How to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships

You can make a decision to avoid being taken advantage of in relationships right now.

Remember that a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

But if you realize that a relationship is anything but healthy, and you feel like you are being violated, then it’s time to take a step.

So how exactly do you do that?

 

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  • Have the right intentions for getting involved with other people

Your own selfish intentions about starting relationships can be the ones making it difficult for you to avoid being taken advantage of.

If you are in a relationship for money, for example, then it’s easy to succumb to abuse, as long as you get the money you are looking for.

To avoid being taken advantage of, go into your relationships based only on love  and all the other right intentions of trust, genuine companionship, honesty, etc.

 

  • Know yourself

Sometimes you can’t avoid being taken advantage of because you don’t know yourself.

You are swayed by whatever happens in the relationship, whatever the other person asks of you, however unfair.

So, know yourself and be acquainted with your own values. Only when you are clear about your values will you not allow them to be compromised.

I recommend 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

The best way to know yourself is to read the word of God. It’s the perfect mirror of who God created you to be.

2 Timothy 1 v 7: God’s spirit doesn’t make cowards out of us. The spirit gives us power, love and self-control. (CEV)

Romans 8 v 37: … in all things we have complete victory through him who loved us! (GNB)

Hebrews 2 v 8: …God has put everything under our power and has not left anything out of our power…(CEV)

There are many more verses that talk of who you are in God’s eyes. So pick up the word of God and immerse yourself in it.

Meditate on it until it is completely carved into your heart. Live by it. If you have trouble understanding the bible, then I recommend 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

Also read 10 easy tips to improve your prayer life.

 

  • Be clear about what you want

If you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then be firm about what you want. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no.

What does that mean? It simply means, don’t be ambiguous about anything. If the other person asks something of you and you don’t want to do it, then be firm in saying no.

And make sure to be vocal about what you want so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Don’t assume that will be clear to the other person. No. Clearly communicate it.

 

  • Get out of unhealthy relationships

You already know that a healthy relationship is based on love, trust, honesty, mutual respect, etc.

Any relationship that falls short of these qualities is not worth being in. So, if you are sure that there’s no hope of the relationship being redeemed, then it’s time to let go of it so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

It’s in unhealthy relationships that people are mostly taken advantage of. So, make sure all your relationships are healthy.

 

  • Be assertive in accepting correction and advice

Just because now you are clear about what you want doesn’t mean you should be stubborn.

Remember that a healthy relationship is not all about taking; you should be prepared to give as well.

So, don’t be stubborn. Sometimes your obstinacy is the only thing you need to get rid of so you can avoid being taken advantage of.

Be wise and accept correction. Don’t assume you are right every time.

But being timid and gullible is not going to help you either. Be careful about the kind of advice you get because some of it may work against you and not for you.

Learn to be assertive instead. This way, you’ll be wise enough to accept correction without being manipulated. This will definitely help you to avoid being taken advantage of.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

 

  • Don’t draw rash conclusions about the other person

Being judgmental is definitely a stumbling block when you are trying to avoid being taken advantage of.

Don’t assume the worst of the other person, or you’ll just perpetuate that assumption and actually draw out the worst in that person.

Always give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Actually, do better by thinking the best of them.

Did you know that thinking the best of a bad person can actually draw out the good in them? People act decent when we make it clear it to them that we think they are decent.

 

  • Ask questions

Sometimes all you need to do to avoid being taken advantage of is ask questions.

When the other person does something that you feel puts you at a disadvantage, then simply ask them questions without being accusatory.

You might discover the root cause of why they do the things they do. Then you can both work toward improving things so you can avoid being taken advantage of again.

If you are wondering how to go about asking questions then I suggest you read my post on 12 easy tips to become a good conversationalist.

 

  • Forgive

Yes, if you want to avoid being taken advantage of, then playing tit for tat isn’t going to help you.

If you feel that you’ve been wronged, then doing the same thing to the other person is not going to avenge you. It’s only going to make things worse by perpetuating the cycle of abuse.

So, refuse to take revenge against the other person. Instead, forgive them and move on. Don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes. Forgive them and learn to trust them again. Forgiveness heals many ills.

 

  • Accept each other just as you are

Don’t try to change the other person. This will just backfire on you. People are to be loved, not fixed.

Likewise, refuse to let the other person change you if you want to avoid being taken advantage of.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with you. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve on your behavior. But the choice to do so should be yours and not imposed on you by the other person.

 

The final word

If you want to enjoy healthy relationships as a key component of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, then you have to take the necessary measures to avoid being taken advantage of.

Follow the tips above and many other tips so you can avoid being taken advantage of. Please note that you should also use the tips above to avoid taking advantage of others.

Remember that relationships are partnerships. They are about mutual love, trust, honesty and respect, so play your role in making yours healthy.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it. What do you think of it? What are your own tips on how to avoid being taken advantage of? Please share with us by commenting.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

12 easy tips to make friends easily

If you are struggling to make friends easily, then you are reading the right post. I know many people don’t have as many friends as they’d like. But you can accomplish that immediately if you play your cards right. Read on to find out how. 

 

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You’ll remember that friendships are very important when it comes to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle. Read my post on a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships.

So make friends easily with the following tips:

 

Tip #1: Get in the word of God

If you’ve been following my blog you know the word of God is my best answer to everything. The bible is an exact mirror of what the Lord created you to be.

If you read and internalize that you were created in the image of God, then you know you are not supposed to be less than he is. So you’ll know in order to follow in your Father’s footsteps you should form only healthy relationships.

Proverbs 12 v 26: The righteous person is a guide to his friend, but the path of the wicked leads them astray. (GNB)

Proverbs 17 v 17: Friends always show their love. (GNB)

Proverbs 27 v 17: You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. (MSG)

If you need help with your bible study, read these 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.

 

Tip #2: Know what you want out of a friendship

You can’t make friends easily if you are not sure what you want out of a friendship.

This in no way implies that you should enter friendships on ulterior motives. Remember you are forming friendships so you and your friends can accompany each other on this journey of enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle.

 

Tip #3: Don’t expect too much from people

You can’t make friends easily if you expect too much from people. Approach people with little, or even better, no expectations. I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it if someone approached you for friendship with expectations.

 

Tip #4: Be clear about what you like and dislike

This is very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to be clear about what you like and dislike. Don’t be scared to let the other person know. If you think they might reject you, then that’s a positive thing because it means you and them were never compatible to begin with.

In the end you’ll be left with only those people who share your likes and dislikes, and even if they don’t, at least they are willing to respect yours. But remember to respect theirs too.

You can’t begin to know what you like and dislike if you don’t know yourself. Read this post on 6 useful tips to know yourself better.

 

Tip#5: Make sure your friendship is based on love and trust

Though you should approach people with no expectations in order to make friends easily, you should ensure that the friendship you are forming is based on love and trust, because those two virtues will make your friendship healthy and you shouldn’t settle for anything less than that.

 

  • Tip #6: Don’t act desperate

It’s the desperate people who fail to make friends easily. Don’t force yourself onto other people because you might just scare them away, and you don’t want that.

If you know yourself and are able to enjoy your own company, then you should be confident enough to look for the right friends without worrying about the passage of time.

 

  • Tip #7: Don’t be clingy

It’s the clingy people who can’t make friends easily. You don’t give the other person space when you are friends, or worse still, while you are trying to pursue them for friendship.

Remember, you are responsible for your own happiness. Don’t hang onto the other person for that.

 

  • Tip #8: Be generous

Yes, you will make friends easily if you are willing to give to them and others. Everyone loves a generous friend. A healthy friendship should be about giving and not taking.

Read my post on 8 important tips to be more generous.

 

  • Tip #9: Be positive about life

You can’t make friends easily if you are negative about life, walking around with a chip on your shoulder and making everyone around you feel bad.

Be positive about life. Be optimistic. Be hopeful. Live life with vigor and excitement. Then you’ll make friends easily because everyone will want to hang around you.

Encourage others to be positive too. Life is beautiful and that includes even the challenges we go through.

 

  • Tip#10: Try different things

Sometimes you struggle to make friends easily because you are too stuck in your routine. There’s nothing wrong with having a routine; I also have a routine that makes my life enjoyable.

But you should be flexible enough to try new things especially if you are trying to make friends. You might discover something you like and a friend to go with that.

Trying different things will let you discover some things you didn’t know about yourself. You might even uncover a hidden talent you can share with your friends. Read my post on 10 important steps to discover and develop your talent.

 

  • Tip #11: Go to the right places

This is also very important if you want to make friends easily. You have to go to the places you know potential friends are likely to be hanging out in.

But be wary of friends you make in places like strip clubs because they might not be genuine friends. Go to the park instead, or church, or the library, or the museum, the list is endless.

 

  • Tip #12: Let go of unhealthy friendships

Maybe you can’t make friends easily because all your time and energy is spent on those unhealthy friendships you are still hanging onto.

Unhealthy friendships make you love yourself less than you should. They rob you of your self esteem and position you to make more bad friends in future.

If you know the friendship has no hope of being redeemed, then let go of it so you can focus on forming healthy friendships. This way you’ll regain your love for yourself and your self esteem.

Read my post on 9 effective tips to improve your self esteem.

 

The final word

You no longer have to struggle to make friends easily. Follow the above tips and be well on your way to making friends who’ll join hands with you as you enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle.

Always remember to not lose who you are. Be firm about upholding your own values. You’ll appreciate that, and your friends will too.

 

Thank you for reading this post. I hope it was helpful. Please let us know your own tips to make friends easily.

 

You’ll also want to read:

 

10 tips to make new friends by personalexcellence.co

How to make new friends (and keep the old) as a young adult by the greatist.com