You can make a decision to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships right now.
Remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.
But if you realize that a relationship is anything but healthy, and you feel like you are being violated, then it’s time to take a step.
So how exactly do you do that?
- Have the right intentions for getting involved with other people
Your own selfish intentions about starting relationships can be the ones making it difficult for you to avoid being taken advantage of.
If you are in a relationship for money, for example, then it’s easy to succumb to abuse, as long as you get the money you are looking for.
To avoid being taken advantage of, go into your relationships based only on love and all the other right intentions of trust, genuine companionship, honesty, etc.
- Know yourself
Sometimes you can’t avoid being taken advantage of because you don’t know yourself.
You are swayed by whatever happens in the relationship, whatever the other person asks of you, however unfair.
So, know yourself and be acquainted with your own values. Only when you are clear about your values will you not allow them to be compromised.
I recommend 6 useful tips to know yourself better.
The best way to know yourself is to read the word of God. It’s the perfect mirror of who God created you to be.
2 Timothy 1 v 7: God’s spirit doesn’t make cowards out of us. The spirit gives us power, love and self-control. (CEV)
Romans 8 v 37: … in all things we have complete victory through him who loved us! (GNB)
Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power…(CEV)
There are many more verses that talk of who you are in God’s eyes. So pick up the word of God and immerse yourself in it.
Meditate on it until it is completely carved into your heart. Live by it. If you have trouble understanding the bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.
Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.
- Be clear about what you want
If you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then be firm about what you want. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no.
What does that mean? It simply means, don’t be ambiguous about anything. If the other person asks something of you and you don’t want to do it, then be firm in saying no.
And make sure to be vocal about what you want so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Don’t assume that will be clear to the other person. No. Clearly communicate it.
- Get out of unhealthy relationships
You already know that a healthy relationship is based on love, trust, honesty, mutual respect, etc.
Any relationship that falls short of these qualities is not worth being in. So, if you are sure that there’s no hope of the relationship being redeemed, then it’s time to let go of it so you can avoid being taken advantage of.
It’s in unhealthy relationships that people are mostly taken advantage of. So, make sure all your relationships are healthy.
- Be assertive in accepting correction and advice
Just because now you are clear about what you want doesn’t mean you should be stubborn.
Remember that a healthy relationship is not all about taking; you should be prepared to give as well.
So, don’t be stubborn. Sometimes your obstinacy is the only thing you need to get rid of so you can avoid being taken advantage of.
Be wise and accept correction. Don’t assume you are right every time.
But being timid and gullible is not going to help you either. Be careful about the kind of advice you get because some of it may work against you and not for you.
Learn to be assertive instead. This way, you’ll be wise enough to accept correction without being manipulated. This will definitely help you to avoid being taken advantage of.
Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.
- Don’t draw rash conclusions about the other person
Being judgmental is definitely a stumbling block when you are trying to avoid being taken advantage of.
Don’t assume the worst of the other person, or you’ll just perpetuate that assumption and actually draw out the worst in that person.
Always give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Actually, do better by thinking the best of them.
Did you know that thinking the best of a bad person can actually draw out the good in them? People act decent when we make it clear it to them that we think they are decent.
- Ask questions
Sometimes all you need to do to avoid being taken advantage of is ask questions.
When the other person does something that you feel puts you at a disadvantage, then simply ask them questions without being accusatory.
You might discover the root cause of why they do the things they do. Then you can both work toward improving things so you can avoid being taken advantage of again.
If you are wondering how to go about asking questions then I suggest you read my post on 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.
Yes, if you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then playing tit for tat isn’t going to help you.
If you feel that you’ve been wronged, then doing the same thing to the other person is not going to avenge you. It’s only going to make things worse by perpetuating the cycle of abuse.
So, refuse to take revenge against the other person. Instead, forgive them and move on. Don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes. Forgive them and learn to trust them again. Forgiveness heals many ills.
- Accept each other just as you are
Don’t try to change the other person. This will just backfire on you. People are to be loved, not fixed.
Likewise, refuse to let the other person change you if you want to avoid being taken advantage of.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with you. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve on your behavior. But the choice to do so should be yours and not imposed on you by the other person.
The final word
If you want to enjoy healthy relationships as a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you have to take the necessary measures to avoid being taken advantage of.
Follow the tips above and many other tips so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Please note that you should also use the tips above to avoid taking advantage of others.
Remember that relationships are partnerships. They are about mutual love, trust, honesty and respect, so play your role in making yours healthy.
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