Live stress free with these 10 great tips

Do you want to live stress free? Then you are in the right place because I’m about to share with you easy tips you can start using right now to live stress free.

 

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I too used to want to live stress free. But at the time, I was riddled with so much stress that the notion to live stress free seemed far fetched.

There was so much going on in my life. I wanted so many things that I didn’t have. And the things that I did have didn’t seem to be helping much to achieve the ones I wanted.

I had too much going on in my head. I stressed about my present and my future too much I couldn’t concentrate on anything long enough to finish it.

This struggle remained even long after I made the decision to start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

But right now as I write this, I’m confident that I have let go of stress and now live stress free.

It was hard at first letting go of stress because I’d gotten so accustomed to it that it was a legitimate part of my life.

But I can tell you right now that my life is much better without stress and I look forward to every coming day and whatever it brings; pleasures and discomforts.

You can live stress free too, and here’s how:

 

  • Tip #1: Read the word of God

This is the best tip to live stress free. The word of God is soothing in a truthful way.

It lets you know that you are loved beyond explanation by our father, and also offers counsel. You can’t go wrong if you stick to it.

2 Timothy 3 v 16: Everything in the Scriptures is God’s word. All of it is useful for teaching and helping people and for correcting them and showing them how to live. (CEV)

You can trust the word of God to always tell you the truth. It doesn’t manipulate you by telling you only what you want to hear. So you can trust it to always be honest with you.

Now you can tailor your life to go in step with God’s counsel. If you do that, you are more than guaranteed to live stress free.

Read 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 7 easy steps to help you find rest in God.

 

  • Tip #2: Re-examine you values

Or examine them for the first time. It’s easy to assume that every one is aware of their values. But some people just live unaware of their values.

Consciously re-examine your values. Your values will always make it clear to you what you want in life.

Now that you are clear on your values, you can begin to pinpoint the things you should do away with.

Those things will highly likely be your stressors, so this tips is extremely important if you want to live stress free.

 

  • Tip # 3: Forgive yourself

You can’t begin to live stress free if you can’t forgive yourself. You are swimming in guilt or regrets and therefore you have too much stress on your hands.

Remember life is for everyone to enjoy. And it’s a journey, not a destination. Just because you took a detour to the wrong side doesn’t mean you can’t find your way back to the right path.

Work toward becoming a better person. Let your mistakes be life lessons. Everyone makes mistakes, remember that.

Let the mistakes of your past be your past, and those include the mistakes you made yesterday because now they are in the past.

 

  • Tip #4: Forgive others

Just as it’s important to forgive yourself, it’s equally important that you forgive others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Others are just as worthy of forgiveness as you are. Forgiving others frees you more than it frees them.

I’m sure you know what I mean. Have you ever been in the same room as a friend who wronged you a few months ago?

You are still pouting and sulking in the corner and they are laughing with everybody else and having a good time?

I know the feeling. And it just makes you look and feel stupid. Forgive others and free yourself to also enjoy yourself at all times.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness.

 

  • Tip #5: Accept your life just the way it is

Yes. This is also very important if you want to live stress free.

So what if your life is pretty bad right now? I know you are wondering about that.

Then accept it just the way it is. Accepting it doesn’t mean settling in it. It means consciously acknowledging it instead of running away from it in denial.

Whatever your life circumstances, accept them. If you’ve been in jail, or you are in jail, accept that.

If you’ve been an abusive spouse, then accept that.

Only when you accept your life circumstances can you begin to take steps to improve them. This will definitely help you to live stress free.

 

  • Tip #6: Think the best of every situation

I don’t care what it is. Divorce, disease, failing at school, getting fired from work, you name it.

These are bad situations, I know. But it’s the bad situations that always teach us the best lessons in life as long as we don’t play the victim but accept them.

So always see the best of whatever situation you find yourself in. I guarantee that this will help you live stress free.

 

  • Tip #7: Be present in everything you do

It’s easy to be preoccupied with other things while we are doing one thing, and this elevates stress.

If you are washing dishes, but now you are worried about paying the bills and the kids’ tuition, and the mortgage, then stress is bound to overwhelm you.

Instead, learn to be present in what you are doing. You can teach yourself to think of only washing the dishes.

You can compartmentalize everything so that you don’t let your stressors dominate all your time. This way you don’t let stress prevent you from being productive.

Read 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.

 

  • Tip #8: Leave the future where it’s supposed to be, in the future

Don’t stress about the unreal. Everything in the future is unreal; have you ever thought about that? That wedding you are planning for Christmas, it’s unreal. That house you are going to buy next summer, that’s unreal.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan for them. But you should remember that tomorrow is unknown and things might turn out differently than you thought, or they might not even happen at all.

So, in this midst of the unknown, why stress? No, focus on what you can do now and leave the future to God to handle.

 

  • Tip #9: Declutter your life

And do this in every way imaginable if you want to live stress free. People have a lot of stress because they have a lot of material, mental, emotional, financial, intellectual and social clutter. If only they could declutter their lives.

You don’t need all those other things outside of your basic needs. Stop hoarding stuff because managing it means stress. Simplify your life in the best possible way.

Soon I’ll dedicate an entire to post to decluttering your life, so please keep following my posts.

 

  • Tip #10: Be grateful

I’m surprised by people who roll their eyes at this tip. Don’t underestimate the significance of gratitude if you want to live stress free.

Most people can’t get out of stress because instead of being grateful for the good things in their lives, they are busy whining about the bad things in their lives.

Sometimes they whine even about the good things because they’ve become blind to how lucky they are.

If you are like that, it’s time to change. Gratitude is the best antidote for stress, so take a spoonful and live stress free.

 

The final word

The decision to live stress free is well within your reach; you just have to make it. If you are used to living with stress, then the thought that you can live stress free can seem inconceivable and unreal at first.

But it is your right as a child of God to live stress free and enjoy the life God has blessed you with.

Many people have died and many are dying right now, so you are blessed to still be alive. Don’t let one more moment of your life go wasted as you wallow in stress.

You can make a choice to be happy from this moment forth. All it takes is a decision to be happy. I recommend 17 simple things you must do to become happier.

Also check out how to be free from anger.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What do you think of it? Are you trying to live stress free? Then please share with us how you are going about doing that.

 

 

 

 

7 easy steps to help you find rest in God

In your everyday life, you must strive to find rest in God.

Otherwise you take the weight of the world on your shoulders and let me tell you, that’s a battle you are certainly going to lose.

 

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What does it mean to find rest in God?

It means resting in God while you do your daily work.

A lot of people misunderstand the phrase ‘to find rest in God’ to mean that they fold their hands, sit back and retire from work.

No, it doesn’t mean that. In fact, the scenario above defines laziness. And the bible sternly warns us against becoming lazy.

Instead, to find rest in God means not worrying about anything while you do what you have to do. You are relaxed as you go about your daily hassle, trusting God to take care of you.

It’s important to find rest in God because only then can he make a move in your life. God won’t compete with you. So while you are struggling to make everything happen on your own, he’ll sit back and watch you.

But as soon as you cast your care on him, let him know and show him that you trust him for your provision, then he’ll take care of you.

 

So how do you find rest in God?

  • Step #1: Read his word

By now you should know that God’s word is the ultimate truth. You can’t successfully maneuver through life outside of his word and his counsel.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

Immerse yourself in the word and let it carve itself into your heart. Live by it. Things might seem impossible but that’s according to your understanding, which is far from sufficient.

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust in the Lord with all you heart. Never rely on what you think you know. (GNB)

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. (MSG)

Proverbs 3 v 5: Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. (KJV)

Those are just three translations of the same verse. There are many more translations for your convenience so you can find rest in God.

If you have trouble understanding the bible, read my post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

  • Step #2: Pray

All along I’ve been making the mistake of lumping prayer and word study into one step.

But there are a lot of people who diligently and faithfully read the word, but then fail to pray, hence I’m putting prayer on its own category.

Prayer is effective because it’s your communication with God. Find rest in God by asking for his help.

Remember that prayer is a two way street. So remember to listen to what God is saying instead of you talking the entire time.

Read my post on 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

Also read this post on 5 ways to position yourself to hear from God.

 

  • Step #3: Be productive

This is a very important step.

Like I said earlier, to find rest in God doesn’t mean to be inactive or to cease working. It means to trust God while you are working.

Now, we must remember to be productive at all times. Productivity is not only important when you are doing your office job, or your studying. It’s also important and applicable in your leisure time.

So, do the best you can in the job that pays your bills, and do the best you can in your leisure time.  Do your day job, and in your leisure time, entertain yourself in the word, meditating on it until God’s promise of rest echoes in every fiber of your being.

Read my post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

Also read my post on this is what you didn’t know about meditation.

 

  • Step #4: Remove money as an issue

I know money is at the center of everything, and is the cause of stress for most people. But it’s very possible to live a simple healthy lifestyle with less than what you are spending right now.

Don’t be one of those people who work themselves to the bone just so they can afford unnecessary expenses.

Lead a minimalistic life that removes money as an issue and you’ll definitely find rest in God. Don’t be obsessed with money because that’s a burden that will separate you from God.

Hebrews 13 v 5: Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never leave you; I will never abandon you.” (GNB)

Read my post on here’s the truth you didn’t know about money so you can know the real place of money in your life.

 

Step #5: Be of service to others

Reaching out to others always works the trick of making you less self-absorbed.

Sometimes you think you are struggling, and then you take one look at someone else’s life and you realize there are people with bigger problems out there.

So, in your journey to find rest in God, focus less on yourself and more on others. Give whatever you think you don’t have enough of; your money, your time, your resources. This will make you feel richer and more fortunate.

Read my tips on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

Step #6: Find a support system

You will remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Your support system must be people who love God. They must have found rest in God or aiming to find rest in God.

Your support system can’t be that pessimistic friend who worries about every little thing.

But it can be your family, your work colleagues, your friends, or your local church.

 

Step #7: Be grateful

This is very important. When you are trying to find rest in God, it’s easy to become selfish and think all about yourself and what you are trying to achieve.

Realize at this very moment that you already have God’s blessings with you. You are alive and that’s more important than anything else. Be grateful for that and many more things that are going on in your life.

I have a post on are you aware of God’s blessings for you?

Take it a step further by being grateful for your challenges because they teach you a lot.

If you read the word of God, you’ll notice that he calls for us to be grateful.

Philippians 4 v 6: Don’t worry about anything, but in all your prayers ask God for what you need, always asking him with a thankful heart. (GNB)

So, instead of complaining in your prayers, offer thanksgiving to God who continues to give us more than we deserve. Gratitude is a virtue we all must work hard to possess.

 

The final word

We need to strive to find rest in God. It’s the only way we’ll survive this hyperactive, stressed world.

Let’s not be lazy but do all that the word says we must do to find rest in God. Then we’ll have the kind of peace we won’t even be able to explain to those around us, and we can help them achieve that peace too.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your own steps to find rest in God? Please share with us by commenting.

17 simple things you must do to become happier

If you are like every other person on the face of the earth, you want to become happier. Keep reading to learn what you must do in order to become happier.

 

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  • #1: Realize that happiness is a state of the mind

It’s all within you to become happy. It’s all in your mind. If you are currently unhappy, then you need to cultivate your mind for some happiness.

And the good news is, you can become as happy as you want just by exercising your mind the right way. So become happier by working your mind to give you as much happiness as you need.

 

  • #2: Stop looking for happiness around you

This follows from the point above. Happiness is not external, it’s internal. So, stop looking around you to become happier.

The people around you and the things around you are not responsible for making you become happier.

By letting go of the idea that the people around you must make you happy, you enable yourself to form and enjoy healthy relationships.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • #3: Make a choice to become happier

Becoming happier is a choice just like many other different choices you make in life.

If you are currently less happy than you should be, it’s because you’ve made that choice, whether or not you realize it.

So, consciously choose to become happier.

 

  • #4: Renew your choice to become happier every day

Just because you chose to become happier yesterday doesn’t mean you are set for happiness for the rest of your life.

Renew your decision to become happier every day.

 

  • #5: Be active in the word of God

You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

The word of God says you have a right to become happier than you are right now. It says happiness is one of the many blessings bestowed upon each and every one of us by our Father.

Don’t skimp out on reading the word. And don’t just read it, live it. This will definitely help you become happier.

Read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • #6: Realize that you have everything you need in order to become happier

Remember that it’s not about the external things. You, all on your own, have everything you need in order to become happier. That’s powerful.

So, use this power you have and don’t let it go to waste.

 

  • #7: Stop comparing yourself to others

Nothing good can come out of you comparing yourself to others because you’ll always come out feeling short.

Learn to run your own race. Be confident in who you are. Know yourself enough to not be swayed by how people around you are living their lives.

Read my post on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Also read 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

You’ll also definitely want to read 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • #8: Focus more on other people and less on yourself.

I can honestly say this has helped me become happier. I used to focus too much on myself and my needs. I thought I was happy until I started focusing on other people more.

Then I realized the true meaning of happiness.  You can too if you learn to focus more on other people than you do on yourself.

 

  • #9: Forgive and accept yourself just the way you are

You are God’s creation, so you are already perfect. Stop trying to fix whatever you think is wrong with you and start celebrating yourself.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Take them as opportunities to grow.

 

  • #10: Forgive and accept others just the way they are

Become happier by cutting other people some slack, just as you should do for yourself.

Accept others’ mistakes and forgive them. Forgiveness is a medicine for the heart.

 

  • #11: Give

It can be your money, time, labor, talent or any other resource. Giving is a sure way to help you become happier.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • #12: Take care of yourself

Just because now you are focusing more on other people than on yourself doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself.

Actually, you can’t successfully care about and love other people if you can’t do those things for yourself first.

You have to be fit in every way to take care of others. So take care of yourself if you want to become happier.

Eat right, exercise, focus on your personal development, spirituality and on nurturing and developing the traits that will enable you to become a part of healthy relationships.

 

  • #13: Be positive

Positivity will definitely help you become happier. Always try and see the best in every person and every situation. Worry less and rejoice more.

 

  • #14: Be grateful

Grateful people are way happier than those people who aren’t grateful. There’s plenty to be grateful for.

Stop whining about what you don’t have and start showing gratitude for what you have.

 

  • #15: Smile and laugh

Smiling and laughing work magic if you want to become happier. On those days when I don’t feel too good, just smiling and laughing literally brighten up my mood and my day.

Please learn to do the same. Your true beauty shows when you smile and laugh.

 

  • #16: Focus on doing the things you love

Don’t waste time on the things you don’t like if you want to become happier. Live your hobbies and your talents. Read this post on 10 important steps to nurture and develop your talent.

 

  • #17: Make the most of every day

People who do this become happier. Knowing you are not wasting your days contributes tremendously to your happiness. Read this post on 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

 

The final word

You can become happier right at this very moment if you make a decision to do so. Happiness is available to everyone, regardless of your life circumstances.

So, don’t use your divorce, childhood trauma, disability etc as an excuse to remain unhappy. And don’t grow weary in your journey to become happier because you will definitely get where you want to go.

Judge your growing progress along the way, remembering to focus on the long term rather than the short term. The pursuit of happiness is a lifelong journey after all.

Read this post on 12 signs you are making progress in your life.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Are you happy? Do you want to become happier? Tell us what you think you need to do in order to become happier.

 

You’ll also want to read:

How to be happy: 23 ways to be happier by psychologytoday.com

10 ways to be happier by realsimple.com

12 easy tips to make friends easily

If you are struggling to make friends easily, then you are reading the right post. I know many people don’t have as many friends as they’d like. But you can accomplish that immediately if you play your cards right. Read on to find out how. 

 

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You’ll remember that friendships are very important when it comes to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

So make friends easily with the following tips:

 

Tip #1: Get in the word of God

If you’ve been following my blog you know the word of God is my best answer to everything. The bible is an exact mirror of what the Lord created you to be.

If you read and internalize that you were created in the image of God, then you know you are not supposed to be less than he is. So you’ll know in order to follow in your Father’s footsteps you should form only healthy relationships.

Proverbs 12 v 26: The righteous person is a guide to his friend, but the path of the wicked leads them astray. (GNB)

Proverbs 17 v 17: Friends always show their love. (GNB)

Proverbs 27 v 17: You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. (MSG)

If you need help with your bible study, read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

Tip #2: Know what you want out of a friendship

You can’t make friends easily if you are not sure what you want out of a friendship.

This in no way implies that you should enter friendships on ulterior motives. Remember you are forming friendships so you and your friends can accompany each other on this journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

Tip #3: Don’t expect too much from people

You can’t make friends easily if you expect too much from people. Approach people with little, or even better, no expectations. I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it if someone approached you for friendship with expectations.

 

Tip #4: Be clear about what you like and dislike

This is very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to be clear about what you like and dislike. Don’t be scared to let the other person know. If you think they might reject you, then that’s a positive thing because it means you and them were never compatible to begin with.

In the end you’ll be left with only those people who share your likes and dislikes, and even if they don’t, at least they are willing to respect yours. But remember to respect theirs too.

You can’t begin to know what you like and dislike if you don’t know yourself. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

Tip#5: Make sure your friendship is based on love and trust

Though you should approach people with no expectations in order to make friends easily, you should ensure that the friendship you are forming is based on love and trust, because those two virtues will make your friendship healthy and you shouldn’t settle for anything less than that.

 

  • Tip #6: Don’t act desperate

It’s the desperate people who fail to make friends easily. Don’t force yourself onto other people because you might just scare them away, and you don’t want that.

If you know yourself and are able to enjoy your own company, then you should be confident enough to look for the right friends without worrying about the passage of time.

 

  • Tip #7: Don’t be clingy

It’s the clingy people who can’t make friends easily. You don’t give the other person space when you are friends, or worse still, while you are trying to pursue them for friendship.

Remember, you are responsible for your own happiness. Don’t hang onto the other person for that.

 

  • Tip #8: Be generous

Yes, you will make friends easily if you are willing to give to them and others. Everyone loves a generous friend. A healthy friendship should be about giving and not taking.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • Tip #9: Be positive about life

You can’t make friends easily if you are negative about life, walking around with a chip on your shoulder and making everyone around you feel bad.

Be positive about life. Be optimistic. Be hopeful. Live life with vigor and excitement. Then you’ll make friends easily because everyone will want to hang around you.

Encourage others to be positive too. Life is beautiful and that includes even the challenges we go through.

 

  • Tip#10: Try different things

Sometimes you struggle to make friends easily because you are too stuck in your routine. There’s nothing wrong with having a routine; I also have a routine that makes my life enjoyable.

But you should be flexible enough to try new things especially if you are trying to make friends. You might discover something you like and a friend to go with that.

Trying different things will let you discover some things you didn’t know about yourself. You might even uncover a hidden talent you can share with your friends. Read my post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #11: Go to the right places

This is also very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to go to the places you know potential friends are likely to be hanging out in.

But be wary of friends you make in places like strip clubs because they might not be genuine friends. Go to the park instead, or church, or the library, or the museum, the list is endless.

 

  • Tip #12: Let go of unhealthy friendships

Maybe you can’t make friends easily because all your time and energy is spent on those unhealthy friendships you are still hanging onto.

Unhealthy friendships make you love yourself less than you should. They rob you of your self esteem and position you to make more bad friends in future.

If you know the friendship has no hope of being redeemed, then let go of it so you can focus on forming healthy friendships. This way you’ll regain your love for yourself and your self esteem.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

 

The final word

You no longer have to struggle to make friends easily. Follow the above tips and be well on your way to making friends who’ll join hands with you as you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Always remember to not lose who you are. Be firm about upholding your own values. You’ll appreciate that, and your friends will too.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I hope it was helpful. Please let us know your own tips to make friends easily.

 

You’ll also want to read:

 

10 tips to make new friends by personalexcellence.co

How to make new friends (and keep the old) as a young adult by the greatist.com

6 easy to use tips to avoid gossip

If you are looking for easy to use tips to avoid gossip then you are in the right place. I used to struggle with gossiping and didn’t have any idea how to avoid it.

But then I made a lot of progress in that area and I’m about to let you know how I did that so you can also make progress to avoid gossip.

 

A message to avoid gossip

 

Gossip is never good, and it’s always best to avoid it at all costs. Avoid gossip so you can keep your relationships intact because they are an important requirement to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Gossip turns loved ones against each other and leads to a broken world. It also hinders you from being the best you can be and sharing that with other people.

There’s so much we can do if we can learn to avoid gossip. Think of all the time and energy you’d save, and all the relationships you’d enjoy.

So here are 6 easy to use tips to avoid gossip.

 

  • Tip #1: Stop gossiping

There’s no use in saying you want to avoid gossip if you are gossiping yourself. The first thing you need to do is stop gossiping so you can begin to dissociate yourself from it completely.

 

  • Tip #2: Avoid people who make you gossip

You know who those people are because you’ve been gossiping with them. But remember that you should try to get your friends to also avoid gossip instead of cutting them off altogether.

Give them a chance to realize their mistake and repent. If they insist on gossiping and you know you tried with them, then it’s time to move away from them and form healthy relationships.

 

  • Tip #3: Be productive with your time

This will definitely help you avoid gossip. Read my post on 8 simple but effective strategies to be productive.

Sometimes we gossip because we have nothing to do with our time. Our days are just so empty that we are looking for empty but harmful talk to fill them up.

Keep busy instead. Find something to do so you don’t have time to gossip. There are many things you can do. Try new things. Engage your talents. Read this post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

Don’t worry that you won’t find something to do. There really are plenty of things. You can do this.

 

  • Tip #4: Get in the word of God

I know, this is my answer to everything. But it really works and this is perhaps your best tip. Get in the word of God. The word has a lot to say about gossip and it will teach you to move away from it.

Proverbs 20 v 19: Gossips can’t keep secrets, so never confide in blabbermouths (MSG).

Proverbs 16 v 28: Troublemakers start fights; gossip breaks up friendships (MSG).

We should be eager to follow the word of God because it’s the perfect manual for our lives.

Read my post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible. You’ll also want to read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Tip#5: Watch less TV

TV is full of gossip. Celebrity gossip is the perfect foundation for a life of gossip. There’s always plenty to talk about when it comes to celebrities.

Read my post: Watch less TV with these easy tactics. Watching less TV will help you avoid gossip and help free up some time for you to be productive.

 

  • Tip#6: Spend less time on social media

There’s a lot of gossip going around in social media. All that time spent on Facebook talking to friends you might have never even met is bound to get you talking about someone or something you shouldn’t be talking about.

Some people use social media as a means to cure boredom. Learn to nurture your relationships with others and learn to enjoy your own company. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

Also read this post on the real impact of social media in your life.

 

The final word

It can be hard to break a habit. So you’ll definitely face temptations while you are trying to avoid gossip. Keep strong and no matter how many times you fall, get back up and keep moving forward.

 

Thank you for reading this post. How do you avoid gossip? Please tell us your own tips by commenting.

 

 

 

7 surprising benefits of tithing you didn’t know about

If you are like me, you’re probably wondering about the benefits of tithing. I have to say, I only just started tithing, and it has already changed my life in a way I’m about to share with you.

 

A picture of money for benefits of tithing

 

Maybe you feel protective over your money. There’s nothing wrong with that. We work so hard for our money that we should be careful of how we spend every piece of it.

Do you feel like tithing is one of those things that just eat away at your hard earned money? I used to believe that, and for years I didn’t tithe because I believed I was giving away my money to money-grabbing preachers.

I couldn’t stand that thought. And Christianity has become so extravagant that this didn’t help matters. All these preachers who are living the high life and yet doing so little to help those around them.

All the new christian churches coming up everyday with fancy names. I always thought, why do we have to break from one church to form another if we are really after one God?

All those things just clouded my mind and my attitude toward tithing. But I’ve come to learn the following benefits of tithing that will make you want to start tithing.

 

  • Benefit #1: Tithing shows that you trust God more than you trust your money

This is one of the benefits of tithing that you probably already know, but it’s worth repeating. Tithing lets God know that you trust him and don’t trust on your money to take care of you.

It shows you realize and appreciate that he’s the one giving you the strength to do the work you do, and therefore you are so thankful that you want to give back some of your harvest to him.

But we don’t directly give our money to God. Meaning God doesn’t reach out his hand and accept the money from me. The money goes into the hands of the preacher and that’s what used to bother me. Which brings me to the second benefit.

But before I go there, I hope you start recognizing the demonstration of your trust in God as one of the benefits of tithing.

 

  • Benefit #2: Tithing shows that you trust God more than you trust your preacher

Not to sound negative about preachers. But we all know that false ones continue to emerge in staggering numbers.

If you are worried that by tithing you’ll just be feeding a greedy preacher, then you are in good company.

Like I said, I worried about that too. But remember that your primary reason for tithing is to demonstrate to God your trust in him. Now, it doesn’t matter who accepts the money from you.

If the preacher takes your money to feed his flamboyant lifestyle, then take comfort in knowing that that’s between him and God.

Just because the preacher used your money for selfish reasons doesn’t cancel your tithing. You know why you are tithing and you remain in right standing with God.

So next time you find yourself worrying about whether or not your tithe is going to fall into the right hands, know you are tithing to God. That definitely counts as one of the benefits of tithing.

 

  • Benefit #3: Tithing makes you content with what you have

And really, contentment with your life is the key to a fulfilled life and one of the great benefits of tithing. When you are content you don’t have to worry about having that sixth car or that bigger house.

Read my post on how to stop comparing yourself to others,  and 6 useful tips to know yourself better. You’ll also be interested in: Do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

Instead of worrying, you thank God for what you have. By tithing, you are saying that you are so content with what you have that you are willing to give to God.

Just think about it. If you feel like you want more money, then you can never tithe because then tithing becomes counterproductive.

But if you celebrate what God has already given you, you tithe cheerfully and gratefully.

 

  • Benefit #4: Tithing improves your finances

Like I said above, you might think tithing is counterproductive because you are taking money out of your pocket when the money should be coming in.

But tithing helps you improve your finances in that you learn to live within your means. That ties into the contentment we spoke about above.

If you are content with what you have, then it follows that you’ll not feel the need to have more money to buy things you think you need.

People who tithe are always better at budgeting and managing their finances than people who don’t tithe. So, this is another one of the great benefits of tithing to think about.

 

  • Benefit #5: Tithing makes you feel rich

This is similar to benefit #4. But by making you feel rich, I mean literally feeling like you have more than you actually have.

You can try this immediately. Next time you feel lack, maybe in your finances, reach into your wallet, pull out some money, even if it’s just a little bit, and help someone else.

This will immediately put you over your current financial status by making you see and believe you have more than the other person. That will definitely make you feel rich.

With so many people feeling in lack today, I count this as one of the great benefits of tithing.

 

  • Benefit #6: Tithing  makes you joyful

This benefit is similar to the one about contentment. But it goes beyond contentment into joy. The joy comes from knowing you trust God wholeheartedly and that you released your harvest to benefit someone else.

Now that I’ve started tithing, my joy comes from knowing that with the little that I contribute, I’m helping to build a church that will accommodate more people than it does now, a church that will contribute to the salvation of many. Being joyful is definitely one of the great benefits of tithing.

 

  • Benefit #7: Tithing opens up many spiritual doors for you

You’ll remember that spirituality is one of the key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires spirituality.

Tithing elevates your spirit in an amazing way and this is one of the great benefits of tithing. You feel a connection to God and humanity on a level higher than that experienced by people who don’t tithe.

While tithing should definitely not be misunderstood as something to do to buy God’s love and favor, tithing allows you to enjoy many blessings not enjoyed by people who don’t tithe.

Putting your trust in God elevates you to enjoy your intimate relationship with him at a higher level.

Read my post on 6 easy steps to stay connected to your spirituality.

 

The final word

The benefits of tithing are not to be taken lightly. If you tithe faithfully and willingly, you’ll reap the benefits above and many more.

Trust God enough to know that he’s taking care of you. Remember that he gives you the strength to work hard for the money you have and it’s not by your own effort.

Most importantly, never feel forced to tithe. Tithing should be done willingly and cheerfully.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your feelings and thoughts on the post? What do you think are the benefits of tithing? Please let us know by commenting.

8 important tips to be more generous

The world would be a better place if we’d all learn to be more generous. I believe that generosity is a human trait everyone is born with, but our own selfish desires sometimes dampen it until it’s so dormant that we can’t even believe we have it.

 

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I know for one that I’d love to be more generous. In fact this is one of my life goals. Now, being generous wasn’t something I thought of until recently. Since accepting God into my life and having his word tell me to love others, I’ve been burning with the desire to be more generous.

Generosity might actually seem counterproductive to your own growth if you look at it in the shallow way. I mean, you are trying to get more stuff and yet you must give some of it away.

And remember that generosity is not about giving away only material things. There are other resources to give like your talents, time, labor etc.

Our relationships with others are more strengthened if we learn to be more generous. And we know that in order to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle we must form and nurture healthy relationships. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

Now, I present to you tips to be more generous.

 

  • Tip #1: Get in the word of God

If you follow my blog, you already know by now that getting in the word of God is my first step and tip toward everything in life.

The word of God is a true manual for our lives and if we follow it, we can never go wrong. The word of God encourages us in more places than one to give to those in need.

2 Corinthians 8 v 12: It doesn’t matter how much you have. What matters is how much you are willing to give from what you have (CEV).

If that’s the case, then everyone of us must give because whatever our situation, there’s always someone more in need than we are.

 

  • Tip #2: Be content with what you have

You can’t be more generous if you are always complaining about what you don’t have. You want more clothes, more cars, more money. You believe you can never have enough.

If that’s your mentality then you can’t possibly be more generous because all you are concerned with is hording more things.

Instead, be happy with what God has given you. He promises to always be with us, so whatever you have, he’s given you. Be happy with it.

 

  • Tip #3: Stop copying and envying others

If you want to be more generous, you are going to have to stop copying those around you. This tip is a great complement to tip #2: Be content with what you have.

Copying others is so detrimental it will lead you spiraling into an unfulfilled life. Whatever your friends, your neighbors, your relatives have, that’s none of your business. Run your own race. Do you have the guts to live life on your own terms? is a post you’ll need to really live this tip.

 

  • Tip #4: Get involved in the lives of others

Sometimes we want to be more generous, but we can’t be if we live in our own little bubbles because then we are not aware of how other people live and the lacks they have.

Get involved in the lives of others. Definitely not in an intrusive kind of way but in a way that lets them know you care about them. This way, you’ll be able to identify who needs what and you are at a much better position to help and be more generous toward others.

 

  • Tip #5: Be grateful

This sounds similar to tip #2: be content with what you have. But being content is one thing, actually showing gratitude for that contentment is quite another.

If you are content but that contentment is hidden inside of you, you can’t fully be more generous. There’s something about giving thanks for what you have, audibly giving thanks, that just opens up your spirit to be more generous.

So don’t be shy, or take gratitude for granted. Show it.

 

  • Tip #6: Partner with others

You don’t have to be more generous alone. Encourage others to also be more generous. Sometimes it’s not that people don’t want to be more generous, it’s just that they don’t know where to start.

So without being boastful, let others know what you are doing and partner with them so you can all be more generous.

 

  • Tip#7: Be modest in your generosity

By modest I mean don’t tweet your own horn and let everyone know last night you fed so and so’s family. It’s in fact better to not be generous at all than to brag about what you do for others.

If you want to be more generous, do it to help others, not for your own glory.

 

  • Tip #8: Start small

If you worry that you have to do big deeds in order to be more generous then you are wrong. It’s actually the little things that might count most with those you help.

Start small, and that can be buying school stationery for a poor kid, or helping them with homework. Sounds simple enough, right? Maybe you have the talent to tutor kids, so use that talent to benefit those kids. Read these 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

The final word

We can all be more generous if we step up and realize that we already have so much. Stop complaining about what you want, and start being thankful for what you have. As long as your needs are already met, then you have more than enough to live on and to be more generous with.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts with us by commenting. Let us know your own tips of how we can all be more generous.

 

You’ll also want to read:

10 little ways to become more generous by becomingminimalist.com

8 simple and easy ways to become more generous by lifehack.org

How to be free from anger

Being free from anger is liberating beyond explanation. See, anger is a negative emotion that takes more than it gives, unless you are talking about giving you disease. Being free from anger is something we must all strive to achieve. Continue reading so you can learn how to be free from anger.

 

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A lot of people struggle with anger management. There used to be a time in my life when I did too. It didn’t take a lot to anger me, and when I did get angry, it was excessive.

Let me tell you. I once blew up at my boss at work. I stood up in a meeting of more than one hundred people and called out the boss that everyone, including myself, was scared of.

That might have been brave because I was standing up for my rights. But it was the wrong way to go about doing that. Since then, I’ve consciously stepped away from that kind of anger, and anger altogether.

A life free from anger is a life of freedom in every way imaginable. You free up your spirit to focus on the positive and in the process, you free up your body to enjoy that positivity.

 

Here’s how you can be free from anger:

  • Get into God’s word

I know. It seems like this is my first answer to every question. Well, the truth is, it is. The word of God is literally a manual for your life. It has the answer to every question you have right now.

The word of God tells us to not go to bed angry, and it tells us to love each other. It tells us to patiently put up with each other.

There’s no anger evident in any of the scenarios above. And in the first scenario, the word of God comes right out and condemns anger.

So, be free from anger by getting into God’s word and meditating on it. Pray to God for guidance. Read my 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Avoid anything that triggers your anger

Avoid people who make you angry. If it means changing the people you hang around with, then so be it.

If it’s someone at work or school who you can’t avoid, then converse with them only in matters concerning work or school so you limit the chances of them saying something that makes you angry. This will definitely help you be free from anger.

 

  • Practice forgiveness

I’ve already mentioned patiently putting up with each other. Now, go further by forgiving others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Everyone makes mistakes, including you. And everyone deserves forgiveness for their mistakes, including you. Forgive others just as you’d like them to forgive you and by doing this you will be free from anger.

If you hold grudges, you open yourself up to a lot of heartache, which births diseases. Plus, holding grudges robs you of healthy relationships and we know that healthy relationships are one of the key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read my post: a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • Address your personal issues and make peace with your life

Sometimes all you need to be free from anger is to address the issues in your life. And these are issues no one else but you might know of. Maybe you are struggling with addictions.

It’s common that when you are frustrated with your private things, you tend to take them out on others in the form of anger.

Instead of lashing out, address your addictions. Lean on the word of God, and seek counseling. You shouldn’t be alone in your time of need and there are a lot of people who are ready to help you so you can be free from anger.

 

  • Live a simple life

This is extremely important. I know the world today encourages cut-throat competition and a high lifestyle few can afford.

Don’t let people dictate how you should live. Read this post on having the guts to live life on your own terms.

Be clear about what you want. Know yourself enough to know the kind of life you want to lead and be firm about it. I have these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

A simple life is the best life. Simple means affordable, and you can never go wrong with affordable.

Living a life you can’t afford burdens you, and this breeds anger. So be free from anger by living simply, quietly, minding your own business.

 

The final word

Do everything you can in order to be free from anger. Freedom from anger will liberate you and attract good things into your life.

You’ll have the best that life has to offer, and though challenges will arise, your new attitude will ensure you deal with challenges with amazing positivity that will enable you to always emerge triumphant at the other end of your problems.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I know a lot of people struggle to be free from anger. Are you struggling too? Let us know. If you’ve struggled to be free from anger before but you managed to conquer your anger, please share with us how you did that.

 

You’ll also be interested in:

10 biblical truths to overcome sinful anger by biblestudytools.com

3 ways to break free from anger by huffingtonpost.com

Keys to powerful living: overcoming anger by cbn.com

6 useful tips to know yourself better

In your pursuit to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, it’s important to know yourself better. You have to know yourself like the back of your own hand, as the saying goes.

 

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You might dismiss this and say, ‘duh! who doesn’t know themselves?’ Well, the truth is, a lot of people don’t know themselves. Have you ever gone to a job interview and the first question they asked you was, ‘tell us about yourself?’

I know for one that question always sends me into a panic, even though I knew beforehand they were going to ask me that. Let me tell you, I used to be able to prepare for every potential interview question but that one.

For weeks I’d ponder this impending question and for weeks, I’d fail to come up with an answer that perfectly described me.

I’m sure I’m not alone in this. Many of us would like to think we know ourselves. The truth is, we don’t. It could be out of self-preservation; knowing we might not like what we find out. Or it could be out of ignorance in thinking that a person automatically knows themselves.

Like I said earlier, if you are really serious about enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, you are going to have to set out on purpose to know yourself better.

Here are useful tips to know yourself better.

 

  • Tip #1: Read the word of God

This is the first thing you need to do because the word has the best answers for this question. The word of God clearly defines you in many places that you are a child of God. 

It says our father loves you and you are his original, his most treasured creation. The word of God says you are worthy of God’s ultimate sacrifice: his son Jesus Christ. It says you have all the promises he’s made. It says he has put everything under your power and has not left anything out.

If this doesn’t help you know yourself better, then I’m afraid you are off to a bad start. People and books might lie to you, but the bible is the truest piece of writing in existence. Take God’s word and trust it.

If you are struggling to understand your bible, then read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

In your quest to know yourself better, remember the significance of prayer. Get your prayer life in order with these 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

Remember this is a lifelong journey and you are going to have to do this for as long as you live; immersing yourself in the word to keep reminding yourself of who you are. Use these 6 easy steps to stay connected to your spirituality.

 

  • Tip #2: Spend time alone

I know a lot of people are scared of spending time alone. The thought of being in their own company scares them. That’s where boredom comes from. Boredom stems from your inability to find pleasure in yourself and your reliance on other people or items to provide you with pleasure.

If you know yourself better, you can’t know boredom. Before I knew myself, I’d get bored. I couldn’t stand the thought of spending time with myself. That was just too much.

But I learned to spend time with myself. Alone. And now I’m my own best companion. I’ve forgotten what boredom and loneliness feel like. Please spend time alone and you will learn to love it.

 

  • Tip #3: Don’t be too dependent on those around you

This follows from Tip #2. Don’t be too reliant on the people around you because then you won’t give yourself the time and space needed to know yourself better.

If you are always looking to another person to be with you, then there’s a problem. Always needing someone next to you makes you needy, and that’s not a desirable trait to have.

Let go of those around you and know yourself better in the process. This also relieves them to carry on with their lives and know themselves better too. It also helps you cultivate and nurture your own self-esteem. Check out my 9 effective tips to improve your self-esteem.

Instead of being clingy, cultivate healthy relationships that give you and the other person time to breathe and discover life on your own. Remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • Tip #4: Try different things

Most of the time you don’t know yourself better because you never try anything different. You are always doing the same things and therefore don’t even know you have interests outside of those you already know of.

This can happen if you have a strict routine that you follow. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with having a routine. But sometimes we get so stuck in our routines that we forget to live outside of what we know.

I know this because I’ve experienced it first hand. I’m one of those people who love a clean, strict routine. And then occasionally when I’m forced to try something new, most of the time out of lack of choice, I end up enjoying it and learning to incorporate it into my routine.

Don’t be so rigid in your life that you do the same things everyday without allowing room for new things. Chances are, those new things are the key that help you know yourself better.

Remember, there’s never harm in trying new things, as long as what you do is safe and doesn’t encroach on anyone else’s rights. Who knows? You might even discover your talent somewhere. Read these 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #5: Set yourself new goals and work hard to achieve them

You might be wondering why I’m saying this is one of the tips you can use to know yourself better.

What I’ve realized is that we become too complacent in our lives. Doing what we do everyday, setting out to achieve the same goals we set every time, doesn’t make us grow as much as we’d like.

But if you set yourself new goals, you present new challenges to yourself. Working hard to achieve those new goals will let you assess your threshold for a lot of things like passion and patience as far as those goals are concerned.

Maybe you’ve been considering yourself to be a patient person. But now you take on a new goal that tries your patience. And now you realize for the first time in your life that your patience still needs a lot of work.

Setting yourself new goals and working hard to achieve them will definitely help you know yourself better.

 

  • Tip #6: Be honest about what you like and dislike

If you feel forced to say you like something just because you are scared of rejection, then you are destroying whatever chance you have to know yourself better.

Be bold enough to honestly assess your liking of different things. If you like something, that’s OK. If you don’t like it, that’s OK too .

Being clear about what you like and dislike will ensure you maximize your life by focusing on your likes instead of spending time trying to convince yourself and others that you prefer your dislikes.

 

The final word

It’s not hard to know yourself better. And it’s crucial that you do in order to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle. Maybe you’ve been so out of touch with yourself that you’ve completely lost a sense of who you are.

Don’t lose heart. Employ the useful tips above to know yourself better. Don’t rush, remember that you have to exercise patience. With patience and gentility toward yourself, you’ll get where you want to be.

 

Thank you for reading this post. Do you know yourself better? How did you manage that? Or maybe you are trying to do that? Tell us how.

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 easy steps to stay connected to your spirituality

Remember that you have to stay connected to your spirituality if you want to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle. But if you find yourself feeling disconnected at times, you are not alone. At the moment, that’s how I feel. I’m a pretty spiritual person but lately I’ve been feeling the connection weakening.

 

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So what brought this on?

I make it a point to spend time with God every day, an hour a day, at least. That’s not too much time. In fact, just this morning I decided to increase the time to at least 2 hours, preferably 3.

That might sound like a lot of time. And it used to feel that way to me. There was a time when reading the bible and spending time with God was something I did to pass time. And whenever I did that, I found myself feeling guilty because I thought I was losing valuable time I could be using for something productive.

That’s it. I didn’t think highly of my relationship with God and thought it was time-wasting. But lately I’ve been determined to seek God more. The bible urges us to avoid spiritual flabbiness and to exercise our spiritual muscle a lot harder and more often.

So how do you stay connected to your spirituality if you feel yourself slipping?

 

  • Step #1: Identify the source of your disconnection

This is the most critical step. You have to know what caused you to lose touch with your spirituality. Maybe you are dealing with family issues? Maybe you recently faced disappointment that made you lose your trust in God?

Whatever the case, you need to identify the source of your disconnection if you truly want to stay connected to your spirituality.

 

  • Step #2: Take your concerns to God

Now that you’ve identified the source of the disconnection, confide in God. Tell him everything you feel in the most honest and humble way. Ask for his guidance in getting rid of this problem.

Talking to God about such matters cements your trust and reliance on him. And it will also definitely help you stay connected to your spirituality.  So get on with that prayer. Read these 10 easy steps to improve your prayer life. Also read these 5 ways to position yourself to hear from God. This way you are ready for when God gives you the answers you are looking for.

 

  • Step #3: Don’t just read the word but set a time to read it

If you want to stay connected to your spirituality, now you have to get in the word.

But before picking up your bible, put that in your schedule. I used to pick up the bible randomly. I’d just open it whenever I felt like it. There’s nothing wrong with that. But you have to count reading the word just as important as the rest of the items in your to-do list, if not more.

This way you don’t feel like reading the bible is eating into your valuable time. And you approach your spirituality with purposefulness and seriousness.

So, fit this item somewhere in your list if you want to stay connected to your spirituality. Treat the bible as your manual for life because it truly is. Read my post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

  • Step #4: Focus on others

Sometimes all you need to do to stay connected to your spirituality is to focus on others more than you focus on yourself. You know how self-obsessed the world is now. We are always concerned about ‘me,’ rather than ‘you.’ You will definitely struggle to stay connected to your spirituality if you are self-obsessed.

I used to be self-obsessed too. I catch myself being this way sometimes. But now I’m focusing more on others. When I pray, I always ask God to help me love others and be concerned about them more that I am about myself. I spend a huge chunk of my prayers praying for others and asking God to bless them.

It can be difficult when you start putting others before yourself. But when you do, your spirituality shifts in a positive way. So please remember this step if you want to stay connected to your spirituality.

 

  • Step #5: Perform an act of kindness

This follows perfectly from Step #4. As you focus on others, perform acts of kindness toward them. The other time I felt like I was in lack. But then I bought a piece of winter clothing for an orphaned child in my neighborhood. Instantly, my spirits lifted, and I felt abundant, fortunate and grateful.

That elevated my spirituality in a way I can’t even begin to describe. Stay connected to your spirituality by performing acts of kindness. You might think you don’t have the resources to do that.

But remember, your resources don’t mean money alone. Your resources could be your time, your talents and your attention. This will definitely help you stay connected to your spirituality.

 

  • Step #6: Stay away from the world’s philosophies at all costs

You can’t stay connected to your spirituality if you follow the world instead of God’s word. That’s because the world’s philosophies are a contradiction to the word of God.

The world says you can’t eat that but the word says you can eat whatever you want if you give thanks for it.

The world says you should get caught up into the cutthroat competition of getting more money but the word says you should be content with what you have.

The world says you should love yourself and put your needs first but the word says you should love others as much as you love yourself and put their needs before your own.

But the world can’t give you eternal life, only the word can. If you want to stay connected to your spirituality, you are going to have to choose what the word says over what the world says.

 

The final word

The only way to stay connected to your spirituality is to live the word of God. The word is the perfect manual for your life. Be honest with yourself and you’ll realize that the times when you feel disconnected from your spirituality are the times you deviate from the word. So then, the best way to stay connected to your spirituality is to live the word. Take care of your spirituality because in its absence, you can’t enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

Thank you for reading this post. What are your thoughts on it? Do you sometimes struggle to stay connected to your spirituality? What do you do then? Please share your story by commenting.