10 reasons NOT to become the other woman

If you are a single lady, refuse at all costs to become the other woman. You should know by now that married men are off limits, and yet many of us still find ourselves caught in nasty affairs that only leave us hurt and broken.


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You’ll remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

But being the other woman is anything but healthy. It’s never a good idea. The man has a wife for goodness’ sake.

He’s unavailable, no matter how much time you spend with him or how much he tells you he loves you.

I’m not judging you here. I’ve been misled into having affairs with married men before. Yes. Not a married man but married men. That’s a mistake I’ll never repeat.

It’s easy to continue an affair because a married man will promise you things in such a way that you believe every word he says.

Not necessarily because you are a gullible person. Well, they bring out the gullibility in even the strongest of women.

But it’s mostly because you’ve made yourself vulnerable to him and by agreeing to the affair in the first place, you displayed your desperation and now he’s playing on it.

Now here are the 10 reasons not to become the other woman:


  • Reason #1: He’s not trustworthy

He’s cheating on his wife with you. Why on earth would you want to give yourself to a man like that?

If you are hoping he’ll leave his wife for you, and he does, you’ll have lost because he can never stay faithful to you.

So, refuse to settle for becoming the other woman. Find a single man who’ll love you and make you his wife.


  • Reason #2: He doesn’t love you

I don’t care what he’s been telling you all along. A married man loves his wife. You are just a pastime for him.

I know what you are thinking. That you think he’s genuine about his love for you. Believe me, he’s not. He’s just taking advantage of you.

Prepare to free yourself by reading how to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships.

It’s always the other woman who gets the short end of the stick when it comes to love. Refuse that.


  • Reason #3: He’ll never leave his wife for you

It’s all a lie when he keeps telling you he’s going to leave his wife for you as soon as this or that happens. As soon as the kids are grown, as soon as the mortgage is paid off, etc.

A married man will not leave his wife for you. Leave him and open yourself to being genuinely loved by a man who’s available, who treats you as his first lady and not the other woman.


  • Reason #4: If he does leave his wife for you, you’ll never be happy

Would you be happy with a man who was unfaithful to his ex-wife? Every time he leaves the house, you’ll be wondering where he’s going. Is that how you want to live?

You can’t build a life with a man who married you out of his unfaithfulness. You as the other woman knows what he got up to when he wasn’t home, so how can you have peace of mind now as his wife?

There might not be anything sinister about his whereabouts when you are married. Maybe he’s genuinely working late. But would you believe that?

Why would you settle for that kind of stress in your life? I recommend live stress free with these 10 great tips.

People who enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle are supposed to be happy. Know that and claim your happiness by reading 17 simple things you must do to become happier.


  • Reason #5: He makes you love yourself less

And that’s a big no no. Being the other woman will bring your self-esteem and self-love crushing down.

How can it not when you got the man out of evil intentions? And when you know you are his second, third, fourth…choice.

If you are serious about enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you know you have to love yourself enough to be able to extend that love to others. Being the other woman will make that impossible.

I recommend 9 effective tips to improve your self-esteem.


  • Reason #6: You’ll never truly be accepted into his circle of family and friends

No matter how friendly they act toward you, you’ll always be the other woman. You are just the other woman who drove their woman of choice away. That’s not the way you want to be looked at.


  • Reason #7: He’ll never trust or respect you

You’ll always be the other woman for him. So he knows you have a knack for ensnaring men who are taken. That makes him lose trust and respect for you.


  • Reason #8: He’ll always be ashamed of you

I don’t care if you finally manage to get his ring around your finger; the man will always look at you as the other woman and he’ll always be ashamed of you.

Wonder why he kept quiet about family day at work? Because even as his wife, you are still the other woman and he doesn’t want to be seen with you in public.


  • Reason #9: You’ll always be a victim of his ex wife

Not just because you broke up their marriage. But you’ll never be rid of his ex-wife, especially if they have kids.

That’s one of the most annoying things about being the other woman. You can never be rid of the ex-wife and their kids.


  • Reason #10: You’ll miss out on the love God intended for you

This is the biggest con about being the other woman. You don’t get to meet that one special man God made for you because you were busy with another woman’s husband.

Ask yourself now. Would you want to spend a miserable life with a man who was created for another woman, or would you rather enjoy a long happy life with a man who was created specially for you?

Begin to see yourself the way God sees you. As his precious child. Claim the blessings he intended for you by checking out are you aware of God’s blessings for your life?


The final word

Maybe you think there’s something romantic or decent about being the other woman because you are watching other women do the same thing. Remember that you can never get the full picture if you are on the outside looking in.

You can’t build your happiness with a man who belongs to another woman. Refuse to stoop that low. Love and value yourself enough to want only the best in love.

God has someone special for you out there. Leave married men alone. In the meantime remain single so you can find yourself and get yourself ready for when you meet that special man.

Read these 8 reasons to celebrate being single. You’ll also want to read 6 useful tips to know yourself better.


Thank you for reading this post. Have you ever been the other woman? Or maybe you are currently the other woman? Please share with us your experiences by commenting.

How to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships

You can make a decision to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships right now.

Remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

But if you realize that a relationship is anything but healthy, and you feel like you are being violated, then it’s time to take a step.

So how exactly do you do that?


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  • Have the right intentions for getting involved with other people

Your own selfish intentions about starting relationships can be the ones making it difficult for you to avoid being taken advantage of.

If you are in a relationship for money, for example, then it’s easy to succumb to abuse, as long as you get the money you are looking for.

To avoid being taken advantage of, go into your relationships based only on love  and all the other right intentions of trust, genuine companionship, honesty, etc.


  • Know yourself

Sometimes you can’t avoid being taken advantage of because you don’t know yourself.

You are swayed by whatever happens in the relationship, whatever the other person asks of you, however unfair.

So, know yourself and be acquainted with your own values. Only when you are clear about your values will you not allow them to be compromised.

I recommend 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

The best way to know yourself is to read the word of God. It’s the perfect mirror of who God created you to be.

2 Timothy 1 v 7: God’s spirit doesn’t make cowards out of us. The spirit gives us power, love and self-control. (CEV)

Romans 8 v 37: … in all things we have complete victory through him who loved us! (GNB)

Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power…(CEV)

There are many more verses that talk of who you are in God’s eyes. So pick up the word of God and immerse yourself in it.

Meditate on it until it is completely carved into your heart. Live by it. If you have trouble understanding the bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.


  • Be clear about what you want

If you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then be firm about what you want. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no.

What does that mean? It simply means, don’t be ambiguous about anything. If the other person asks something of you and you don’t want to do it, then be firm in saying no.

And make sure to be vocal about what you want so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Don’t assume that will be clear to the other person. No. Clearly communicate it.


  • Get out of unhealthy relationships

You already know that a healthy relationship is based on love, trust, honesty, mutual respect, etc.

Any relationship that falls short of these qualities is not worth being in. So, if you are sure that there’s no hope of the relationship being redeemed, then it’s time to let go of it so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

It’s in unhealthy relationships that people are mostly taken advantage of. So, make sure all your relationships are healthy.


  • Be assertive in accepting correction and advice

Just because now you are clear about what you want doesn’t mean you should be stubborn.

Remember that a healthy relationship is not all about taking; you should be prepared to give as well.

So, don’t be stubborn. Sometimes your obstinacy is the only thing you need to get rid of so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

Be wise and accept correction. Don’t assume you are right every time.

But being timid and gullible is not going to help you either. Be careful about the kind of advice you get because some of it may work against you and not for you.

Learn to be assertive instead. This way, you’ll be wise enough to accept correction without being manipulated. This will definitely help you to avoid being taken advantage of.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.


  • Don’t draw rash conclusions about the other person

Being judgmental is definitely a stumbling block when you are trying to avoid being taken advantage of.

Don’t assume the worst of the other person, or you’ll just perpetuate that assumption and actually draw out the worst in that person.

Always give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Actually, do better by thinking the best of them.

Did you know that thinking the best of a bad person can actually draw out the good in them? People act decent when we make it clear it to them that we think they are decent.


  • Ask questions

Sometimes all you need to do to avoid being taken advantage of is ask questions.

When the other person does something that you feel puts you at a disadvantage, then simply ask them questions without being accusatory.

You might discover the root cause of why they do the things they do. Then you can both work toward improving things so you can avoid being taken advantage of again.

If you are wondering how to go about asking questions then I suggest you read my post on 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.


  • Forgive

Yes, if you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then playing tit for tat isn’t going to help you.

If you feel that you’ve been wronged, then doing the same thing to the other person is not going to avenge you. It’s only going to make things worse by perpetuating the cycle of abuse.

So, refuse to take revenge against the other person. Instead, forgive them and move on. Don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes. Forgive them and learn to trust them again. Forgiveness heals many ills.


  • Accept each other just as you are

Don’t try to change the other person. This will just backfire on you. People are to be loved, not fixed.

Likewise, refuse to let the other person change you if you want to avoid being taken advantage of.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with you. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve on your behavior. But the choice to do so should be yours and not imposed on you by the other person.


The final word

If you want to enjoy healthy relationships as a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you have to take the necessary measures to avoid being taken advantage of.

Follow the tips above and many other tips so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Please note that you should also use the tips above to avoid taking advantage of others.

Remember that relationships are partnerships. They are about mutual love, trust, honesty and respect, so play your role in making yours healthy.


Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it. What do you think of it? What are your own tips on how to avoid being taken advantage of? Please share with us by commenting.














12 easy tips to make friends easily

If you are struggling to make friends easily, then you are reading the right post. I know many people don’t have as many friends as they’d like. But you can accomplish that immediately if you play your cards right. Read on to find out how. 


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You’ll remember that friendships are very important when it comes to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

So make friends easily with the following tips:


Tip #1: Get in the word of God

If you’ve been following my blog you know the word of God is my best answer to everything. The bible is an exact mirror of what the Lord created you to be.

If you read and internalize that you were created in the image of God, then you know you are not supposed to be less than he is. So you’ll know in order to follow in your Father’s footsteps you should form only healthy relationships.

Proverbs 12 v 26: The righteous person is a guide to his friend, but the path of the wicked leads them astray. (GNB)

Proverbs 17 v 17: Friends always show their love. (GNB)

Proverbs 27 v 17: You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. (MSG)

If you need help with your bible study, read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.


Tip #2: Know what you want out of a friendship

You can’t make friends easily if you are not sure what you want out of a friendship.

This in no way implies that you should enter friendships on ulterior motives. Remember you are forming friendships so you and your friends can accompany each other on this journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.


Tip #3: Don’t expect too much from people

You can’t make friends easily if you expect too much from people. Approach people with little, or even better, no expectations. I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it if someone approached you for friendship with expectations.


Tip #4: Be clear about what you like and dislike

This is very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to be clear about what you like and dislike. Don’t be scared to let the other person know. If you think they might reject you, then that’s a positive thing because it means you and them were never compatible to begin with.

In the end you’ll be left with only those people who share your likes and dislikes, and even if they don’t, at least they are willing to respect yours. But remember to respect theirs too.

You can’t begin to know what you like and dislike if you don’t know yourself. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.


Tip#5: Make sure your friendship is based on love and trust

Though you should approach people with no expectations in order to make friends easily, you should ensure that the friendship you are forming is based on love and trust, because those two virtues will make your friendship healthy and you shouldn’t settle for anything less than that.


  • Tip #6: Don’t act desperate

It’s the desperate people who fail to make friends easily. Don’t force yourself onto other people because you might just scare them away, and you don’t want that.

If you know yourself and are able to enjoy your own company, then you should be confident enough to look for the right friends without worrying about the passage of time.


  • Tip #7: Don’t be clingy

It’s the clingy people who can’t make friends easily. You don’t give the other person space when you are friends, or worse still, while you are trying to pursue them for friendship.

Remember, you are responsible for your own happiness. Don’t hang onto the other person for that.


  • Tip #8: Be generous

Yes, you will make friends easily if you are willing to give to them and others. Everyone loves a generous friend. A healthy friendship should be about giving and not taking.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.


  • Tip #9: Be positive about life

You can’t make friends easily if you are negative about life, walking around with a chip on your shoulder and making everyone around you feel bad.

Be positive about life. Be optimistic. Be hopeful. Live life with vigor and excitement. Then you’ll make friends easily because everyone will want to hang around you.

Encourage others to be positive too. Life is beautiful and that includes even the challenges we go through.


  • Tip#10: Try different things

Sometimes you struggle to make friends easily because you are too stuck in your routine. There’s nothing wrong with having a routine; I also have a routine that makes my life enjoyable.

But you should be flexible enough to try new things especially if you are trying to make friends. You might discover something you like and a friend to go with that.

Trying different things will let you discover some things you didn’t know about yourself. You might even uncover a hidden talent you can share with your friends. Read my post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.


  • Tip #11: Go to the right places

This is also very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to go to the places you know potential friends are likely to be hanging out in.

But be wary of friends you make in places like strip clubs because they might not be genuine friends. Go to the park instead, or church, or the library, or the museum, the list is endless.


  • Tip #12: Let go of unhealthy friendships

Maybe you can’t make friends easily because all your time and energy is spent on those unhealthy friendships you are still hanging onto.

Unhealthy friendships make you love yourself less than you should. They rob you of your self esteem and position you to make more bad friends in future.

If you know the friendship has no hope of being redeemed, then let go of it so you can focus on forming healthy friendships. This way you’ll regain your love for yourself and your self esteem.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.


The final word

You no longer have to struggle to make friends easily. Follow the above tips and be well on your way to making friends who’ll join hands with you as you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Always remember to not lose who you are. Be firm about upholding your own values. You’ll appreciate that, and your friends will too.


Thank you for reading this post. I hope it was helpful. Please let us know your own tips to make friends easily.


You’ll also want to read:


10 tips to make new friends by personalexcellence.co

How to make new friends (and keep the old) as a young adult by the greatist.com

This is what you didn’t know about meditation

Meditation is one of those things everyone is talking about today. Some have gotten the hang of it, but there are some who are still struggling with really grasping what it means and how to go about doing it. Please continue reading this post if you have any questions about meditation.


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What comes to your mind when you hear the word meditation?

I’m sure what you see in the picture above is what you must think of when you hear the word meditation. You associate it with this foreign thing that you known nothing of, but you know will benefit you.

Well, you’ll be happy to know that true meditation doesn’t have all those embellishments you’ve seen. You do not have to pose like the people you’ve seen on TV and in pictures. What they are trying to do, what you should aim to do if you must, is settle into a comfortable position, in a place where you know you won’t be distracted. That’s all. It’s as simple as that.

(You’ll learn below that meditation can be a lot simpler than sitting down in a quiet place, so keep reading).


Now, I’ve heard some people say meditation is emptying the mind for a set time in order to quieten it. That doesn’t sound like the meditation I know of, or at least meditation according to the bible, which is the truest piece of writing in existence.

The bible talks about meditation. It says time and again that we are to meditate. But not just meditate, but meditate on the word of God. That means we are to ponder the word of God, think of it, run it over and over in our minds.

That is far from emptying our minds. As children of God, we get our peace from our father’s word, and therefore dwelling in it will give us exactly the kind of peace meditation is meant to achieve.

Remember that it’s not enough to just read the word. Reading the word and then putting aside your bible is not going to help you if you don’t think about what you just read.

And you don’t think about it for the five minutes after you finish reading the bible. No, you think about it over and over again for as long as you live. That’s the only way the word will change your way of thinking so you become more and more like God and access the blessings our father has made available to us, including the peace we are all after.


Now, you might not agree with me when I say, we all meditate every day. Every second of every day we are pondering stuff, mulling it over, chewing on it. Each and every one of us. That’s meditation.

But get this, it’s the negative form of meditation, the bad kind. So, the truth is, we all know how to meditate. We are just meditating on the wrong stuff.

Now, here is what I meant earlier when I said meditation requires no embellishments.

When you worry, and that’s meditation, you do it whenever and wherever you are. You could be sitting in front of the TV and worrying about paying your bills. Or you could worry about it as you drive to work. You could worry about it as you take a shower. You don’t have to be sitting down in a quiet place, humming, in order to meditate.

So it is with meditating on the word of God. You can think of your scriptures as you ride the bus to school or to work, as you go about your chores. Don’t think that you can only meditate if you are sitting alone in a quiet place. Well, that’s important too, if you can do it. But know that you can meditate at any time, in any place.


So, how do I move forward?

OK, now that you’ve taken comfort and confidence in knowing that you already know how to meditate, it’s time to think about what you’ve been meditating on. Decide if you want to keep meditating on that. If you’ve been meditating on fear, you know that kind of meditation has brought no peace to your days, so it’s time to change that.

Achieving the meditation you want is just a matter of changing what you meditate on from bad to good, from negative to positive. Begin to think about good things all the time. Think about the fact that you are still alive. That’s something worth meditating on.

Think about the people in your life. That’s another thing worth meditating on. Count your blessings and meditate on them. Meditate on God’s love for you. You’ll begin to see different results than what you’ve been seeing while you’ve been meditating on the wrong things.

  • You’ll reap joy as you realize you have a lot to be grateful for.
  • You’ll feel God’s love.
  • You’ll extend that love to those around you.
  • You’ll reap peace that no one can understand.


The final word

You no longer have to worry about meditation being a foreign thing for you. Now that you know you’ve been doing it all along, and are doing it now as we speak, you can have the confidence to continue with it, this time, meditating on the good things as opposed to the bad things you’ve been pondering all along.

Don’t worry about setting aside time to meditate. We all know trying to set time to do some things can backfire on us, especially in the early stages while we’re still trying to get used to them.

That’s why you must embed meditation in your everyday activities. Then as you get more and more used to it and you’re confident it has stuck as a habit, you can set a specific time and place to do your meditation.

Enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle requires exactly that. Embedding things like meditation and exercise into our everyday duties so that we do not have an opportunity to slack on them and use lack of time as an excuse.

Do it right now. As soon as you finish reading this post, begin meditating on the good things in your life. Meditate on God’s word and access the blessings he’s made available to us, blessings we can’t be aware of unless we read his word.


I felt like this post had to be written, and I feel fulfilled now that I’ve shared with you what meditation really is. I feel like most of us have been robbed of the benefits of meditation because we thought we didn’t know how to do it. And we even enrolled in classes to try to learn to do it.

Well, don’t worry about classes anymore. You have the best teacher: the holy spirit. He’ll teach you everything you need to know not only about meditation but about life as a whole.


Please share your thoughts on this post by commenting below. Your thoughts and input are always appreciated. Thank you.


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How to serve God in your profession

Do you want to serve God but don’t know how to go about it? So many of us love God and want to do everything we can to spread the good news about him. And yet we find ourselves stuck because we are not pastors or ministers and don’t work anywhere near the church.

The two main questions are: can only pastors and ministers and those who work in the church serve God or can every one of us do it? If we can, then how do we go about it?

I’m about to share the answers to those two questions, so keep reading.


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We’ve already established the significance of spirituality in enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. Revisit that here.

Honestly, I don’t know how people who don’t acknowledge God can actually claim to live a fulfilling life. What is life without God? Because that to me is just impossible. Everything I do, I do for the honor and glory of God. The life that I live, I live for him. While death used to scare me, now it doesn’t because when I die, I finally get to be with him.

Ok, now on to addressing those two questions.


Can everyone serve God and how do we go about it?

Absolutely. Anyone can serve God. In fact everyone should serve God. It doesn’t matter your age, gender, color, background, profession. Anybody can serve God and everyone should.

Somehow we’ve adopted this mentality that only ministers and pastors and people working in the church can serve God. But that doesn’t make any sense. Because then we are limiting God to only the church. In other words we are saying outside of church, he doesn’t exist, and that’s not true at all.

Ministers and pastors and people working in the church serve God, but so must everyone else.

  • Wait, you say. But I’m just an elementary school teacher. How can I serve God? By working hard and to best of your ability. Teach those kids everything they need to learn. Nurture them so they can grow up to become the kind of leaders we want to have.

Minister to them about God. You are teaching them everything else; Math, Science, Physical Education, so why not teach them about God? Because frankly, especially in this day and age, we need to hear about God more than we do about everything else.


  • If you are a nurse or a doctor, you have patients you need to nurse back to health. Patients who need to hear about the healing that’s already been made available to them by our God. You need to minister to them and let them know they have the right as children of God, to get out of that hospital bed and march home in perfect health.


  • If you are a janitor, you should do your job well. Make your surroundings immaculate for those who work in them. Do your job with love. Talk to others about God and share your thoughts and experiences with them.


  • If you are a student, you have a responsibility to share with your fellow students the matters of God. Encourage each other to love and honor God as you go along in your studies.


  • If you are a prison guard, minister to those in prison. They need hope that their incarceration is not the end of their lives. Make them see that they too can minister to others and encourage each other to become better people who will serve God and carry forward his name.


The word of God is not limited to those who work in the church. It’s everyone’s duty to spread it all around the world so that those left behind can hear it and turn to God.


I don’t care who you are and what you do. You have as much obligation to spread the word of God as you do to hear it. If you have free access to the bible to read to yourself, then it means you also have free access to read it out loud to others.

The way I see it, we’ve burdened ministers and pastors and those who work in the church with spreading the word of God. We are doing nothing to help these people because somehow we feel like it’s not our duty. When things go wrong at the church, or when a pastor falls, we tend to distance ourselves from him or her and make sarcastic remarks about them supposedly being a servant of God.

In other words, we join the world in mocking a servant who despite being a flawed human being, is trying to educate us about God. We think it’s OK for us to just sit there and judge them, not realizing that their falling is partly our fault because we are not helping them the same way they are helping us.


So where do I go from here?

  • The first thing you need to do is realize that you are a child of God, and children speak well of their parents. So you have to do the same: speak well of God every chance you get.


  • Then realize that to best serve God, before you even open your mouth to anyone about him, you have to serve him internally. Give your body, soul and mind to him.


  • Then let him show in your work, whatever you do. Lawyer, prison inmate, librarian, stay at home mom or dad, every profession, every occupation. Do your work as if you are doing it for God himself, because you are. Let others benefit from your work.


  • Now, open your mouth and teach those around you about God. You don’t have to claim to know everything. We are all students in matters of God. Say what you know so others can also say what they know. Then together you can encourage each other to become the best children of God.


The final word

God is your entire life. He’s your creator, the creator of everything. Most importantly, he adores you and wants the best possible life for you. Realize that as a child of God, you can enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle he destined for you to enjoy, and share his good news with everyone around you.


Thank you for reading this post. What is your occupation? How do you serve God in it? Please let us know in the comments below.

Also read this wonderful post on this topic.

How to love your body just the way it is

Are you struggling to love your body just the way it is? Maybe you feel too short, or too tall, or too thin, or too fat. Bottom line; you feel like there’s something wrong with your body, something that needs to be fixed.


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First, let me say this: you are not alone. Most if not all of us have been at that point, many still are. That point where we are unhappy with a part of our body and we want to do whatever we can to fix it.


Learning to love your body just the way it is is one of the key ingredients of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.


Love conquers whatever insecurities you might have about your body. It’s the one thing that won’t make you feel disgusted with yourself when you look in the mirror. The one thing that will make you feel grateful for your body even when the numbers on that scale are a little bit too high.


A picture message to love your body just the way it is


Why do we get dissatisfied with our bodies in the first place?

Primarily, it’s the comparison of our bodies with other people’s bodies and the society’s definition of beauty in regards to body shape and size.

Remember how you felt beautiful when you were young? You felt like a princess, even called yourself a princess. You had friends you didn’t think were more beautiful or less beautiful than you were. You were just a happy creation celebrating your uniqueness every day.

And then you grew up, became more aware of the media and its influence in our lives. Magazines and television said you had to be of a certain size and if you weren’t you were to follow strict measures to get your body to that size. They compared you to celebrities like Kim Kardashian and said something was wrong with you if you didn’t look like her.

So then you became intensely aware of your friends, how they looked in comparison to you. You felt jealous of those who looked more like Kim Kardashian than you did. And then one day you just woke up to realize you are just too unhappy with the way you look.


A picture message to love your body just the way it is


What’s the ideal body size, shape and weight?

There’s no such thing. We were all created differently, and we are all beautiful. There’s no reason to change who you are. Let me tell you something. If you strive to be healthy at all levels, then you are where you’re supposed to be in terms of size, shape and weight, regardless of what those are.

Maybe you are naturally a thick person, or tall person, whatever. Embrace that. God created you that way and he doesn’t make mistakes. He said you were created in his likeness so you are the best you can be.

So love yourself just the way you are right now. Love your body with all its flaws, its imperfections, because they are yours and they make your body what it is: a temple of the Lord.


A picture message to love your body just the way it is


Don’t be afraid to look in the mirror. At the same time, don’t obsess over what you see in the mirror.


Let me share my own past struggles with my body

I used to worry like many others about what I saw in the mirror. At one point, I was eating right, exercising, I had no stress, and I was doing everything to be healthy. I’ve always been a tiny person, but at that point I was what you’d call skinny fat with no muscle tone and lumpy thighs.

But then I learned to love my body just the way it was, and I learned to concentrate on important things like caring for others instead of being self-focused all the time.

I found myself slowly but surely moving away from the dissatisfaction I had about my body, and one day I realized I loved my body just the way it was.

But then, because doubts always manage to creep up, I was looking at myself in the mirror one day and realized that all my cellulite was gone. I hadn’t expected that to happen because the internet says you can never get rid of cellulite.

Be careful what you let yourself believe when it comes to the internet. Those people are not wrong, but like I just said, people are different. And they can only write based on their own experiences. Make your own experiences.

I was over the moon when I realized this. But then I turned around and saw that the back of my thighs, just under my butt, were still heavily dimpled. That small area of cellulite erased all the joy I’d just felt moments back when I realized the appearance of my cellulite had improved. I was angry. Why was this part of my body so stubborn? What was I doing wrong?

But then I caught myself before I went too far. I wasn’t doing anything wrong. Everything was fine. I was living my best life and a little cellulite was nothing. I told myself at that point that never again would I ever allow anything or anyone to ruin my journey of a simple healthy lifestyle.

Now I embrace every part of my body because it makes me who I am. I am content with what God gave me and I express gratitude instead of complaining about it. Please do the same.


A picture message to love your body just the way it is


The final word

Please remember that the worst thing you can do for your body is to hate it. Hating it undermines everything it does, and can even go as far as putting your health at risk. On the other hand, loving your body keeps sickness and disease at bay and gives you the zeal to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.


Thank you for  reading this post. What do you think of it? Do you love your body just the way it is, or you are still struggling like many of us? Please let us know in the comments below.


8 reasons to celebrate being single

Are you single? Then you’re in good company because I’m also single. In fact I have been single for almost all of my adult life. I know to some of you that might sound dismal, but it’s one of the reasons I believe I’ve been able to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle. Unattached and free to find my true self.


A picture to celebrate being single


Am I saying being single is the best thing?

I’m not saying that. Rather, let me put it this way. It depends on who you are and your situation. It’s best for me, but it must not be for you. But I’m also saying that being attached to another person isn’t the only call for celebration.

Being single is also something to celebrate, and there are many single people like me who enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle because of their status.


Here are the 8 reasons to celebrate being single

Number 1: You get to discover your real self                                                                      

Yes, when you are single, you really do discover your true self, unless you are bitter about your singleness and you shrivel into your shell until you find someone. If you embrace being single, you’ll realize that now is the time to find out who you really are, what you truly like and dislike.

I’ve gone out with men in the past, and sometimes I pretended I liked the things they liked just because I didn’t want to create disagreements and I wanted to please them. Thankfully, I was in these relationships for a short time. I can imagine that if I’d been in them for a long time, I might have carried on with that pretense for way too long to remember who I really was.

I’m sure I’m not the first and last person to go through this. It’s easy to say ‘be yourself’ when you are in a relationship but often times it’s not easy to do, practically. But if you are single, then you can be honest with yourself about who you really are.


Number 2: You can develop an intimate relationship with God.

God loves you, single and/or attached. But when you are single, you can come as close to God as you want without worrying about the possibility of that displeasing your partner.


1 Corinthians 7 v 34

Unmarried women and women who have never been married worry only about pleasing the Lord, and they keep their bodies and minds pure. But a married woman worries about the things of this world, because she wants to please her husband. (CEV)


Please let me clarify here that Apostle Paul is not saying anything against marriage. If you follow up on the whole chapter, he says if you are married you should stay married and if you want to get married, you should go right ahead and do so.


A picture of married people to celebrate being single


But when singleness and being attached are compared, singleness allows you to serve God in the best way possible.


Number 3: You learn self-control

Not just in matters of sex, but with everything else in life. Your self-control in sexual matters teaches you self-control in other areas of your life, leading to you being more wholesome.


Number 4: You can cultivate many relationships.

It can be hard to make certain kinds of friends when you are attached. If you are a woman, it can be hard making male friends because you don’t want to make your partner jealous. The same thing goes for when you are male and want to make female friends.

But when you are single, you can be friends with whoever you like, not for frivolous reasons, but for the mutual benefit of yourself and others. I talk about relationships here.


Number 5: You have a chance to discover true and unconditional love

The world has reduced love to almost nothingness. Conditional love that’s here today and gone tomorrow. And this kind of love is more prevalent in romantic relationships. If you are single, you can cultivate unconditional love and keep the people in your life as they also keep you.


A love sign to enjoy being single


Number 6: You can enjoy a stress-free life.

Let’s face it. Being in a relationship is stressful.  No two people can possibly be the same so stress is bound to come up when these two people are involved.

But when you are single and you embrace that, you only have yourself to deal with and that takes a load off your shoulders. Unless you really have problems. But even then, you are your own best solution to your problems, so you can resolve issues in a way that best suits you. And we can all agree that being stress-free is instrumental to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.


Number 7: You can invest time in acquiring new skills and knowledge

Because you are single and you spend a lot of time with yourself, you can recognize a desire to go back to school, read more, or anything that allows you to make yourself intellectually better than you are now.

And because you enjoy many meaningful relationships, you can empower others so they can also be better people.


Number 8: You can get involved in worthy causes

Again, being single frees you up to focus on establishing relationships that are not just beneficial to you but to others. And you tend to be more sensitive to others’ needs and you are much more aware of the plights of others. So you can extend a helping hand.


Final word

There’s no reason to feel ashamed just because you are single, as the world will have you think. You are a valuable human being, single or attached. Please celebrate your singleness and don’t rush into relationships prematurely just to avoid being single.

Learn to love yourself first before you love others. And learn to enjoy spending time with yourself first before you move into the company of another person.


These are obviously not the only reasons to celebrate being single. There are many more. Share your thoughts with us about the other benefits. We are interested in knowing whether you are single and attached, and how that’s going for you. Thank you.



A simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships

A simple healthy lifestyle is dependent upon you establishing and maintaining meaningful relationships.


A message about love for a simple healthy lifestyle


Please note that relationships have to be meaningful if they are to work. Not just meaningful to you, but to the other person as well.

Our world today is permeated with selfish relationships. Relationships have come to be about what I can get from the other person, and never about pursuing genuine love.

But I’ve gotten tired of hearing phrases like: well, it’s what it is, we just have to live with it.

Why do we have to settle for the worst things in life, mediocre at best? We are the ones who changed relationships from meaningful to selfish, and we are the only ones who can change them back.

So let’s not settle for less than what we deserve if we wish to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.


You are worthy of love message for a simple healthy lifestyle


OK. So then, we have to examine ourselves.


What is stopping us from enjoying meaningful relationships?

The answer is pretty simple, if you think about it. But many people continue to miss this truth and therefore they cannot enjoy meaningful relationships that in turn allow them to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

This is the truth:

Meaningful relationships are all rooted on one thing: Love.


If you don’t think you are worthy of love, or that others are worthy of love, you can forget about having meaningful relationship with others.


That’s it. It’s that simple.

Love makes everything possible.

And love is the mother of all great things in this world.


If we can love ourselves and love others at the same time, then we have found the key to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.


If we can love ourselves and others enough to know that we deserve only the best, then we’d form meaningful relationships that only promote that belief.


So am I saying that people today don’t have love?

Exactly. Maybe it’s not something you think is true. Or maybe you know it’s true but you don’t want to hear that truth.

Notice that in the above statements I didn’t say people should love themselves only. I said they should love themselves AND others.

True love goes beyond self to others.


Genuine relationships for a simple healthy lifestyle


You cannot say you truly have love until that love pours out to those around you. Only then can you genuinely say you have love in your heart.

So if you want to argue that there is love around us then I’m not going to argue with you. I see love around us, of course. But that love is self-love, and it falls far too short of the kind of love you need to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Yes, again, I don’t want to offend anyone but today we love ourselves and nobody else. We revere ourselves and have turned that worship from the one being who deserves it: God.

We have so much self-love that we have no room in our hearts to love anybody else. That’s why we form empty relationships that are all about what we can get from the other person.


So how do I start loving others?

You just have to make a decision to love them. That’s all it takes to start: A decision.

You can’t wait for people to do good things for you before you start loving them. Simply because people aren’t perfect and if you wait for that to happen you might end up waiting forever.

Love others NOW with all their imperfections, the same way they should love you with all your imperfections.

Realize that love makes you and them grow and become better people than you were yesterday. And that’s what we need in order to heal this world.


What if someone hurt you?

Love them. It’s that simple. Does that mean you are not hurt or angry? No of course not. You’ll feel the disappointment, the hurt. But love them regardless. Only if you love those who hurt you and you show them that love, will they want to become better people.

If you want to know more about loving and forgiving others for their mistakes, read this.

So begin your journey now to love yourself and others so you can start enjoying the simple healthy lifestyle that guarantees results.

  • Start by loving yourself unconditionally
  • Make friends and love them unconditionally
  • Love your children unconditionally
  • Love your spouse unconditionally. That is what marriage is all about anyway.

Love everyone unconditionally.


Loving your spouse unconditionally for a simple healthy lifestyle


Don’t let unconditional love be something you reserve only for your pets. Pets are cute and we should love them, but people are indispensable and we should love them even more, treasure them, and not take for granted the little time we have with them in this world.

I’ve mentioned this before and I’ll say it again: The bible is my only source of truth. And the bible says everything is hinged on love. We are to love our creator, and we are to love others.

I can quote a few  verses about love.

1 Corinthians 13 v 2: What if I could prophesy and understand all secrets and all knowledge? And what if I had faith that moved mountains? I would be nothing unless I loved others. (CEV)

1 Peter 4 v 8: Most important of all, you must sincerely love each other, because love wipes away many sins. (CEV)

1 Corinthians 13 v 13: For now there are faith, hope, and love. But of these three, the greatest is love. (CEV)

1 Corinthians 14 v 1: Love should be your guide. (CEV)

1 Corinthians 16 v 14: Show love in everything you do. (CEV)

And there are many more verses.


Bible verse about love for a simple healthy lifestyle


The final word

We don’t have to let our relationships deteriorate like it’s the case right now in this world. We can turn things around and form genuine relationships based on true love. Only then can we enjoy the simple healthy lifestyle we deserve.


Thank you for reading this post. Please let us know your thoughts on the topic. What kind of relationships do you have? Are they all genuine and meaningful or can you do without some of them? What are your struggles in forming healthy relationships? Let us know in the comments below.









A simple healthy lifestyle guide you want to start using right now

A simple healthy lifestyle is VERY possible.

I made that clear on the first post of this blog, of course. But I still think you need to hear it again, and again, until you believe it.


A simple healthy lifestyle is possible

We often hear that we can enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

But we don’t hear about how we can do that. We are only given a long list of tips.

Tips to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle

  • Eat clean. Avoid processed foods. Instead eat organic.
  • Drink a lot of water
  • Exercise
  • Get enough sleep
  • Avoid stress
  • Nurture healthy relationships
  • Meditate


Anyway, we see people who give these tips implement them to begin enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Yet, surprisingly, their simple healthy lifestyle becomes  anything BUT simple!


So, enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle is not possible?

 It most definitely is!

The above tips are achievable RIGHT NOW. But only if they are simple.

I wasn’t enjoying the simple healthy lifestyle I knew I was meant to enjoy.


I had tried all these tips of a simple healthy lifestyle and failed. Why?

  •  I didn’t have a gym membership like my advisors did.
  • I didn’t have equipment at home for when I couldn’t go to the gym.
  • I didn’t have tight leggings and a crop top like everyone I saw in blogs and on YouTube
  • I couldn’t afford the fancy food they told me to eat
  • I didn’t have a camera I could use to record my progress.


But the underlying reason was: The simple healthy lifestyle I modeled after WASN’T simple at all!

Why was  so hard?

  • No one gave me a good reason why I should enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle
  • No one stressed the point that EVERYONE should enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle
  • Everyone gave me the wrong idea of what enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle looked like
  • What I got were tips. No one showed me how to actually use them.

So, now, I’m about to teach you.


Starting the guide to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle:

Your successfully journey  of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle starts here RIGHT NOW!

And now I’ll get into the guide I promised you in my last post.

So, stand up right now. Fetch yourself a glass of water.

We have started now, can you see that?

Come back to your computer. Read this very important key to implement the guide.

We will look at this very key on this post.

And that is:



Yes. Love yourself. It’s the only way you can unlock the magic of a simple healthy lifestyle.

You don’t feel good about yourself? Maybe haven’t in a long time?

That’s OK. You are not alone. We’ve all been there.

You should feel good about yourself because you are valuable, unique and indispensable. That’s the truth I’m here to tell you today.

You are the exact likeness of our Creator. Now that’s big. Internalize that and remember it all the time.

But loving yourself doesn’t just end with you.

I hear overweight people say, “I want to lose weight so I can look good at the beach.”

That’s a good reason, of course. But it is entirely focused on the self, and that is not enough to sustain you for the long run.

Why? Because when self-doubts come up, enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle always takes a backseat.

Then you find yourself back to square one, simply because you are trying to be your own main focus.

Many people today are NOT enjoying the simple healthy lifestyle they deserve because there is too much self-worship.

Life has become all about superficial self-image. We have become so self-centered that we can only think of ourselves and no one else.

A simple healthy lifestyle is NOT possible in that case.


A simple healthy lifestyle is possible

Now, loving yourself so you can be a blessing to others carries you farther.


Being healthy for your children, for example,  is a much better reason than looking good at the beach.

And that’s because you’ll want to stay healthy for as long as your children live.

But even better, being healthy for the world will ensure you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle until you die at that ripe old age.


Because the world is big. There are people who need you now and many that aren’t yet born  you’ll need you twenty years from today.

So you have to be healthy for them.

A simple healthy lifestyles begins with loving yourself enough to take care of yourself so you can bless others.

It’s about loving yourself enough to take care of yourself because you are a valuable, unique and indispensable human being with a life purpose.


How do you begin to love yourself so you can enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle?

From this moment forth, challenge yourself to love yourself enough.

Think about all the good things about yourself, no matter how hard. Express gratitude for those things.

Think about your purpose in this life. You were born to bring good to this world. You don’t need to do anything major to exercise your life purpose. Begin by sharing, and being good to people.

Then you’ll be strengthened and your lot increased so you can share more and be even better to people.

So, go ahead. Think of your purpose RIGHT NOW, of how you can contribute to this world.  And sip some water while you do that because water is nature’s best free drink.


Most importantly, tell us your thoughts because we are in this journey with you.

What are your thoughts on the power of loving yourself as a key ingredient of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle?

What do you struggle with? Please let us know in the comments below.

I’ll be with you in spirit until we meet next time.  I see success for you in the near future. A simple healthy lifestyle awaits you.

Now avert your eyes from the screen so they can rest. In the meantime, stand up to stretch your legs. Get yourself another glass of water.

We’ll continue with this guide when we meet again. Thank you for taking the time to read this post.