You can stop comparing yourself to others if you want to. I know because I have stopped doing that. Now I’m about to share with you how I did that in this post.
Nowadays we feel pressured to compare ourselves to everyone else. We must compare ourselves to our friends, colleagues and neighbors. Worse still, we must compare ourselves to people we don’t even know. It’s sickening, but a sad reality that we face everyday. How do you manage to escape that and steer clear of it?
- Realize that you are unique and celebrate your uniqueness
And people who say that to you are not just trying to stroke your ego. It really is true. Each of us is an original. There’s no one else like you anywhere in this world. Someone on the opposite end of the world might look like you, but they could never be you. That on it’s own is huge and should make you stop comparing yourself to others.
- Lean on the word of God.
The word of God actually has something to say about this topic and will help you to stop comparing yourself to others.
Galatians 5 v 26: That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.
The bible is the ultimate truth. It says you should stop comparing yourself to others because you are an original who has far more interesting things to do. And this is so true. Make sure you don’t have regrets later in life about wasting your time comparing yourself to others. Make your own impact in the world in the little time you have here.
The bible has plenty to say about your uniqueness, not to mention, the perfect love God has for you. So please familiarize yourself with it. If you have trouble understanding the bible, then read this post on 6 easy tips to help you understand your bible.
- Be the best you can be
As you celebrate your uniqueness, become the best you can be and this will help you to stop comparing yourself to others. What are your talents? Use them to benefit those around you. Read my 10 steps to discover and develop your talent. If you are busy being the best you can be, you have no time and no desire to compare yourself to others.
- Carve out your own life and insist on following it
If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others you must make your own life. Sometimes we feel pressured to compare ourselves to others because we are following everything they are doing.
They are following this career so we follow it too. They are married to a football star so we must find a way to do the same thing. How can we avoid comparing ourselves to others if we follow everything they are doing?
Instead, make your own life and insist on following this life. Do what you want to do. Live life on your own terms and not on anyone else’s terms. Only then can you manage to stop comparing yourself to others. Read my post: Do you have the guts to live life on your own terms?
- Make peace with every aspect of your life.
You can’t stop comparing yourself to others if you are bitter about some aspects of your life because then you’ll always be looking at the next person to see what they are doing better than you. Maybe you had 5 failed marriages. Make peace with that instead of looking at your friend and feeling bitter because she’s been married to the same man all her life.
If you committed some crime in your past and maybe went to jail for it, it’s time to forgive yourself because you’ve paid your dues. Don’t walk around acting like the whole world owes you and feeling like others are better than you. Everyone makes mistakes. You made yours. Now learn from them and become a better person. Stop comparing yourself to others because they also have their own mistakes to learn from.
- Stop making excuses
Sometimes all you need to do to stop comparing yourself to others is to stop making excuses for the things going on in your life. Making excuses means avoiding responsibility but at the same time being envious of the people who do take responsibility for their lives.
Instead, be responsible for each and everything that happens in your life. Some of it will definitely be beyond your control, but have a good attitude when it happens and try to navigate through it in the best way possible. Now others will actually admire you for the way you handle things and they’ll have something to learn from you.
- Help other people
Stop comparing yourself to other people and instead help them. Sometimes you are busy comparing yourself to your friend. Meanwhile, your friend is in dire need of help. If only you could see that.
Nurture healthy relationships with others and stop being envious of their lives. Remember that enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle requires healthy relationships. It goes beyond self to others in service. So take the focus off yourself for a minute and give it to someone else.
- Avoid people who make you feel bad about yourself
If that’s what it takes for you to stop comparing yourself to others, then so be it. Healthy relationships are vital to enjoying a simple healthy lifestyle, but there’s nothing healthy about being with people who make you feel less than you are and are always comparing yourself to others.
But don’t cut them off just yet. Speak to them about your concerns and ask them to refrain from doing that. If they insist on continuing to make you feel bad, then cut yourself from them.
- Be productive
Sometimes we can’t stop comparing ourselves to others because we have nothing better to do with our time. If you just sit at home all day doing nothing of course you’ll have plenty of time to focus on other people lives.
So, refuse to be unproductive. Do something worthwhile with your time. There’s always something worthwhile to do. In the end, you might find that all you needed to do to stop comparing yourself to others was to be productive with your time. If you are having trouble being productive, read my 8 effective but simple strategies to be productive.
- Avoid the TV
I’m serious about that. I’ve realized that TV has a huge impact on how you view yourself in comparison to others. With all those celebrities and their reality shows, we are bombarded with fake lives whose fakeness we are often even not aware of. We compare our lives to the lives of these celebs and feel inadequate.
I’ve made a decision to stop watching all reality shows, ‘what I eat in a day’ videos and all the so called fitness videos.
I consider myself to be a healthy person in every aspect. But whenever I watch these videos I always find myself doubting my health in an irrational way. My eating is thrown off course whenever I watch all these ‘what I eat in a day’ videos. So I’ve made a decision to stop watching them.
Please do the same thing. There’s nothing you are missing, I promise. Be productive with your time instead.
- Understand that we all have insecurities
Instead of putting others on a pedestal, realize that just like you, they have their own insecurities. Just because those insecurities are not on display for the world to see doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Things are almost never as they seem and the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
I once compared myself to someone who had a perfect life, or so I thought. Until I learned that they were battling insecurities deeper than mine. If you were to walk up to the person you envy and opened up to them, you might be surprised to learn their life is not so perfect after all.
The final word
We each have our own lives, so why would you want someone else’s life when you have your own? Stop comparing yourself to others now because that is a waste of the life God has given you, not to mention an insult to God who gave you that life. Embrace your own life and live it in the best way you can.
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