How to be free from anger

Being free from anger is liberating beyond explanation. See, anger is a negative emotion that takes more than it gives, unless you are talking about giving you disease. Being free from anger is something we must all strive to achieve. Continue reading so you can learn how to be free from anger.

 

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A lot of people struggle with anger management. There used to be a time in my life when I did too. It didn’t take a lot to anger me, and when I did get angry, it was excessive.

Let me tell you. I once blew up at my boss at work. I stood up in a meeting of more than one hundred people and called out the boss that everyone, including myself, was scared of.

That might have been brave because I was standing up for my rights. But it was the wrong way to go about doing that. Since then, I’ve consciously stepped away from that kind of anger, and anger altogether.

A life free from anger is a life of freedom in every way imaginable. You free up your spirit to focus on the positive and in the process, you free up your body to enjoy that positivity.

 

Here’s how you can be free from anger:

  • Get into God’s word

I know. It seems like this is my first answer to every question. Well, the truth is, it is. The word of God is literally a manual for your life. It has the answer to every question you have right now.

The word of God tells us to not go to bed angry, and it tells us to love each other. It tells us to patiently put up with each other.

There’s no anger evident in any of the scenarios above. And in the first scenario, the word of God comes right out and condemns anger.

So, be free from anger by getting into God’s word and meditating on it. Pray to God for guidance. Read my 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Avoid anything that triggers your anger

Avoid people who make you angry. If it means changing the people you hang around with, then so be it.

If it’s someone at work or school who you can’t avoid, then converse with them only in matters concerning work or school so you limit the chances of them saying something that makes you angry. This will definitely help you be free from anger.

 

  • Practice forgiveness

I’ve already mentioned patiently putting up with each other. Now, go further by forgiving others for the wrongs they’ve done to you.

Everyone makes mistakes, including you. And everyone deserves forgiveness for their mistakes, including you. Forgive others just as you’d like them to forgive you and by doing this you will be free from anger.

If you hold grudges, you open yourself up to a lot of heartache, which births diseases. Plus, holding grudges robs you of healthy relationships and we know that healthy relationships are one of the key components of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Read my post: a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

 

  • Address your personal issues and make peace with your life

Sometimes all you need to be free from anger is to address the issues in your life. And these are issues no one else but you might know of. Maybe you are struggling with addictions.

It’s common that when you are frustrated with your private things, you tend to take them out on others in the form of anger.

Instead of lashing out, address your addictions. Lean on the word of God, and seek counseling. You shouldn’t be alone in your time of need and there are a lot of people who are ready to help you so you can be free from anger.

 

  • Live a simple life

This is extremely important. I know the world today encourages cut-throat competition and a high lifestyle few can afford.

Don’t let people dictate how you should live. Read this post on having the guts to live life on your own terms.

Be clear about what you want. Know yourself enough to know the kind of life you want to lead and be firm about it. I have these 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

A simple life is the best life. Simple means affordable, and you can never go wrong with affordable.

Living a life you can’t afford burdens you, and this breeds anger. So be free from anger by living simply, quietly, minding your own business.

 

The final word

Do everything you can in order to be free from anger. Freedom from anger will liberate you and attract good things into your life.

You’ll have the best that life has to offer, and though challenges will arise, your new attitude will ensure you deal with challenges with amazing positivity that will enable you to always emerge triumphant at the other end of your problems.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I know a lot of people struggle to be free from anger. Are you struggling too? Let us know. If you’ve struggled to be free from anger before but you managed to conquer your anger, please share with us how you did that.

 

You’ll also be interested in:

10 biblical truths to overcome sinful anger by biblestudytools.com

3 ways to break free from anger by huffingtonpost.com

Keys to powerful living: overcoming anger by cbn.com

How to stop comparing yourself to others

You can stop comparing yourself to others if you want to. I know because I have stopped doing that. Now I’m about to share with you how I did that in this post.

 

A message to stop comparing yourself to others

 

Nowadays we feel pressured to compare ourselves to everyone else. We must compare ourselves to our friends, colleagues and neighbors. Worse still, we must compare ourselves to people we don’t even know. It’s sickening, but a sad reality that we face everyday. How do you manage to escape that and steer clear of it?

 

  • Realize that you are unique and celebrate your uniqueness

And people who say that to you are not just trying to stroke your ego. It really is true. Each of us is an original. There’s no one else like you anywhere in this world. Someone on the opposite end of the world might look like you, but they could never be you. That on it’s own is huge and should make you stop comparing yourself to others.

 

  • Lean on the word of God.

The word of God actually has something to say about this topic and will help you to stop comparing yourself to others.

Galatians 5 v 26: That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.

The bible is the ultimate truth. It says you should stop comparing yourself to others because you  are an original who has far more interesting things to do. And this is so true. Make sure you don’t have regrets later in life about wasting your time comparing yourself to others. Make your own impact in the world in the little time you have here.

The bible has plenty to say about your uniqueness, not to mention, the perfect love God has for you. So please familiarize yourself with it. If you have trouble understanding the  bible, then read this post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

  • Be the best you can be

As you celebrate your uniqueness, become the best you can be and this will help you to stop comparing yourself to others. What are your talents? Use them to benefit those around you. Read my 10 steps to discover and develop your talent. If you are busy being the best you can be, you have no time and no desire to compare yourself to others.

 

  • Carve out your own life and insist on following it

If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others you must make your own life. Sometimes we feel pressured to compare ourselves to others because we are following everything they are doing.

They are following this career so we follow it too. They are married to a football star so we must find a way to do the same thing. How can we avoid comparing ourselves to others if we follow everything they are doing?

Instead, make your own life and insist on following this life. Do what you want to do. Live life on your own terms and not on anyone else’s terms. Only then can you manage to stop comparing yourself to others. Read my post: Do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?

 

  • Make peace with every aspect of your life.

You can’t stop comparing yourself to others if you are bitter about some aspects of your life because then you’ll always be looking at the next person to see what they are doing better than you. Maybe you had 5 failed marriages. Make peace with that instead of looking at your friend and feeling bitter because she’s been married to the same man all her life.

If you committed some crime in your past and maybe went to jail for it, it’s time to forgive yourself because you’ve paid your dues. Don’t walk around acting like the whole world owes you and feeling like others are better than you. Everyone makes mistakes. You made yours. Now learn from them and become a better person. Stop comparing yourself to others because they also have their own mistakes to learn from.

 

  • Stop making excuses

Sometimes all you need to do to stop comparing yourself to others is to stop making excuses for the things going on in your life. Making excuses means avoiding responsibility but at the same time being envious of the people who do take responsibility for their lives.

Instead, be responsible for each and everything that happens in your life. Some of it will definitely be beyond your control, but have a good attitude when it happens and try to navigate through it in the best way possible. Now others will actually admire you for the way you handle things and they’ll have something to learn from you.

 

  • Help other people

Stop comparing yourself to other people and instead help them. Sometimes you are busy comparing yourself to your friend. Meanwhile, your friend is in dire need of help. If only you could see that.

Nurture healthy relationships with others and stop being envious of their lives. Remember that enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. It goes beyond self to others in service. So take the focus off yourself for a minute and give it to someone else.

 

  • Avoid people who make you feel bad about yourself

If that’s what it takes for you to stop comparing yourself to others, then so be it. Healthy relationships are vital to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, but there’s nothing healthy about being with people who make you feel less than you are and are always comparing yourself to others.

But don’t cut them off just yet. Speak to them about your concerns and ask them to refrain from doing that. If they insist on continuing to make you feel bad, then cut yourself from them.

 

  • Be productive

Sometimes we can’t stop comparing ourselves to others because we have nothing better to do with our time. If you just sit at home all day doing nothing of course you’ll have plenty of time to focus on other people lives.

So, refuse to be unproductive. Do something worthwhile with your time. There’s always something worthwhile to do. In the end, you might find that all you needed to do to stop comparing yourself to others was to be productive with your time. If you are having trouble being productive, read my 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.

 

  • Avoid the TV

I’m serious about that. I’ve realized that TV has a huge impact on how you view yourself in comparison to others. With all those celebrities and their reality shows, we are bombarded with fake lives whose fakeness we are often even not aware of. We compare our lives to the lives of these celebs and feel inadequate.

I’ve made a decision to stop watching all reality shows, ‘what I eat in a day’ videos and all the so called fitness videos.

I consider myself to be a healthy person in every aspect. But whenever I watch these videos I always find myself doubting my health in an irrational way. My eating is thrown off course whenever I watch all these ‘what I eat in a day’ videos. So I’ve made a decision to stop watching them.

Please do the same thing. There’s nothing you are missing, I promise. Be productive with your time instead.

 

  • Understand that we all have insecurities

Instead of putting others on a pedestal, realize that just like you, they have their own insecurities. Just because those insecurities are not on display for the world to see doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Things are almost never as they seem and the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

I once compared myself to someone who had a perfect life, or so I thought. Until I learned that they were battling insecurities deeper than mine. If you were to walk up to the person you envy and opened up to them, you might be surprised to learn their life is not so perfect after all.

 

The final word

We each have our own lives, so why would you want someone else’s life when you have your own? Stop comparing yourself to others now because that is a waste of the life God has given you, not to mention an insult to God who gave you that life. Embrace your own life and live it in the best way you can.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I know it resonates with everyone. So please share your thoughts with us by commenting.

 

 

 

This is what you didn’t know about meditation

Meditation is one of those things everyone is talking about today. Some have gotten the hang of it, but there are some who are still struggling with really grasping what it means and how to go about doing it. Please continue reading this post if you have any questions about meditation.

 

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What comes to your mind when you hear the word meditation?

I’m sure what you see in the picture above is what you must think of when you hear the word meditation. You associate it with this foreign thing that you known nothing of, but you know will benefit you.

Well, you’ll be happy to know that true meditation doesn’t have all those embellishments you’ve seen. You do not have to pose like the people you’ve seen on TV and in pictures. What they are trying to do, what you should aim to do if you must, is settle into a comfortable position, in a place where you know you won’t be distracted. That’s all. It’s as simple as that.

(You’ll learn below that meditation can be a lot simpler than sitting down in a quiet place, so keep reading).

 

Now, I’ve heard some people say meditation is emptying the mind for a set time in order to quieten it. That doesn’t sound like the meditation I know of, or at least meditation according to the bible, which is the truest piece of writing in existence.

The bible talks about meditation. It says time and again that we are to meditate. But not just meditate, but meditate on the word of God. That means we are to ponder the word of God, think of it, run it over and over in our minds.

That is far from emptying our minds. As children of God, we get our peace from our father’s word, and therefore dwelling in it will give us exactly the kind of peace meditation is meant to achieve.

Remember that it’s not enough to just read the word. Reading the word and then putting aside your bible is not going to help you if you don’t think about what you just read.

And you don’t think about it for the five minutes after you finish reading the bible. No, you think about it over and over again for as long as you live. That’s the only way the word will change your way of thinking so you become more and more like God and access the blessings our father has made available to us, including the peace we are all after.

 

Now, you might not agree with me when I say, we all meditate every day. Every second of every day we are pondering stuff, mulling it over, chewing on it. Each and every one of us. That’s meditation.

But get this, it’s the negative form of meditation, the bad kind. So, the truth is, we all know how to meditate. We are just meditating on the wrong stuff.

Now, here is what I meant earlier when I said meditation requires no embellishments.

When you worry, and that’s meditation, you do it whenever and wherever you are. You could be sitting in front of the TV and worrying about paying your bills. Or you could worry about it as you drive to work. You could worry about it as you take a shower. You don’t have to be sitting down in a quiet place, humming, in order to meditate.

So it is with meditating on the word of God. You can think of your scriptures as you ride the bus to school or to work, as you go about your chores. Don’t think that you can only meditate if you are sitting alone in a quiet place. Well, that’s important too, if you can do it. But know that you can meditate at any time, in any place.

 

So, how do I move forward?

OK, now that you’ve taken comfort and confidence in knowing that you already know how to meditate, it’s time to think about what you’ve been meditating on. Decide if you want to keep meditating on that. If you’ve been meditating on fear, you know that kind of meditation has brought no peace to your days, so it’s time to change that.

Achieving the meditation you want is just a matter of changing what you meditate on from bad to good, from negative to positive. Begin to think about good things all the time. Think about the fact that you are still alive. That’s something worth meditating on.

Think about the people in your life. That’s another thing worth meditating on. Count your blessings and meditate on them. Meditate on God’s love for you. You’ll begin to see different results than what you’ve been seeing while you’ve been meditating on the wrong things.

  • You’ll reap joy as you realize you have a lot to be grateful for.
  • You’ll feel God’s love.
  • You’ll extend that love to those around you.
  • You’ll reap peace that no one can understand.

 

The final word

You no longer have to worry about meditation being a foreign thing for you. Now that you know you’ve been doing it all along, and are doing it now as we speak, you can have the confidence to continue with it, this time, meditating on the good things as opposed to the bad things you’ve been pondering all along.

Don’t worry about setting aside time to meditate. We all know trying to set time to do some things can backfire on us, especially in the early stages while we’re still trying to get used to them.

That’s why you must embed meditation in your everyday activities. Then as you get more and more used to it and you’re confident it has stuck as a habit, you can set a specific time and place to do your meditation.

Enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle requires exactly that. Embedding things like meditation and exercise into our everyday duties so that we do not have an opportunity to slack on them and use lack of time as an excuse.

Do it right now. As soon as you finish reading this post, begin meditating on the good things in your life. Meditate on God’s word and access the blessings he’s made available to us, blessings we can’t be aware of unless we read his word.

 

I felt like this post had to be written, and I feel fulfilled now that I’ve shared with you what meditation really is. I feel like most of us have been robbed of the benefits of meditation because we thought we didn’t know how to do it. And we even enrolled in classes to try to learn to do it.

Well, don’t worry about classes anymore. You have the best teacher: the holy spirit. He’ll teach you everything you need to know not only about meditation but about life as a whole.

 

Please share your thoughts on this post by commenting below. Your thoughts and input are always appreciated. Thank you.

 

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Are you aware of God’s blessings for you?

Blessings. What a lovely word we all want to hear. But do you feel like you do not yet have God’s blessings? Maybe you look at everyone around you and think, “How come everyone else but me seems to be walking in God’s blessings?”

The most important thing to remember is that as a child of God, you have every right to have every blessing our father says you can have. Those blessings are there for your taking. Taking them for yourself is just a matter of stretching out your heart in faith and claiming what is rightfully yours.

 

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God loves a humble heart, but I know of a lot of Christians who’ve been led to believe that we must live a life of lack if we are to prove our humility.  That’s how they mistakenly define humility. To them it’s passiveness and lack of action.

But that is not what humility in the biblical context means. Humility simply means the willingness to submit to God in every way possible. To count his ways more important than yours. To lean on his own understanding and not on your own. The bible clearly tells us to do this in:

Proverbs 3 v 5: With all your heart you must trust the LORD and not your own judgment. (CEV)

That’s humility. But it doesn’t in any way hint on being passive and doing nothing in matters of God. In fact passiveness and inactivity are the exact opposite of humility.

Now, with your humble heart, you can receive everything the father promises us in the pages of the Holy Bible.

There are many blessings God has made available for our taking:

 

  • Healing and a sound body

1 Peter 2 v 24: He used his servant body to carry our sins to the cross so we could be rid of sin, free to live the right way. His wounds became your healing. (MSG)

Exodus 15 v 26: Then he said, “I am the LORD your God, and I cure your diseases.”

I can’t possibly outline all the healing scriptures in this post. So I’ll be back in the near future with a post dedicated solely to healing. But as a child of God, you should know healing and a sound body is one of God’s blessings for you.

 

  • Prosperity

I hope you haven’t bought into the stupid and false claim by some people that God doesn’t want us to be prosperous. Again, they wrongly attribute poverty to humility. How ridiculous is that? How can God invent prosperity and not let any of his children have it? In fact, God’s children are the rightful claimants of prosperity.

We should be more prosperous than the world. But many of us still aren’t because we have not reached out to take it in faith.

Proverbs 3 v 9-10: Honor the LORD by giving him your money and the first part of all your crops. Then you will have more grain and grapes than you will ever need. (CEV)

Proverbs 16 v 3:  Share your plans with the LORD, and you will succeed. (CEV)

Again, as with healing, there are many more scriptures on prosperity. We will address those scriptures soon. In the meantime, feast your eyes on these two, meditate on them, and realize that you are supposed to be prosperous. Prosperity is one of your many rights as a child of God.

 

  • God’s companionship 

    You are a child of God, and one of God’s blessings is his eternal companionship. He promises never to leave you. So that means wherever you go, whenever, God is always with you. That doesn’t mean you won’t go through hard times. But when you do, you can count on God’s presence. He’ll walk with you through the most difficult of trials. And if you’ll succumb to his counsel, he’ll see you through those times to victory.

God says whatever happens, don’t quit on him because he’ll never quit on you.

Hebrews 13 v 5: Since God assured us, “I’ll never let you down, never walk off and leave you.” (MSG)

 

  • A life free of condemnation

Think of all the things you’ve done wrong. Let’s not pretend. We’ve all sinned, committed huge sins. But God forgives us each time, for even the deadliest of sins. God says no sin is big enough for him not to forgive. And he says that when we come before him with our sins and confess them, and then repent, he’s faithful enough to forgive our sins, blot them out of our lives, and make us new again.

2 Corinthians 5 v 17: Anyone who belongs to Christ is a new person. The past is forgotten, and everything is new. (CEV)

God says don’t beat yourself up over your past mistakes. He’s made you so clean that you can boldly stand before people and say I am innocent, I have wronged no man.

So then, because God promises a life free of condemnation, don’t continue to condemn yourself, or let the world condemn you. If you abide in God’s word, he’ll give you the grace to sin no more, then you can boldly stand before the world and say, “I am innocent.”

 

  • Life

When we talk of a life free of condemnation, free of sickness and disease, free of lack, you might put an emphasis on the last parts of those phrases and overlook the ‘life’ part.

Notice you must have life before you can enjoy all of the above, and life is what God has promised us.

Romans 6 v 23: For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.(KJV)

If you sin, you invite death, plain as that. But if you follow God and obey him, you invite eternal life. Children of God can just reach out and claim the life that our Father has made available to us.

 

The Final word

The bible says we have everything we need in order to live a life that pleases God. If we please God, obey him, we can have every one of God’s blessings, all of them. If you’ve been deceived into think you are not to be healed or prosperous, or any of the above, then shut that down, push it completely out of your mind. Familiarize yourself with the word because all of God’s blessings are contained in his word. May you enjoy everyone of these blessings and many more. And may God’s peace and joy be with you, in Jesus name, Amen.

 

I hope you enjoy this post and become more enlightened in the matters of God. Please share some of God’s blessings that you’ve realized in your life so we may all grow. Leave your comments below. Thank you.

 

Please read these interesting principles for experiencing the blessing of God.

Also look at these uplifting verses about blessings.

Let this prayer for God’s blessing guide you.

 

 

 

 

 

A simple healthy lifestyle requires forgiveness

A simple healthy lifestyle is NOT possible until you forgive yourself and others.

I bet you never thought I’d say that, huh? You think this is too ‘deep’?

Well, many people don’t enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle because they have ‘deep’  issues they haven’t forgiven themselves for.

And because of that they can’t reach their true amazing selves because they are too busy holding grudges.

 

Two penguins kissing for a simple healthy lifestyle

 

What do I mean when I say you should forgive yourself?

I mean you should cut yourself some slack:

  • Maybe you hurt someone
  • Maybe you are in a relationship you don’t want and don’t have the guts to leave
  • Maybe you messed up a good relationship
  • Maybe you got yourself into a big debt

 

A debt sign for a simple healthy lifestyle

No matter your circumstances, you can start enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle now by forgiving yourself first.

No one is perfect. We hear that all the time. Yet we still put ourselves on a pedestal.

We are too hard on ourselves and that hinders us from enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

Because you can’t change what you did, forgive yourself, move forward and change what you can right now.

Be a better person today than you were yesterday.

 

I’ll give you my personal struggles.

  • I lost a job I should’ve held on to.
  • I got romantically involved with people I shouldn’t have gotten involved with.

I’ll just name those two among many others; I need you to see the point I’m trying to make.

I lost that job. Of course it was hard, leaving with no money and having to move back to my parents’. And I was bitter for quite a while.

But then one day I told myself I wasn’t going to be bitter anymore.

 

You might ask, what was the event that made me tell myself that at that particular moment?

The truth: No event.

One day, I was sitting alone and wallowing in my bitterness.

And then I remembered I was bigger than any challenge thrown to me because I’m a child of God most high.

I remembered James 1 saying I shouldn’t be anxious when going through trials and tribulations. They produce faith and patience in me so that ultimately I lack nothing.

I consider everything in the bible as the truth. So I used that truth to guide me from that moment forth and I haven’t looked back since.

 

A holy bible for a simple healthy lifestyle

 

The same thing happened with the relationship mistakes I made in the past. Intentional and misguided, and they made a negative impact in my life.

But I could no longer change what I had done. What I could do was use the grace God has availed to me to not repeat the same mistakes and be better.

OK, maybe your regrets are the same as mine, maybe not. The solution remains the same though.

Forgive yourself and move forward if you want to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

But forgiveness should go beyond yourself.

I’ve stressed this here before. Enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle is dependent upon you looking beyond yourself to other people.

Selflessness is a virtue that will save you.

So, forgive others just as you’d want them to forgive you. Don’t condemn others the same way you shouldn’t condemn yourself.

Most often, we look at the mistakes other people have made and we hold a grudge. We constantly remind them of the way they hurt us.

  • Maybe your spouse cheated on you.
  • Maybe your friend stole money from you
  • Maybe you were wrongly fired from your job

And many others.

The devil will have you believe you need to seek justice and make those people who wronged you pay. Believe me, that’s NOT going to restore your peace.

The best thing to do is to forgive the people who hurt you and set them free in your heart. You forgive them, regardless of whether or not you feel like they deserve it.

When you forgive them, you not only release them but you release yourself. You let go of being angry and bitter all the time, to being peaceful and calm. Now only then, can you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Think about this. You sin all the time, and yet your sins now, as well as your past sins and your future sins have already been forgiven. Not because you deserve that forgiveness, but because God’s love for you is unconditional.

So, just as God’s love for us is unconditional, so should our love for others be, no matter what they have done to us.

 

I love you message for a simple healthy lifestyle

 

2 Corinthians 2 v 7 says that when others sin, we should forgive and comfort them, so they won’t give up in despair.

And we know exactly what this verse means.

Have you ever been in a situation where you can’t get someone to trust you, no matter what you do? Maybe you promised someone something, and they think you won’t deliver, and they keep telling you that.

Instead of working hard to prove them wrong, it’s almost always easier to just break that promise. Why? Simply because the person didn’t think you’d honor your promise anyway.

We tend to confirm the identities people give us instead of proving our own identities.

A thief will continue stealing if we expect that of them. An unfaithful spouse will continue to be unfaithful because we keep reminding them that they are.

But if we remind someone who’s made a mistake that they are better and bigger than their mistake.

If we tell them that we respect and trust them to always do the right thing.

That there’s nothing they can do to make us love them less.

Then they tend to take the faith we have in them as momentum to do better.

 

The final word

So let’s build our characters the right way; by forgiving ourselves and others. Only then can we have enough peace to enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

A forgiveness message for a simple healthy lifestyle

 

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