Get out of an abusive relationship with these 10 tips

If you’ve been wondering how to get out of an abusive relationship, then you’ve come to the right place.

Keep reading because I’m about to share with you tips you can employ to finally break free from that bondage.


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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. An abusive relationship is anything but healthy.

It undermines your freedom and everything good that God intended for you when he made you.


So what are the tips to get out of an abusive relationship?


  • Tip #1: Lean on God

Yes, my answer to everything. As you try to get out of an abusive relationship, God is your best refuge. And you have to get into his word to be able to draw out his comfort and counsel.

So, take your relationship with God to the next level in this difficult phase of your life. If you’ve never really had a relationship with God, now is the time to start.

God is in the pages of your bible. The bible has the answer to every question you are asking yourself right now.

If you have trouble with your bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.


  • Tip #2: Know what you want

It’s people who are unclear about what they want who can’t get out of an abusive relationship.

Be clear about what you want and let your partner know what that is. If your needs can’t be met, then you need to get out provided you’ve communicated your dissatisfaction and done all that’s necessary to make the relationship work.

You can’t get out of an abusive relationship until you do this first tip. And to do it, you must know yourself. So read these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.


  • Tip #3: Communicate before leaving

It might seem unfathomable to communicate with someone who abuses you. But leaving without communicating your departure will inhibit you from finding closure.

So, try to get your partner to sit down so you can have a heart to heart in as calm a manner as possible. Remember this: communication will help you get a clean break as you try to get out of an abusive relationship.


  • Tip #4: Know where you are going from here

And I can tell you right now that it’s not into the arms of a new lover. Starting a new relationship shouldn’t even be something you think about as you get out of an abusive relationship.

Be prepared to spend some time alone so you can heal, regroup and prepare to get into a new relationship when the time is right.


  • Tip #5: Distance yourself from this relationship as much as possible

Saying you want to stay friends with your partner will only make things more complicated for you as you get out of an abusive relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with remaining in good terms with your partner after you’ve broken up. In fact, that’s the best thing to do.

But you should do that while maintaining some distance from them. And that means not just them but everything associated with them; their family, friends etc.

Clinging to some parts of your partner’s life will only make leaving and staying away much harder for you.


  • Tip #6: Get closer to your friends and family

As you distance yourself from your partner, make sure you get closer to your loved ones.

These people are your support system as you get out of an abusive relationship, and you are going to need them as you face a life of readjusting back to your singleness.


  • Tip #7: Take a step back from social media

Not just your partner’s accounts, but social media altogether. Social media just throws people’s lives in your face. And remember, those lives are staged and not a true representation of how those people live.

As you get out of an abusive relationship, of course you are going to get hurt when you see other people’s seemingly perfect lives on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc.

You’ll then start to doubt your decision to leave your relationship, though deep down you know that was the right decision to make.

Read the real impact of social media in your life.

Resist the temptation to compare yourself to anyone by reading how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Comparing yourself to others as you get out of abusive relationship will only make you feel worse than you already do about yourself. But there’s nothing to feel bad about. In fact, you should be proud of yourself for taking such a brave step.

Pick yourself up by reading 9 effective strategies to improve your self-esteem.


  • Tip #8: Focus on helping others

As you get out of an abusive relationship and lean on friends and family for support, don’t let everything become about you. You should also offer help to them and to many people in this world who need you right now, despite you and them not knowing each other.

So, help others and you’ll no longer feel alone. In fact, you’ll feel fortunate in your life right now.

Read these 8 important tips to be more generous.

Who knows? Maybe this chance to step into selflessness will help you uncover your true calling in life.

You’ll want to read 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.


  • Tip #9: Refuse to make excuses

Not for yourself or your partner. Don’t try to give reasons why you might be abused because nothing justifies being someone else’s punching bag.

If you make excuses, you’ll never get out of an abusive relationship. Instead, know right now that you deserve much more respect than what you are getting right now.

You tried to get your partner to see reason. They didn’t, so it’s time to move on from them.


  • Tip #10: Forgive

Forgive yourself and forgive your partner. It’s time to move forward and not hold grudges. You want to heal and forgiveness will surely give you healing.

Read my post a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.


The final word

The first thing to remember as you get out of an abusive relationship is that the abuse is not your fault, no matter what you think you’ve done wrong.

A healthy relationship should be about mutual respect. An abusive partner has no respect for you and there can’t be a healthy and productive future for you. Get out of an abusive relationship so you can finally realize the life God intended for you: a simple healthy lifestyle.

Remember that forgiveness is a virtue that will heal broken hearts and this broken world, so we must all strive to have it by starting with forgiving those who hurt us deeply.

Also remember to be happy everyday by reading these 17 simple things you must do to become happier.


Thank you for reading this post. Please tell us what you think of it. Have you ever tried to get out of an abusive relationship? Then please share with us your experience. What are some of your tips?

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Live stress free with these 10 great tips

Do you want to live stress free? Then you are in the right place because I’m about to share with you easy tips you can start using right now to live stress free.


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I too used to want to live stress free. But at the time, I was riddled with so much stress that the notion to live stress free seemed far fetched.

There was so much going on in my life. I wanted so many things that I didn’t have. And the things that I did have didn’t seem to be helping much to achieve the ones I wanted.

I had too much going on in my head. I stressed about my present and my future so much I couldn’t concentrate on anything long enough to finish it.

This struggle remained even long after I made the decision to start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

But right now as I write this, I’m confident that I have let go of stress and now live stress free.

It was hard at first letting go of stress because I’d gotten so accustomed to it that it was a legitimate part of my life.

But I can tell you right now that my life is much better without stress and I look forward to every coming day and whatever it brings; pleasures and discomforts.

You can live stress free too, and here’s how:


  • Tip #1: Read the word of God

This is the best tip to live stress free. The word of God is soothing in a truthful way.

It lets you know that you are loved beyond explanation by our father, and also offers counsel. You can’t go wrong if you stick to it.

2 Timothy 3 v 16: Everything in the Scriptures is God’s word. All of it is useful for teaching and helping people and for correcting them and showing them how to live. (CEV)

You can trust the word of God to always tell you the truth. It doesn’t manipulate you by telling you only what you want to hear. So you can trust it to always be honest with you.

Now you can tailor your life to go in step with God’s counsel. If you do that, you are more than guaranteed to live stress free.

Read 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 7 easy steps to help you find rest in God.


  • Tip #2: Re-examine you values

Or examine them for the first time. It’s easy to assume that every one is aware of their values. But some people just live unaware of their values.

Consciously re-examine your values. Your values will always make it clear to you what you want in life.

Now that you are clear on your values, you can begin to pinpoint the things you should do away with.

Those things will highly likely be your stressors, so this tips is extremely important if you want to live stress free.


  • Tip # 3: Forgive yourself

You can’t begin to live stress free if you can’t forgive yourself. You are swimming in guilt or regrets and therefore you have too much stress on your hands.

Remember life is for everyone to enjoy. And it’s a journey, not a destination. Just because you took a detour to the wrong side doesn’t mean you can’t find your way back to the right path.

Work toward becoming a better person. Let your mistakes be life lessons. Everyone makes mistakes, remember that.

Let the mistakes of your past be your past, and those include the mistakes you made yesterday because now they are in the past.


  • Tip #4: Forgive others

Just as it’s important to forgive yourself, it’s equally important that you forgive others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Others are just as worthy of forgiveness as you are. Forgiving others frees you more than it frees them.

I’m sure you know what I mean. Have you ever been in the same room as a friend who wronged you a few months ago?

You are still pouting and sulking in the corner and they are laughing with everybody else and having a good time?

I know the feeling. And it just makes you look and feel stupid. Forgive others and free yourself to also enjoy yourself at all times.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.


  • Tip #5: Accept your life just the way it is

Yes. This is also very important if you want to live stress free.

So what if your life is pretty bad right now? I know you are wondering about that.

Then accept it just the way it is. Accepting it doesn’t mean settling in it. It means consciously acknowledging it instead of running away from it in denial.

Whatever your life circumstances, accept them. If you’ve been in jail, or you are in jail, accept that.

If you’ve been an abusive spouse, then accept that.

Only when you accept your life circumstances can you begin to take steps to improve them. This will definitely help you to live stress free.


  • Tip #6: Think the best of every situation

I don’t care what it is. Divorce, disease, failing at school, getting fired from work, you name it.

These are bad situations, I know. But it’s the bad situations that always teach us the best lessons in life as long as we don’t play the victim but accept them.

So always see the best of whatever situation you find yourself in. I guarantee that this will help you live stress free.


  • Tip #7: Be present in everything you do

It’s easy to be preoccupied with other things while we are doing one thing, and this elevates stress.

If you are washing dishes, but now you are worried about paying the bills and the kids’ tuition, and the mortgage, then stress is bound to overwhelm you.

Instead, learn to be present in what you are doing. You can teach yourself to think of only washing the dishes.

You can compartmentalize everything so that you don’t let your stressors dominate all your time. This way you don’t let stress prevent you from being productive.

Read 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.


  • Tip #8: Leave the future where it’s supposed to be, in the future

Don’t stress about the unreal. Everything in the future is unreal; have you ever thought about that? That wedding you are planning for Christmas, it’s unreal. That house you are going to buy next summer, that’s unreal.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan for them. But you should remember that tomorrow is unknown and things might turn out differently than you thought, or they might not even happen at all.

So, in this midst of the unknown, why stress? No, focus on what you can do now and leave the future to God to handle.


  • Tip #9: Declutter your life

And do this in every way imaginable if you want to live stress free. People have a lot of stress because they have a lot of material, mental, emotional, financial, intellectual and social clutter. If only they could declutter their lives.

You don’t need all those other things outside of your basic needs. Stop hoarding stuff because managing it means stress. Simplify your life in the best possible way.

Soon I’ll dedicate an entire to post to decluttering your life, so please keep following my posts.


  • Tip #10: Be grateful

I’m surprised by people who roll their eyes at this tip. Don’t underestimate the significance of gratitude if you want to live stress free.

Most people can’t get out of stress because instead of being grateful for the good things in their lives, they are busy whining about the bad things in their lives.

Sometimes they whine even about the good things because they’ve become blind to how lucky they are.

If you are like that, it’s time to change. Gratitude is the best antidote for stress, so take a spoonful and live stress free.


The final word

The decision to live stress free is well within your reach; you just have to make it. If you are used to living with stress, then the thought that you can live stress free can seem inconceivable and unreal at first.

But it is your right as a child of God to live stress free and enjoy the life God has blessed you with.

Many people have died and many are dying right now, so you are blessed to still be alive. Don’t let one more moment of your life go wasted as you wallow in stress.

You can make a choice to be happy from this moment forth. All it takes is a decision to be happy. I recommend 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

Also check out how to be free from anger.


Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? Are you trying to live stress free? Then please share with us how you are going about doing that.





How to be free from anger

Being free from anger is liberating beyond explanation. See, anger is a negative emotion that takes more than it gives, unless you are talking about giving you disease. Being free from anger is something we must all strive to achieve. Continue reading so you can learn how to be free from anger.


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A lot of people struggle with anger management. There used to be a time in my life when I did too. It didn’t take a lot to anger me, and when I did get angry, it was excessive.

Let me tell you. I once blew up at my boss at work. I stood up in a meeting of more than one hundred people and called out the boss that everyone, including myself, was scared of.

That might have been brave because I was standing up for my rights. But it was the wrong way to go about doing that. Since then, I’ve consciously stepped away from that kind of anger, and anger altogether.

A life free from anger is a life of freedom in every way imaginable. You free up your spirit to focus on the positive and in the process, you free up your body to enjoy that positivity.


Here’s how you can be free from anger:

  • Get into God’s word

I know. It seems like this is my first answer to every question. Well, the truth is, it is. The word of God is literally a manual for your life. It has the answer to every question you have right now.

The word of God tells us to not go to bed angry, and it tells us to love each other. It tells us to patiently put up with each other.

There’s no anger evident in any of the scenarios above. And in the first scenario, the word of God comes right out and condemns anger.

So, be free from anger by getting into God’s word and meditating on it. Pray to God for guidance. Read my 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.


  • Avoid anything that triggers your anger

Avoid people who make you angry. If it means changing the people you hang around with, then so be it.

If it’s someone at work or school who you can’t avoid, then converse with them only in matters concerning work or school so you limit the chances of them saying something that makes you angry. This will definitely help you be free from anger.


  • Practice forgiveness

I’ve already mentioned patiently putting up with each other. Now, go further by forgiving others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Everyone makes mistakes, including you. And everyone deserves forgiveness for their mistakes, including you. Forgive others just as you’d like them to forgive you and by doing this you will be free from anger.

If you hold grudges, you open yourself up to a lot of heartache, which births diseases. Plus, holding grudges robs you of healthy relationships and we know that healthy relationships are one of the key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read my post: a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.


  • Address your personal issues and make peace with your life

Sometimes all you need to be free from anger is to address the issues in your life. And these are issues no one else but you might know of. Maybe you are struggling with addictions.

It’s common that when you are frustrated with your private things, you tend to take them out on others in the form of anger.

Instead of lashing out, address your addictions. Lean on the word of God, and seek counseling. You shouldn’t be alone in your time of need and there are a lot of people who are ready to help you so you can be free from anger.


  • Live a simple life

This is extremely important. I know the world today encourages cut-throat competition and a high lifestyle few can afford.

Don’t let people dictate how you should live. Read this post on having the guts to live life on your own terms.

Be clear about what you want. Know yourself enough to know the kind of life you want to lead and be firm about it. I have these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

A simple life is the best life. Simple means affordable, and you can never go wrong with affordable.

Living a life you can’t afford burdens you, and this breeds anger. So be free from anger by living simply, quietly, minding your own business.


The final word

Do everything you can in order to be free from anger. Freedom from anger will liberate you and attract good things into your life.

You’ll have the best that life has to offer, and though challenges will arise, your new attitude will ensure you deal with challenges with amazing positivity that will enable you to always emerge triumphant at the other end of your problems.


Thank you for reading this post. I know a lot of people struggle to be free from anger. Are you struggling too? Let us know. If you’ve struggled to be free from anger before but you managed to conquer your anger, please share with us how you did that.


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How to handle a confrontation

Handling a confrontation can be tricky, we all know that.

Yesterday on my way from the post office, I had a nasty confrontation with someone I believed had done me wrong. But when it was all over, I looked back at it. Even now as I write this post, I now understand what I did wrong.


A bible message for handling confrontations


I hold forgiveness as one of the key elements of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

The bible tells us clearly how to handle confrontations. And most of the time we think we can adhere to the bible. Well, until we are actually in the middle of a real confrontation and we find ourselves pushing aside everything the bible tells us to do.


That is exactly what I did.

Someone owed me money and I saw him as I was coming from the post office. The best thing, as per the bible, would’ve been to go to him in private and talk to him about that.

But I didn’t do that. I yelled all the way from where I was standing. And I felt justified in doing so because I believed this man’s mistake was intentional and I could’ve sworn he didn’t want to pay me given that his debt was almost two years old and he’d come to me with the worst intentions in the first place.

Needless to say, the confrontation went badly. I was mad because he was being dishonest and he was mad because he felt I was being rude, shouting at him from far. In the end, I got my money but I felt anything but triumphant as I went back home.


What could I have done better?

  • First of all, I should’ve gone and spoken to him privately and calmly.
  • Regardless of whether or not I felt he was being honest, I should’ve accepted his apology because he kept telling me he was sorry.

But I didn’t think his apology was sincere given his reputation. Please take note that his reputation didn’t matter at that point. He was telling me he was sorry and I should’ve forgiven him.


A bible message for handling confrontations


I wrote a post about forgiveness just a few days ago and reminded you that we should learn to forgive others if we want to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle. We should forgive others whether or not we feel like they deserve our forgiveness, and regardless of how much they hurt us. Read that post here.

Yet at that point of the confrontation, I threw all that out of the window and felt like I was entitled to being angry. But I wasn’t. Anger is the birthplace of everything bad. It’s not only harmful to the person it’s directed to, but also to you who expresses it. It’s poison that will stay with you long after the confrontation is over and eat you up inside.

So, this confrontation happened around 12 noon, and yet when I went to bed at 10pm, I was still seething.

This morning I caught myself swearing I was never going to help this person. And I thought to myself, “wait a minute. Whatever happened to all the forgiveness and love I preach in my blog and in my everyday life to the people around me?”


I’ve quoted this verse before and I’ll quote it again.

2 Corinthians 2 v 7:  When people sin, you should forgive and comfort them, so they won’t give up in despair. (CEV)

Let’s forgive others for their mistakes so they’ll forgive us for ours. No one is perfect, but forgiving and loving each other will free us so we can enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

We learn from our mistakes, and I learned from mine. I’ve let go of the regrets I have but now know how to handle confrontations when they come up again. Because even though we must try our best to avoid them at all costs, they are bound to come up as long as we share our space and world with each other.


A picture of people holding hands to avoid confrontation


The final word

There’s a lot of unforgiveness going around, that’s why evil rules this world. But you and I don’t have to contribute to that. We can slowly but surely change the world by playing our individual parts in forgiving others for their mistakes, and encouraging others to do the same.

We won’t always do that right. Sometimes we’ll be ruled by our emotions; we are human after all. But as long as we reevaluate our actions and realize where we went wrong in handling situations, then we can go back and remedy them.


A simple healthy lifestyle is not based on perfection, but on trying every day, learning from our mistakes instead of beating ourselves up over them. Read the word of God and don’t depart from the Lord’s counsel. He’s the best thing we can hope for in this life and beyond.


Thank you for reading this post. I felt like I needed to get these things out of my chest, air my mistakes so you can learn from them. Please let us know your thoughts on this post. How do you handle confrontations?


A simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships

A simple healthy lifestyle is dependent upon you establishing and maintaining meaningful relationships.


A message about love for a simple healthy lifestyle


Please note that relationships have to be meaningful if they are to work. Not just meaningful to you, but to the other person as well.

Our world today is permeated with selfish relationships. Relationships have come to be about what I can get from the other person, and never about pursuing genuine love.

But I’ve gotten tired of hearing phrases like: well, it’s what it is, we just have to live with it.

Why do we have to settle for the worst things in life, mediocre at best? We are the ones who changed relationships from meaningful to selfish, and we are the only ones who can change them back.

So let’s not settle for less than what we deserve if we wish to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.


You are worthy of love message for a simple healthy lifestyle


OK. So then, we have to examine ourselves.


What is stopping us from enjoying meaningful relationships?

The answer is pretty simple, if you think about it. But many people continue to miss this truth and therefore they cannot enjoy meaningful relationships that in turn allow them to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

This is the truth:

Meaningful relationships are all rooted on one thing: Love.


If you don’t think you are worthy of love, or that others are worthy of love, you can forget about having meaningful relationship with others.


That’s it. It’s that simple.

Love makes everything possible.

And love is the mother of all great things in this world.


If we can love ourselves and love others at the same time, then we have found the key to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.


If we can love ourselves and others enough to know that we deserve only the best, then we’d form meaningful relationships that only promote that belief.


So am I saying that people today don’t have love?

Exactly. Maybe it’s not something you think is true. Or maybe you know it’s true but you don’t want to hear that truth.

Notice that in the above statements I didn’t say people should love themselves only. I said they should love themselves AND others.

True love goes beyond self to others.


Genuine relationships for a simple healthy lifestyle


You cannot say you truly have love until that love pours out to those around you. Only then can you genuinely say you have love in your heart.

So if you want to argue that there is love around us then I’m not going to argue with you. I see love around us, of course. But that love is self-love, and it falls far too short of the kind of love you need to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Yes, again, I don’t want to offend anyone but today we love ourselves and nobody else. We revere ourselves and have turned that worship from the one being who deserves it: God.

We have so much self-love that we have no room in our hearts to love anybody else. That’s why we form empty relationships that are all about what we can get from the other person.


So how do I start loving others?

You just have to make a decision to love them. That’s all it takes to start: A decision.

You can’t wait for people to do good things for you before you start loving them. Simply because people aren’t perfect and if you wait for that to happen you might end up waiting forever.

Love others NOW with all their imperfections, the same way they should love you with all your imperfections.

Realize that love makes you and them grow and become better people than you were yesterday. And that’s what we need in order to heal this world.


What if someone hurt you?

Love them. It’s that simple. Does that mean you are not hurt or angry? No of course not. You’ll feel the disappointment, the hurt. But love them regardless. Only if you love those who hurt you and you show them that love, will they want to become better people.

If you want to know more about loving and forgiving others for their mistakes, read this.

So begin your journey now to love yourself and others so you can start enjoying the simple healthy lifestyle that guarantees results.

  • Start by loving yourself unconditionally
  • Make friends and love them unconditionally
  • Love your children unconditionally
  • Love your spouse unconditionally. That is what marriage is all about anyway.

Love everyone unconditionally.


Loving your spouse unconditionally for a simple healthy lifestyle


Don’t let unconditional love be something you reserve only for your pets. Pets are cute and we should love them, but people are indispensable and we should love them even more, treasure them, and not take for granted the little time we have with them in this world.

I’ve mentioned this before and I’ll say it again: The bible is my only source of truth. And the bible says everything is hinged on love. We are to love our creator, and we are to love others.

I can quote a few  verses about love.

1 Corinthians 13 v 2: What if I could prophesy and understand all secrets and all knowledge? And what if I had faith that moved mountains? I would be nothing unless I loved others. (CEV)

1 Peter 4 v 8: Most important of all, you must sincerely love each other, because love wipes away many sins. (CEV)

1 Corinthians 13 v 13: For now there are faith, hope, and love. But of these three, the greatest is love. (CEV)

1 Corinthians 14 v 1: Love should be your guide. (CEV)

1 Corinthians 16 v 14: Show love in everything you do. (CEV)

And there are many more verses.


Bible verse about love for a simple healthy lifestyle


The final word

We don’t have to let our relationships deteriorate like it’s the case right now in this world. We can turn things around and form genuine relationships based on true love. Only then can we enjoy the simple healthy lifestyle we deserve.


Thank you for reading this post. Please let us know your thoughts on the topic. What kind of relationships do you have? Are they all genuine and meaningful or can you do without some of them? What are your struggles in forming healthy relationships? Let us know in the comments below.









A simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness

A simple healthy lifestyle is NOT possible until you forgive yourself and others.

I bet you never thought I’d say that, huh? You think this is too ‘deep’?

Well, many people don’t enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle because they have ‘deep’  issues they haven’t forgiven themselves for.

And because of that they can’t reach their true amazing selves because they are too busy holding grudges.


Two penguins kissing for a simple healthy lifestyle


What do I mean when I say you should forgive yourself?

I mean you should cut yourself some slack:

  • Maybe you hurt someone
  • Maybe you are in a relationship you don’t want and don’t have the guts to leave
  • Maybe you messed up a good relationship
  • Maybe you got yourself into a big debt


A debt sign for a simple healthy lifestyle

No matter your circumstances, you can start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle now by forgiving yourself first.

No one is perfect. We hear that all the time. Yet we still put ourselves on a pedestal.

We are too hard on ourselves and that hinders us from enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Because you can’t change what you did, forgive yourself, move forward and change what you can right now.

Be a better person today than you were yesterday.


I’ll give you my personal struggles.

  • I lost a job I should’ve held on to.
  • I got romantically involved with people I shouldn’t have gotten involved with.

I’ll just name those two among many others; I need you to see the point I’m trying to make.

I lost that job. Of course it was hard, leaving with no money and having to move back to my parents’. And I was bitter for quite a while.

But then one day I told myself I wasn’t going to be bitter anymore.


You might ask, what was the event that made me tell myself that at that particular moment?

The truth: No event.

One day, I was sitting alone and wallowing in my bitterness.

And then I remembered I was bigger than any challenge thrown to me because I’m a child of God most high.

I remembered James 1 saying I shouldn’t be anxious when going through trials and tribulations. They produce faith and patience in me so that ultimately I lack nothing.

I consider everything in the bible as the truth. So I used that truth to guide me from that moment forth and I haven’t looked back since.


A holy bible for a simple healthy lifestyle


The same thing happened with the relationship mistakes I made in the past. Intentional and misguided, and they made a negative impact in my life.

But I could no longer change what I had done. What I could do was use the grace God has availed to me to not repeat the same mistakes and be better.

OK, maybe your regrets are the same as mine, maybe not. The solution remains the same though.

Forgive yourself and move forward if you want to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.


But forgiveness should go beyond yourself.

I’ve stressed this here before. Enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle is dependent upon you looking beyond yourself to other people.

Selflessness is a virtue that will save you.

So, forgive others just as you’d want them to forgive you. Don’t condemn others the same way you shouldn’t condemn yourself.

Most often, we look at the mistakes other people have made and we hold a grudge. We constantly remind them of the way they hurt us.

  • Maybe your spouse cheated on you.
  • Maybe your friend stole money from you
  • Maybe you were wrongly fired from your job

And many others.

The devil will have you believe you need to seek justice and make those people who wronged you pay. Believe me, that’s NOT going to restore your peace.

The best thing to do is to forgive the people who hurt you and set them free in your heart. You forgive them, regardless of whether or not you feel like they deserve it.

When you forgive them, you not only release them but you release yourself. You let go of being angry and bitter all the time, to being peaceful and calm. Now only then, can you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Think about this. You sin all the time, and yet your sins now, as well as your past sins and your future sins have already been forgiven. Not because you deserve that forgiveness, but because God’s love for you is unconditional.

So, just as God’s love for us is unconditional, so should our love for others be, no matter what they have done to us.


I love you message for a simple healthy lifestyle


2 Corinthians 2 v 7 says that when others sin, we should forgive and comfort them, so they won’t give up in despair.

And we know exactly what this verse means.

Have you ever been in a situation where you can’t get someone to trust you, no matter what you do? Maybe you promised someone something, and they think you won’t deliver, and they keep telling you that.

Instead of working hard to prove them wrong, it’s almost always easier to just break that promise. Why? Simply because the person didn’t think you’d honor your promise anyway.

We tend to confirm the identities people give us instead of proving our own identities.

A thief will continue stealing if we expect that of them. An unfaithful spouse will continue to be unfaithful because we keep reminding them that they are.

But if we remind someone who’s made a mistake that they are better and bigger than their mistake.

If we tell them that we respect and trust them to always do the right thing.

That there’s nothing they can do to make us love them less.

Then they tend to take the faith we have in them as momentum to do better.


The final word

So let’s build our characters the right way; by forgiving ourselves and others. Only then can we have enough peace to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.


A forgiveness message for a simple healthy lifestyle


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