Get out of an abusive relationship with these 10 tips

If you’ve been wondering how to get out of an abusive relationship, then you’ve come to the right place.

Keep reading because I’m about to share with you tips you can employ to finally break free from that bondage.

 

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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. An abusive relationship is anything but healthy.

It undermines your freedom and everything good that God intended for you when he made you.

 

So what are the tips to get out of an abusive relationship?

 

  • Tip #1: Lean on God

Yes, my answer to everything. As you try to get out of an abusive relationship, God is your best refuge. And you have to get into his word to be able to draw out his comfort and counsel.

So, take your relationship with God to the next level in this difficult phase of your life. If you’ve never really had a relationship with God, now is the time to start.

God is in the pages of your bible. The bible has the answer to every question you are asking yourself right now.

If you have trouble with your bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip #2: Know what you want

It’s people who are unclear about what they want who can’t get out of an abusive relationship.

Be clear about what you want and let your partner know what that is. If your needs can’t be met, then you need to get out provided you’ve communicated your dissatisfaction and done all that’s necessary to make the relationship work.

You can’t get out of an abusive relationship until you do this first tip. And to do it, you must know yourself. So read these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • Tip #3: Communicate before leaving

It might seem unfathomable to communicate with someone who abuses you. But leaving without communicating your departure will inhibit you from finding closure.

So, try to get your partner to sit down so you can have a heart to heart in as calm a manner as possible. Remember this: communication will help you get a clean break as you try to get out of an abusive relationship.

 

  • Tip #4: Know where you are going from here

And I can tell you right now that it’s not into the arms of a new lover. Starting a new relationship shouldn’t even be something you think about as you get out of an abusive relationship.

Be prepared to spend some time alone so you can heal, regroup and prepare to get into a new relationship when the time is right.

 

  • Tip #5: Distance yourself from this relationship as much as possible

Saying you want to stay friends with your partner will only make things more complicated for you as you get out of an abusive relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with remaining in good terms with your partner after you’ve broken up. In fact, that’s the best thing to do.

But you should do that while maintaining some distance from them. And that means not just them but everything associated with them; their family, friends etc.

Clinging to some parts of your partner’s life will only make leaving and staying away much harder for you.

 

  • Tip #6: Get closer to your friends and family

As you distance yourself from your partner, make sure you get closer to your loved ones.

These people are your support system as you get out of an abusive relationship, and you are going to need them as you face a life of readjusting back to your singleness.

 

  • Tip #7: Take a step back from social media

Not just your partner’s accounts, but social media altogether. Social media just throws people’s lives in your face. And remember, those lives are staged and not a true representation of how those people live.

As you get out of an abusive relationship, of course you are going to get hurt when you see other people’s seemingly perfect lives on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc.

You’ll then start to doubt your decision to leave your relationship, though deep down you know that was the right decision to make.

Read the real impact of social media in your life.

Resist the temptation to compare yourself to anyone by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Comparing yourself to others as you get out of abusive relationship will only make you feel worse than you already do about yourself. But there’s nothing to feel bad about. In fact, you should be proud of yourself for taking such a brave step.

Pick yourself up by reading 9 effective strategies to improve your self-esteem.

 

  • Tip #8: Focus on helping others

As you get out of an abusive relationship and lean on friends and family for support, don’t let everything become about you. You should also offer help to them and to many people in this world who need you right now, despite you and them not knowing each other.

So, help others and you’ll no longer feel alone. In fact, you’ll feel fortunate in your life right now.

Read these 8 important tips to be more generous.

Who knows? Maybe this chance to step into selflessness will help you uncover your true calling in life.

You’ll want to read 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #9: Refuse to make excuses

Not for yourself or your partner. Don’t try to give reasons why you might be abused because nothing justifies being someone else’s punching bag.

If you make excuses, you’ll never get out of an abusive relationship. Instead, know right now that you deserve much more respect than what you are getting right now.

You tried to get your partner to see reason. They didn’t, so it’s time to move on from them.

 

  • Tip #10: Forgive

Forgive yourself and forgive your partner. It’s time to move forward and not hold grudges. You want to heal and forgiveness will surely give you healing.

Read my post a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

The final word

The first thing to remember as you get out of an abusive relationship is that the abuse is not your fault, no matter what you think you’ve done wrong.

A healthy relationship should be about mutual respect. An abusive partner has no respect for you and there can’t be a healthy and productive future for you. Get out of an abusive relationship so you can finally realize the life God intended for you: a simple healthy lifestyle.

Remember that forgiveness is a virtue that will heal broken hearts and this broken world, so we must all strive to have it by starting with forgiving those who hurt us deeply.

Also remember to be happy everyday by reading these 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please tell us what you think of it. Have you ever tried to get out of an abusive relationship? Then please share with us your experience. What are some of your tips?

Even if you’ve never tried to get out of an abusive relationship, still share your thoughts with us please.

 

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3 ways to escape an abusive relationship by thehopeline.com

 

 

 

 

6 easy to use tips to avoid gossip

If you are looking for easy to use tips to avoid gossip then you are in the right place. I used to struggle with gossiping and didn’t have any idea how to avoid it.

But then I made a lot of progress in that area and I’m about to let you know how I did that so you can also make progress to avoid gossip.

 

A message to avoid gossip

 

Gossip is never good, and it’s always best to avoid it at all costs. Avoid gossip so you can keep your relationships intact because they are an important requirement to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Gossip turns loved ones against each other and leads to a broken world. It also hinders you from being the best you can be and sharing that with other people.

There’s so much we can do if we can learn to avoid gossip. Think of all the time and energy you’d save, and all the relationships you’d enjoy.

So here are 6 easy to use tips to avoid gossip.

 

  • Tip #1: Stop gossiping

There’s no use in saying you want to avoid gossip if you are gossiping yourself. The first thing you need to do is stop gossiping so you can begin to dissociate yourself from it completely.

 

  • Tip #2: Avoid people who make you gossip

You know who those people are because you’ve been gossiping with them. But remember that you should try to get your friends to also avoid gossip instead of cutting them off altogether.

Give them a chance to realize their mistake and repent. If they insist on gossiping and you know you tried with them, then it’s time to move away from them and form healthy relationships.

 

  • Tip #3: Be productive with your time

This will definitely help you avoid gossip. Read my post on 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.

Sometimes we gossip because we have nothing to do with our time. Our days are just so empty that we are looking for empty but harmful talk to fill them up.

Keep busy instead. Find something to do so you don’t have time to gossip. There are many things you can do. Try new things. Engage your talents. Read this post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

Don’t worry that you won’t find something to do. There really are plenty of things. You can do this.

 

  • Tip #4: Get in the word of God

I know, this is my answer to everything. But it really works and this is perhaps your best tip. Get in the word of God. The word has a lot to say about gossip and it will teach you to move away from it.

Proverbs 20 v 19: Gossips can’t keep secrets, so never confide in blabbermouths (MSG).

Proverbs 16 v 28: Troublemakers start fights; gossip breaks up friendships (MSG).

We should be eager to follow the word of God because it’s the perfect manual for our lives.

Read my post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible. You’ll also want to read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip#5: Watch less TV

TV is full of gossip. Celebrity gossip is the perfect foundation for a life of gossip. There’s always plenty to talk about when it comes to celebrities.

Read my post: Watch less TV with these easy tactics. Watching less TV will help you avoid gossip and help free up some time for you to be productive.

 

  • Tip#6: Spend less time on social media

There’s a lot of gossip going around in social media. All that time spent on Facebook talking to friends you might have never even met is bound to get you talking about someone or something you shouldn’t be talking about.

Some people use social media as a means to cure boredom. Learn to nurture your relationships with others and learn to enjoy your own company. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

Also read this post on the real impact of social media in your life.

 

The final word

It can be hard to break a habit. So you’ll definitely face temptations while you are trying to avoid gossip. Keep strong and no matter how many times you fall, get back up and keep moving forward.

 

Thank you for reading this post. How do you avoid gossip? Please tell us your own tips by commenting.

 

 

 

The real impact of social media in your life

Social media.  Many people love it, some worship it actually. But there’s also a lot of people who’ve  turned their backs on it. The question is: Is social media bad? And what is its impact in your life? What is its place in your journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle? Here is the real impact of social media in your life.

 

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Impact Number 1: Social media undermines the value of having real interactions with those that we love

Social media has taken the place of actual, human to human contact. How many face to face conversations have you had in the past month? And no, skyping is not having a face to face conversation. I’m talking about a conversation where you can reach your hand out and slap your friend’s shoulder as you laugh.

Thanks to social media, we no longer enjoy those interactions that let us not only share a real laugh with a friend, but actually strengthen bonds between people. We have thrown out meaningful interactions for frivolous interactions over a phone.

 

Impact Number 2: Social media can be a breeding ground for jealousy

Let’s face it. Most of us can never log out of Facebook without checking out what’s going on in someone else’s life. We’ve become inquisitive about other people’s lives and have forgotten what it’s like to mind our own business.

I used to be on Facebook. I’d never heard of it until my friend opened up an account for me in 2008. And then I fell in love with it. I was thousands of miles away from home, and now all of a sudden I could chat with this huge network of people from home that I missed. I used Facebook only for that. To chat with people and find out how they were.

And then I got so used to it, and so in love with it that I was checking it as often as I possibly could. But now it was to see what was happening in other people’s lives in that stalkish kind of way. That’s when I realized it had become a curse to me.

I deleted my Facebook account almost a year ago because I no longer derived pleasure from it. Every time I went on Facebook I was bombarded by people’s lives in ways I didn’t appreciate. People were in relationships, it was complicated, so and so and her boyfriend were engaged. Nothing wrong with that. But I grew tired of knowing other people’s business.

I no longer wanted to feel jealous because a childhood friend of mine was now making it big and enjoying vacations around the world. I no longer wanted to feel bad that while I didn’t yet know where my career was going, another childhood friend was quickly climbing up the corporate ladder.

Being jealous was my problem, I can’t blame Facebook for that. But I could do something about that jealousy, and for me that was quitting Facebook.

Today I live my life free of social media. I live quietly and mind my own business and I feel so fulfilled. I don’t see myself going back to social media, ever. I’ve made up my mind to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle and going back to social media would undermine that.

 

Impact Number 3: Social media steals time from you.

Track how much time you spend on social media and I’m willing to bet it’s a sizeable chunk of your day. Now think of all those other things you could be doing with that time, meaningful things. Spending actual time with friends and family, cooking, reading, exercising, volunteering, and the list is endless.

Social media lets you be lazy and be OK with it. It steals your time, the time you’ll never get back. You have to decide now if you want to spend that time on Facebook and Twitter or if you want to spend it doing something worthwhile.

 

The final word

I don’t know about you. Maybe you share my opinions, or maybe you don’t. But look at the impacts above and be honest with yourself about the real impact of social media in your journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Please, this post is not to hate on social media and the people who are in it. It’s not a post to say quit social media. The purpose of this post is to alert you of the impacts of social media, the impacts you might be blind to. At the end of the day, the decision to join, stay or leave social media is yours and yours alone. It’s a free world.

Whatever your decision, take pride in that decision. Have the guts to say what you want and stick with it.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts with us. What do you think. Does social media work for you or not?