yourself for taking such a brave step.

Pick yourself up by reading 9 effective strategies to improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #8: Focus on helping others

As you get out of an abusive relationship and lean on friends and family for support, don’t let everything become about you. You should also offer help to them and to many people in this world who need you right now, despite you and them not knowing each other.

So, help others and you’ll no longer feel alone. In fact, you’ll feel fortunate in your life right now.

Read these 8 important tips to be more generous.

Who knows? Maybe this chance to step into selflessness will help you uncover your true calling in life.

You’ll want to read 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #9: Refuse to make excuses

Not for yourself or your partner. Don’t try to give reasons why you might be abused because nothing justifies being someone else’s punching bag.

If you make excuses, you’ll never get out of an abusive relationship. Instead, know right now that you deserve much more respect than what you are getting right now.

You tried to get your partner to see reason. They didn’t, so it’s time to move on from them.

 

  • Tip #10: Forgive

Forgive yourself and forgive your partner. It’s time to move forward and not hold grudges. You want to heal and forgiveness will surely give you healing.

Read my post a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

The final word

The first thing to remember as you get out of an abusive relationship is that the abuse is not your fault, no matter what you think you’ve done wrong.

A healthy relationship should be about mutual respect. An abusive partner has no respect for you and there can’t be a healthy and productive future for you. Get out of an abusive relationship so you can finally realize the life God intended for you: a simple healthy lifestyle.

Remember that forgiveness is a virtue that will heal broken hearts and this broken world, so we must all strive to have it by starting with forgiving those who hurt us deeply.

Also remember to be happy everyday by reading these 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please tell us what you think of it. Have you ever tried to get out of an abusive relationship? Then please share with us your experience. What are some of your tips?

Even if you’ve never tried to get out of an abusive relationship, still share your thoughts with us please.

 

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How to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships

You can make a decision to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships right now.

Remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

But if you realize that a relationship is anything but healthy, and you feel like you are being violated, then it’s time to take a step.

So how exactly do you do that?

 

A picture to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships

 

  • Have the right intentions for getting involved with other people

Your own selfish intentions about starting relationships can be the ones making it difficult for you to avoid being taken advantage of.

If you are in a relationship for money, for example, then it’s easy to succumb to abuse, as long as you get the money you are looking for.

To avoid being taken advantage of, go into your relationships based only on love  and all the other right intentions of trust, genuine companionship, honesty, etc.

 

  • Know yourself

Sometimes you can’t avoid being taken advantage of because you don’t know yourself.

You are swayed by whatever happens in the relationship, whatever the other person asks of you, however unfair.

So, know yourself and be acquainted with your own values. Only when you are clear about your values will you not allow them to be compromised.

I recommend 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

The best way to know yourself is to read the word of God. It’s the perfect mirror of who God created you to be.

2 Timothy 1 v 7: God’s spirit doesn’t make cowards out of us. The spirit gives us power, love and self-control. (CEV)

Romans 8 v 37: … in all things we have complete victory through him who loved us! (GNB)

Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power…(CEV)

There are many more verses that talk of who you are in God’s eyes. So pick up the word of God and immerse yourself in it.

Meditate on it until it is completely carved into your heart. Live by it. If you have trouble understanding the bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Be clear about what you want

If you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then be firm about what you want. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no.

What does that mean? It simply means, don’t be ambiguous about anything. If the other person asks something of you and you don’t want to do it, then be firm in saying no.

And make sure to be vocal about what you want so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Don’t assume that will be clear to the other person. No. Clearly communicate it.

 

  • Get out of unhealthy relationships

You already know that a healthy relationship is based on love, trust, honesty, mutual respect, etc.

Any relationship that falls short of these qualities is not worth being in. So, if you are sure that there’s no hope of the relationship being redeemed, then it’s time to let go of it so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

It’s in unhealthy relationships that people are mostly taken advantage of. So, make sure all your relationships are healthy.

 

  • Be assertive in accepting correction and advice

Just because now you are clear about what you want doesn’t mean you should be stubborn.

Remember that a healthy relationship is not all about taking; you should be prepared to give as well.

So, don’t be stubborn. Sometimes your obstinacy is the only thing you need to get rid of so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

Be wise and accept correction. Don’t assume you are right every time.

But being timid and gullible is not going to help you either. Be careful about the kind of advice you get because some of it may work against you and not for you.

Learn to be assertive instead. This way, you’ll be wise enough to accept correction without being manipulated. This will definitely help you to avoid being taken advantage of.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

 

  • Don’t draw rash conclusions about the other person

Being judgmental is definitely a stumbling block when you are trying to avoid being taken advantage of.

Don’t assume the worst of the other person, or you’ll just perpetuate that assumption and actually draw out the worst in that person.

Always give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Actually, do better by thinking the best of them.

Did you know that thinking the best of a bad person can actually draw out the good in them? People act decent when we make it clear it to them that we think they are decent.

 

  • Ask questions

Sometimes all you need to do to avoid being taken advantage of is ask questions.

When the other person does something that you feel puts you at a disadvantage, then simply ask them questions without being accusatory.

You might discover the root cause of why they do the things they do. Then you can both work toward improving things so you can avoid being taken advantage of again.

If you are wondering how to go about asking questions then I suggest you read my post on 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.

 

  • Forgive

Yes, if you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then playing tit for tat isn’t going to help you.

If you feel that you’ve been wronged, then doing the same thing to the other person is not going to avenge you. It’s only going to make things worse by perpetuating the cycle of abuse.

So, refuse to take revenge against the other person. Instead, forgive them and move on. Don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes. Forgive them and learn to trust them again. Forgiveness heals many ills.

 

  • Accept each other just as you are

Don’t try to change the other person. This will just backfire on you. People are to be loved, not fixed.

Likewise, refuse to let the other person change you if you want to avoid being taken advantage of.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with you. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve on your behavior. But the choice to do so should be yours and not imposed on you by the other person.

 

The final word

If you want to enjoy healthy relationships as a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you have to take the necessary measures to avoid being taken advantage of.

Follow the tips above and many other tips so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Please note that you should also use the tips above to avoid taking advantage of others.

Remember that relationships are partnerships. They are about mutual love, trust, honesty and respect, so play your role in making yours healthy.

 

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