Whose life are you living right now? Yours or other people’s? Because Most of the time we live on other people’s terms and not on our own terms. We fulfill the dreams people have for us instead of fulfilling the dreams we have for ourselves.
You can’t even begin to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle if you don’t have the guts to live on your own terms, whether or not people like your life. Enjoying a fulfilling life can’t be possible if you feel like you must please everyone. You must have the guts to stand up against such pressure.
Of course at some point or another in our lives, we’ve fallen victim to living on other people’s terms.
When I was younger, before I became wiser, I was worried about whether the way I lived then pleased my family. My family had high hopes for me. My mother wanted me to be this, my brothers and sister wanted me to be that, and of course my father was confident I could do it all.
But I didn’t want to do it all. In fact, I didn’t want to do any of it. I had my own dreams, a clear picture of how I wanted to live, if God was willing of course, because though:
We humans make plans, but the lord has the final word (Proverbs 16 v 1 CEV)
I knew my way was the right way because it was my way. And I knew that anything that I did that was in line with God’s word was alright. So I felt strongly about the kind of life I wanted, the life that was the complete opposite of what my family wanted for me.
I didn’t want to disappoint them, but making them happy meant disappointing myself, and I knew I couldn’t live with that. I also knew following my desired life would actually benefit my family because I’d be happier around them and would be more present in their own lives.
So I chose my way right then and told God about it. I prayed for the Lord’s guidance in the life I wanted to live, and I prayed that nothing came between me and my family, and most importantly, nothing came between me and God.
I didn’t know what was to come because you can’t tell the future, but I ventured forward under the undeserved mercy of God.
Today I’m living the kind of life I want. And I’m a much better person because of it. Now, I’m sure we’d debate on what a good life is. You might decide there has to be a lot of money present in it. I don’t think so. I have no money to my name, but I’m wealthier than I’ve ever been in my entire life.
I’d never thought there would ever be a time when I’d look forward to getting out of bed early in the morning while it’s still dark outside. But every morning I can’t wait to go outside and smell the fresh morning air. I can’t wait for my days to begin. I have so much passion for life it’s crazy. I have the kind of peace I can’t put into words. It’s peace that’s beyond human understanding.
Today I worry less and rejoice more. I thank God for everything. I’m focused on helping as many people as I can as opposed to envying them and wishing I had what they have. The day I made the best decision of my life was the day I decided to live life on my own terms.
The final word
Maybe you are just like me, fed up with societal pressures and just want to follow a life you desire. Maybe you have the guts to pursue that life. Or maybe you are still struggling to make that jump. That’s OK. Keep working toward breaking free from the bondage of pleasing everyone. Only then can you live a life God truly destined for you. And only then can you confidently say you are enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.
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